Baby Due in 1 Month-would like to Use Same Name as Friends Just Named Their Baby

I agree with others who say, use the name. If you were close family or close friends it would be different; or if it were a highly unusual name that seemed like you "copied". Name patterns come and go... I don't that either of you will have the only child in class with that name. If you love it, I'd go ahead and name her what you want... Congratulations!

If you saw them every week, that would be one thing. But a few times a year, and if you're not in the same social circles for child mingling or anything, I wouldn't worry about it.

i have cousins with my same name. I dont see why it would matter my cousins both had daughter 1 year apart and used the same names spelled slightly diferently but pronounced the same.

When we were expecting our 4th, we found out it was a boy... (that was before the gender ultrasounds were so popular... he is now 20). Anyway, I asked hubby what names he liked, and he mentioned N****** and P*****, but then lamented that we probably shouldn't name him either of those, since our neighbor's son (probably 7 at the time) was named N********, and our good friend's son (age 10) was named P******.

I didn't think that would be a problem, since the boys were so much older than our son, and we decided to go with N********* P******.... (N********* was a family name, and my hubby's middle name, so that is one reason we were wanting that name.)

As it was, the day before N******** was born, we got the news that hubby was being transferred from Iowa to Texas! (We moved when our son was was 6 months old...)

My point is..... you don't see these friends that often, so don't feel that you can't use that name, also..... there is no telling WHERE you will end up in a few years, anyway!

I see know reason why you can't use the name. At least with my older kids I have a lot of friends with kids with the same name, there were a couple kids in the class with the same name. Heck every one of my cousins have a Christine for one of their daughters.

If they aren't close and your conversations are going to get confused by which one you are talking about very often, then name your baby whatever you want! If it was your bff, then no, I would pick a different name. Remember that the name you pick may not be the name your baby ends up with either; my dd's name wasn't even on my list until I took one look at her in the operating room and said Hi, Maggie! so, you never know. But, the same name is fine for distant special occasion friends no problem! Don't even have to tell them ahead of time either.

If it was your BFF, I would tell you to pick a different name, but it sounds like they are kind of just people you know & hang out with very occasionally. I say, use the name!

Name your baby whatever feels right to you. There are millions of people in the world and tons of people have the same name. If you feel this name is right for your baby---go for it! I can guarantee you will regret it if you don't name your baby the name that you really want to name him/her. Best wishes and congratulations!

Use it...I had a pretty close friend use the same name as my son and it was not an issue at all.

Please don't feel like once a friend or acquaintence uses a name it is off limits to you. Do you really want to, for the rest of your lives, be wishing your named her A versus B? It is totally kosher to use the same name, and you don't owe them any heads up.

Use the name you want to use. It doesn't matter if someone else is using it. There is no copyright on names.

I was on the other side of the situation. My husband's friend and his wife had a child a couple years before we did, but we already had a name picked out for our future son (if we ever had one) as it was sentimental to our family. So this other couple wanted the same name. I guess my husband told them about our name, and evidently they obliged and "let us" have the name. I thought that was nice of them, but completely unnecessary. I was suprised they didn't just name their son whatever they wanted.

Absolutely use the name. It's not rude. If they ever say anything, just explain that you had chosen that name long before their child was born, and didn't want to change it. It's your right to give your child any name you want.

My middle child has the same name as my cousin's son. My cousin lives on the other side of the country, and my son has never met his son. I loved the name and didn't want to give it up just because another family member had used it.

Use the name. Congratulate them on their new babies and say "we love that name! it's at the top of our list." it doesn't sound like you are close enough at all for it to matter.

Use the name. If they get upset, they'll get over it.

If they are more distant friends I would simply say something like - wow we were planning on naming Serah Beth too if we had a girl. How fun would that be with the girls at our next picnic? Gague their reaction and make a choice then. Honestly, if these were friends you were constantly around I think it would be annoying to have two kids growing up together with the same darn name - esp the same age. Personally, if someone close to me were to use my son's name I might be annoyed, mostly because my son is named after two influencial people in his parent's lives.

I actually had the same problem. I'd chosen a name LONG before I had a child & NEVER mentioned it to anyone, just kept it to myself & what do ya know, my sister had a child before I did & she actually named HER child the SAME exact name I chose, just a different spelling. I couldn't believe it. I ended up using a different name as it'd be confusing & plus, many of our relatives have the same or similar names so I figured it'd be best to go w/something else.

For your situation, IMO, I would name your baby whichever name you want to. It shouldn't matter to your friend if it's the same name. You really shouldn't have to explain your decisions to your friends either but if you do choose the same name & they do ask, just explain that "Oh we actually had chosen that name long before you named your baby, we just didn't mention it b/c we didn't want to spoil your special day" or something like that, it at least will let them know you're not "copying" off them & don't mean to make them feel weird about wanting the same name but that you just happened to like the same name. If that's the name you both like, then use it! You could also just ask your friend & say "Hey, I know you chose this name for your baby but coincidentally, we actually chose the same name & still want to go w/it. Would you feel weird if we still went with the same name for our baby?" perhaps that will help you too. Good luck!!

A friend of mine just had a baby girl and named her Lillie...she also has friends with a 3 year old named Lilly. The Lilly family loves that they used the same name...and Lilly LOVES to show off little Lillie :). Confusing? Haha...but I think it's totaly fine!

When I was preggo with my first we really liked the name Karlee. I do have a cousin named Carly who was 5 but she lived in TX and at that point I had never met her. I actually had not seen my uncle in about 8 years. (I have always lived in CA). But I did want to let him know what we intended to do. So I had a chat with him on the phone and let him know that we really liked a name that I KNEW he liked. he went through all of his kids' names (he has 8) and thought that it was neat. But he did appreciate that I asked/told him instead of just doing so. I know they are not family so I dont think you need permission but a little warning is nice and courteous. And when we do get together with them (like maybe 1x per year) we just call them California Karlee and Texas Carly. =0)

We had a similar situation. We went up to the couple and said, "We love your little girls name. It's one we have thought about using before. We aren't sure if we will go with it, but would you mind if we did?" They were more than happy to share the name! We ended up not using the name though. Now SOME people WILL get offended... but really, they aren't your family and it's not like the kids are going to be growing up together much or anything. I say go for it if you really love the name.

No one has ownership rights to baby names. It won't be rude or hurtful if you happen to use the same name they do, and it probably won't be as confusing as you think it'll be at the few events you'll attend together if the events are child-free or if you use different nicknames.

That said, we did mention our favorite girls name to my husband's eldest sister and she liked it so much she used it before we could. Oh well. I didn't want first cousins who would see each other all the time to share a name, so we did choose a different name, but that's just us. We ended up finding a name we loved even more. And then had two more girls and had to go through the whole thing all over again. :-)

i dont see the harm in it honestly but if you are worried about it next time you talk to them just mention that that name has been on your mind for quite a while... when my son was born just over 4 years ago the woman down the street seen me walking him at a week old and she was due in 2 days... i told her my sons name (parker)and also told her if i ever had another boy it would be Jaxon... at the time she had already picked out a name for her son but when i said jaxon for my next son (if it was so) she smiled and almost acted like she didnt like it.... 4 days later i found out she named her baby jaxon the day after her and i had the convo... i wasnt offended i was a lil happy i was able to give her a great idea on a great name (we are not close friends) our boys play together now bother being four and i will use the name jaxon if it comes to the point i get to have another boy... we joke about it now and its really no big deal...

my best friends stole the name ive wanted to a lil girl since i was a kid (and ive known them that long) we see eachother often but if i have a girl i will most likely not use the name now just simple because we see each other weekly and do zoo trips and things to that nature on a regular basis... i will always love the name Emma but they got it first and no hard feelings... if i have a girl im sure i will find a name just as great if not better....

but to you? i say USE THE NAME... no one has claims on a name and you dont spend much time with them they never met your existing son so i dont see the issue... good luck and enjoy the new baby

would be great to know the name you were thinkin of :)

kimmie

Some people get upset over this, but I really don't see the problem. If you hardly see them and the kids don't mingle, I really don't see a problem. It doesn't sound like it would hurt much if they went away. Go for it.

I did try not to reuse any names within our family, which is really big. Two years later I met my cousin's daughter who shared the same name as my daughter. The girls thought it was so wonderful.

What you should have done is said something when they told you. Like...oh, that's a great/beautiful name - we are thinking of that name for ours if it's a (girl/boy). You can still let them know and I think you should. If they have a problem with that, then they are petty and I wouldn't worry about it.

I am not in the majority here, but that's ok. Personally I would be really annoyed. Here is my reason why: I grew up with the most popular name given to girls in my age group. I grew up with (and still have the name) J.. Super annoying. If you have ever heard the song "27 J.'s" it was almost like that for me in school, except there were probably only about 15. I did a LOT of research to be sure that neither of my kids had to live with 15 other kids in there class with the same name. I took time and effort in finding the names that I loved and that worked for our family and that weren't exactly used every day. So when I tell someone my children's names and they say something like "oh that's pretty/cute/unusual I will have to tell my pregnant friend/sister about that one" I cringe a little.

I wouldn't worry about! If I have a girl next her name is going to Elizabeth, and I decided that 15 years ago as a teenager. My cousin just had a duaghter last year and named her Elizabeth, not knowing that it is "MY" girl name, so hopefully one day we will have two beautiful girls with the same name to play together. I also don't see this cousin often, like twice in the last five years.

You had the name picked out before they announced their baby names. That happens. I don't think that should matter. My husband has guy friends who have sons just about the same age (monthsof each other) that ended up with the same name. If you like the girl name you shouldn't have to pick something else. The only problem I would see is, if it is a very unusual name, or a name that they "made up", they may be upset with you using it then. Some people have baby names picked out before they ever get pregnant. I knew what my first daughter's name was going to be before I ever met my husband! :)

I don't think it matters, just maybe mention it to the other mom that it was on your list too. If you don't see each other often it should be okay, and my dd has a best buddy with the same name, they have different nicknames. As long as its not an uncommon name, there will be other kids in their school, etc with the same name!