Baby Cries for Hubby

try putting a shirt you've worn and haven't washed on your husband. like over his shoulder or even on him if it will fit. It may just be your smell. Or you can try to get a blanket and sleep with it over your pillow so it smells like your hair and leave it with your husband when you go.

Hi S.,
Your two month old is very attached to you as his source of comfort, nurturing and food. He associates your smell, touch, your voice with comfort. Making the adjustment to another person is necessary but frightning. My thought is give your hubby tips on soothing things you do. Let him know of the general routine you use when you are absent. And leave your smell behind. Have hubby through your night gown or tee shirt over his shoulder when he's carring Luke around. That's the best you can do. He still may have a fussy time but he will have a expected routine and your smell as tools to comfort himself. Eventually he will learn daddy's way too.

Best of luck,
B.

my son, now 16 mo. was home with me all day and then when Dad came home and it was finally my turn to shower or watched him on the weekends for my grocery store run I could hear our then one month old cry uncontrollably. I would stress so bad that I would rush to get my shower and get dinner on just to get back to him so he would stop. By then my husband would be broke out in a sweat. This went on for about the first 3 month. After that he was very excited to hear my husbands voice when he would come home.

I think it's when they sense a different person is with them that they are normally not with day in and day out. Once they are able to focus better and be more aware of their surroundings the daddy's become very familiar, especially their voices and smell. Hang in there, it won't last forever!

If you are a sahm and your hubby is not then it is probably a phase. They especially go through this phase if you are in charge of the brunt of the care even in the evenings or are breastfeeding. All of my kids went through it around the same time and to different degrees, for my bottlefed she just didn't want my husband when she was sleepy or going to bed, for my 2nd who was breastfed I didnt even have to leave just him be holding her and she would scream for me. My 3rd was breastfed and would tolerate my husband for short times but couldn't be left with him at that age b/c she would scream about going to bed and want mommy back quickly b/c she refused teh bottle. But thankfully it does not last long, keep trying.

I can understand. My second child, our son, is 5 months. My husband has had a very difficult time soothing him when he cries. My son is an extremely easy baby, so it is really hard on my husband that he can't calm him. I go out for coffee here and there and my son always ends up having a long crying spell when I'm gone.
We have a 3 yr. daughter who had colic...but my husband could calm her.
I think now it's a confidence thing. Since my husband couldn't calm him in the early days, he isn't real confident trying to calm him now. I believe Spencer senses those nerves.
But, with practice...it can happen. I think the best thing is for the dads to get practice soothing them while we are home. I rush in to quick...or he gives up too easily.

The only thing I could think of is does or has your husband spent much time with him alone in those two short months? Did you just go back to work? Maybe he's just confused because he's used to his mama being there and doing things for him. I'm sure in time he'll not only get used to dad but love his time with him and (like my little one) laugh harder and smile bigger for dad than anyone else!
Good luck!
J.

Wow I feel for you, my daughter, who is now 9, would not let anyone hold her, feed her, anything except for me. My son(who is 18 now) was totally opposite, he was so laid back. However the 2nd child was sometimes so demanding of me that I was overwhelmed. I asked my doctor for advice and she said that my daughter was just more bonded to me, and felt extremely secure when I cared for her. She suggested leaving her in the care of someone else for shorter periods of time, (20 minutes) allowing someone else to feed her(I always did this when I knew she needed a bottle or to be fed) It took about a month before she would calm down, but she did build trust with her father and grandmother as well as others. It was hard on me and her father, but I just reassured him that it wasn't him that was the problem.

Goodluck, don't fret my daughter is now an unbelievable independent, confident child.

S.,

It's perfectly "normal" for a 2 month old to cry for his mother. It has nothing to do with your husband's parenting skills. I suggest taking the baby with you when possible. A baby sling can be a life-saver. Otherwise, keep your outings very short. In time your son will be comfortable with just dad. My son, who is now 3, seemed permanently attached to my hip until he was about 18 months old. Then, he began to enjoy a little "daddy time." My daughter, on the other hand, started staying with daddy a few hours by the time she was 7 months old. I'm glad you have such an attached family. Keep up the good work!

B.

you know the commercial with the dad who is sitting while mom is out and the baby continues to cry, so the dad gets on the computer and pulls up a picture of the mom and has the baby in his lap to see. Try having your hubby show a pic of you to the baby and see if it helps.....or the commercial with the mcdonalds arch and the baby in the swing on the front porch who when he swings back he cant see the arch no more and when he swings forward he sees the arch. sounds crazy, but it might help.

Hi S.. My son Kameron used to cry when he stayed with his dad. He was older than your son at that time, but he still cried. What you need to find out, is how is your husband handling the crying while you are gone. Does he get frustrated with him and then call you to come home? What does he do? Mother's usually know why their child is crying. Father's don't have that natural instict. Make sure before you leave the house, that your husband knows all the things to do with your son, while you are away. It needs to be like you never left at all. Give him your mommy advice without making it seem like your are questioning his daddy skills. All children are different and act differently for each parent. Give him all the things he needs to get him by while you are away. Try this and see if it works. If it does, write back and let me know. Hope this advice helps.

A.
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your baby is simply crying because he is not you. You carried the baby all that time. It has only been 2 months since he has been born. I think you might try more trips away, maybe shorter. Be sure that dad has something to offer that is equally soothing as you. Try music. Yanni, Windham Hills, Vince madison, etc....stick with the same CD for awhile, and the baby will learn that daddy time always offers relaxing soothing times too. Amber had a lot of good advice!! Good luck.

I agree with another respondent that mentioned anxiety. My son is VERY receptive to anxiety. If my husband is at all stressed out, or anxious it sets my son off. Try relaxing together, cuddling up with your son between you a few times, then having your husband cuddle with you close by, etc. Also, have your hubby hold the little one when the baby is upset, and soothe the baby up close (but still in hubby's arms) and try to build that trust. Let your hubby and baby know that you trust they can will get past this!