Baby #2 - Sherman Oaks,CA

Congrats!

To me, I think a second shower for either gender is inappropriate. Especially if the first baby is only 3. If it were me, would kindly decline the offer.

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What is a sprinkle shower?

Have a shower!! Even if you just need L. things, like new washclothes, pacifiers, burp rags, etc. Definitely have a diaper raffle! Have a baby shower, you deserve a party for making a new life!

I think sprinkle showers are such cute ideas...if for no other reason than getting together and celebrating the miracle of it all! I'd just let your mil plan it - you're busy making a baby :)

We are also haveing baby number two it's another boy. My oldest just turned three. My SIL is throwing us a diapers, wipes and books "shower". We really don't need anything since baby boy 2 will be born about a month after oldest bday so all the clothes ect will work. Maybe suggest a diaper, wipes shower to her if she really want's to do something for yall. We are having it before the baby is born since we are in the height of cold and flu season and I would not want a bunch of people around a newborn after the birth.

I think the semantics about whether it's a "shower" or a "sprinkle" are ridiculous. I'd say any event that someone wants to throw for you that celebrates your new child is something you should embrace, be gracious about and show up happily as the honoree! If you don't want any big gifts, encourage your MIL to guide the guests towards diapers, wipes, gift cards, or gosh - something for you - spa gift cards, babysitting offers, seem awfully generous and always befitting a new mom! If you're picky about what you do want to receive, then DO register somewhere so you at least get some onesies & toys that you like.
You might think that you're covered in terms of baby gear, but every baby deserves to be celebrated. And if you want to keep it low key, and more of an adult-friendly party, then guide your MIL in keeping the guest list pared down, and the food/drink more sophisticated than all about baby rattles and baby games.

I don't know what a sprinkle shower is but when I was pregnant with my second baby (a girl, the first was a boy) my sister gave me a tea party with maybe 10 - 12 close friends and relatives. She stated I was having a girl in the invite. They were just three years apart so mostly I was given consumable items like clothes, diapers, wipes, etc. since I had all the big baby stuff like a stroller, swing, crib, bassinette, car seat, etc.

Go ahead and have your 2nd shower, or sprinkle, or gathering, or whatever you may call it. Whether it's a boy or a girl. Celebrate!

As far as terms, I think a "shower" = gift registry, and the expectation that the guests "shower" a new mom with all the necessarry items to take care of baby. A "sprinkle" means no gift registry and a sprinkling of gifts- necessities like diapers and wipes, and some new outfits.

For 2nd child, especially same gender, I think you have to go the sprinkle route... although thats really just a name, I think the point is you keep it more low key and don't put together a registry this time. Doesn't really matter what you call it.

For my second child, same gender, my sisters threw a sprinkle. Basically, it was just my aunts and girl cousins. I didn't invite all the family friends, or in-laws (obviously my MIL and SIL though). Still a fun, festive celebration and a way to get excited about the new baby. It's nice to have some new stuff just for the second one. And people gave me homemade things for the first baby, it was lovely to get some special homemade things for the 2nd baby too.

I'm one of those people that thinks every baby deserves a shower or something. As long as you are not obnoxious about the gifts (like, creating another registry) then I think it's all good.