T.M.
I can't say that I know exactly what you are going through but I can say that I know where you are coming from. I am 23 now and have been with my husband since I was 17. When I had my first son in 2002 I was only 19. We argued ALL the time and over what seemed to be the smallest of things. My family kept telling me that I would be better off but like you I had a gut feeling that things would get better. I started writing down things that we would argue over and it seemed to be the same stuff over and over. I learned to pick my battles, the issues that were really important to me, that seemed to help a little. Then, finally I told him that things had to change and if he wanted to also, I wanted to change them together. I broke out my list and we talked about what each other were feeling about these issues. We both had to make some comprimises but it was a 2 way street and we worked through it together. We still argue, who doesn't, but we know how to handle it now and that is together. All I really need to say is TALK, TALK, TALK. You have to know exactly how each other feels to get over any bump in the road because if you bottle things up, it is just going to explode eventually into a big mess that can't be cleaned up.