You are so blessed to have three amazing children. Arguing is a part of growing up. It allows for kids to set their boundaries and it opens up the communication. Kids fight that is what makes them strong. (Now if they were hitting each other you would have to intervene). When my sister and I (we are 3.5 years apart and I am now 38) were young, we argued every minute A LOT. We shared a room so there was a lot of time for it! LOL. I brok her arm once, she gave me numerous concussions. But you know what, because of her and my relationship, I am a strong women who knows my boundaries. I know what I want and don't want out of friendships and relationships. I know how important it is to stand up for myself (even when I am the "little guy"). I am better because of it.
My mom used to say things like, "oh aren't you two cute, well if there's blood, just clean it up!" Or "if anyone dies, just hide the body" Or my particular favourite, "If you ain't bledding or dying don't come crying to me!". We learned to deal with it ourselves. And we did quite well.
I was a school teacher of junior high for 10 years, i used the same tactics on my students. They need to know that they are in control to make their own decsions (unless like I said it involves physical violence.)
Let them grow and learn from each other, they are only young for a few years. They will out grow it, i promise you.
B.
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