Hi T.,
Yes, honey that is usually the way of it at first. First of all, are you booby feeding your baby? If so, that is even more so that they act this way. Your baby basically does 4 things, cry, eat, poop and pee. If you are providing him w/those 4 basic needs and love, hugs and kisses and you are fortunate to be a SAHM, then the baby is practically w/you 24/7. The baby needs you and dh's feel that sometimes they are inadequate since they can't really feed them (unless you bottle feed) and hold them correctly and all the other things that go along w/a new born baby.
Sometimes during this time, it is not that men don't help out, they just feel sometimes that they are in the way and that we can do everything so much better than they can (we can too!), but it would be nice for some help. Continue to ask him for it and praise him when he does a good job. I think w/babies being so small and our dh's being so big, (mine is 6'2) they sometimes feel they might drop the baby or might hug them too tight. As babies get older and we have a set schedule for them, dh's usually start to become more involved when they know how to do all that we do by just taking care of the baby.
Sometimes that is all they can do. My son is 4 years of age and most of my friends husbands; it is all they can do to take care of the kids. It is hard to expect them to do anything else, so I am more lenient w/them as long as my son is not bleeding, has a broken bone and at least has been fed, bathe and clothed when I return home from my dh watching him.
He will get better at it, I promise. It takes time for them, so be patient. Asking him to help you is your best bet right now. Sometimes helping you around the house and picking is a bigger help. It is so funny that they expect us to do dinner, laundry, grocery shopping, bills, etc and all of that and take care of the baby and when we leave them for an afternoon, all they can manage is to take care of the kids!! We are supermoms, LOL...so that is just the way it is.
Good Luck!
Gladys