Annoying and Harrassing Nighbors the Grinch Who Dont like Kids

My advice is two fold: First, Kill her with kindness. I, too, had neighbor like that. She didn't go as far as calling the county, but we were harassed on a daily basis. So I started speaking to her to when I ran into her. Nothing much, just a hello, how are you. I also gave her baked goods whenever I baked. My husband offered to help her with her computer, and my daughter would color her pictures that we left on her stoop in pretty homemade cards. She didn't know what to think about me or my family. She's backed off and now we no longer have a problem w/ her. She's actually one of our best neighbors now. :-)
Failing that, document every time she harasses you or your family. Keep a journal by the front door and write it down. Be sure to put dates and times. If she calls the officials on you, write that down as well. (Make sure to get copies of the incident reports!) After a few months or when the journal is full, take her to civil court and sue. If you can, try to get the incidents on video tape. Video surveillance is relatively cheap now. It doesn't take anything to pop a camera in the front window or some other place where you can monitor your property. You have a right not to be harassed. CPS won't tell you who called, but they do keep records. Too many false reports and she will eventually hang herself with them, if she is leaving her name, if not, by your documenting the incidents, I'm sure you can reasonably prove that she's the one doing it.
I wish you luck and hope you go with option one and that it works. She may just be lonely, jealous, and not know how to reach out to people.

That is a really tough situation to be in. Being kind to her is one way to maybe try to mend the relationship. If you want to make a friend out of an enemy (win-win), you may want to try to sit down with her and find out why she is behaving the way she is. Like the other ladies wrote, it may be something medical, etc or maybe you will find out that she is just a bitter person. Since you say that this is your home, and I imagine you have no intention of moving, then you'll have to deal with this and find a way to make this a better situation. Confrontation is never fun but you never know... you might end up in a great relationship with her.

go out of your way to be nice to her.do little things.she may use this as a way of socializing and doesnt mean any harm.she sounds like she is mad at the world with a huge chip on her shoulders.kindness to the point of making her embarrassed would help.some people are just that way cuz they dont know how to properly socialize with people or have been so hurt that a little tlc will go a long way.K.

I would just ask her politely but to the point "what's the problem". you could also put up a privacy fence, she can't watch if she can't see. it'll be chepaer than a lawyer & court costs. if nothing works you can always sue for harrassment & mental anguish. but i would try to talk things out first. good luck & God be with you.

YOU should not be the one to have to move or even consider it! You are in a family home and I am guessing but I assume that this is not a retirement area and that there are other children.

Are you the only one she harasses? Does anyone come to visit her? Perhaps she is just a lonely bitter person. I go for the lawyer and letter idea.

You don't mention what king of dog - is it indoor or outdoor? Have you spoken with her? Bake something take it over and have a chat. See if you can come to an agreement. I will say this if she keeps calling the police with complaints they will eventually tell her they are tired of her. I am sure with all you have said you make sure your children are not on her property.

You are in a tough situation and I by no means as other comments I have seen believe you are ignoring that you are really bothering her.

She may have a medical issue or I believe just a bitter lonely person. See if you and your kids can correct that.

I cant imagine going through that day after day! I think if it were me, I would act like it didnt bother me in the least. Smile and wave to her. Let her know it doesnt bother you and the more she doesnt get a response, the less she will continue to do it. Its like dealing with a child. The last thing you need to do is stoop to her level and be a poor example for your children. If she does something that is worth calling the police, definately do that and also log everything that happens with dates so you have it. Keep smiling! It wont last for ever believe it or not. She might just be lonely and looking for attention. It will get better!!

Here is what I suggest:
Be calm about it.
Be polite and that is all.
If she says anything negative or inappropriate, walk away.
Teach your children to do the same.
Get caller ID on your phone.
Write down anything or anytime she says or does anything inappropriate...note the date and time and circumstances.
It is important to keep a written record of her behavior.
Be kind if possible.
Smile at her if possible.
In other words, do not sink to her level.
Hope this helps.

P.,
This probably not what you want to hear but have you
hear the saying "Kill them with kindness" but maybe next
time you bake cookies give some to her, she may just put
them in the trash, but if you do nice things for her long
enough, she could just turn in to one of the best neighbor
you have ever had. It could also be that she is lonely
and that is her way of getting attention. I know it will be
hard to be nice to her, but if might be worth it in the long
run. Hope I helped you out some.

K.

#1 get a restraining order against her for the harrassment ,
# 2 put up a nice high fence to protect your animal and your children.
#3 you could offer to buy her out and rid her of the nieghborhood.
Some folks just have to be mean, but she could have a medical problem that she doesn't know about like diabetes, I got real mean when I turned diabetic and sought out a Dr. we also had my thyroid checked.I got my sugar under control and I was fine. It happened to a elderly lady I knew, she suddenly became mean and hateful , then she finally went to a doctor and turned back into a sweet heart.
Some folks just don't understand they sow what they reap. Kill her with kindness and if that doesn't work maybe you just need to have a nieghborhood meeting and see who else is being effected by her meaness.Then work together to fix the problem.
Good Luck.

I know this cost some money and you shouldn't have to do it but put up a fence that she cant see everything that you are doing. Make sure you see what your laws are about where you can put it and all but that is a good idea. then she can't watch everything. Talk to a Lawyer and see if there is anything that you can do about all the harassment. Document everything. Good luck to you.

get together w/other neighbors,and talk i am sure if she is like that w/u she is like that w/some of the other neighbors. u know what they say "miseary can't live alone" if u don't have a fence try and put one up. I'm sorry for what u are going through.

Besides moving, I don't know what else you can do. If your children are being verbally abused or harmed in any way, by all means call the police. It sounds like you could get into an escalating situation, though, with both of you calling the police on each other. Maybe you need to get a lawyer. Calling children's services on you with no basis is serious, and maybe if she continues all of this harrassment you could file a lawsuit. Keep a written record of every incident, with the date and what was said or done. Note any witnesses to the situation. Make sure you are obeying all laws as far as making sure your dog is not barking past the allowed time at night or past the allowed length and that your kids are in by curfew, if there is one. Try to be courteous toward her when you talk to her. Don't get into shouting matches. Ignore her as much as possible. Good luck!

Perhaps your dog and children are legitimately aggravating to her? Do you let your dogs bark and run around unsupervised? Are your children loud or foul mouthed or rude when they are outside? Do your children harass her or go on her property? Is this woman really just being horrible to you or is she just trying to live in peace and quiet and your family is disrupting her?

We have a couple with several children and dogs that live near us and everyone in the neighborhood complains about them. Their children do not play well with others, they swear, run around in the street. My husband has told them not to come on our property because they are so rude and misbehaved. We called the police on them one evening when they were setting off fireworks in the middle of the street which blocked off traffic on our road. In addition, their dogs are constantly barking and running around outside. Maybe look at your own actions and make sure you are being a good neighbor. Have a talk with your kids and honestly assess whether or not they are doing anything to provoke the neighbor's anger. Your neighbor has a right to live peacefully too.