Dear H.,
Your husband calls everyday and sees his children several times a week. That's a good start. You just had a baby and now have been left alone with two small children. What is he doing for you?
Perhaps you are leaving the only home your children have ever known, which will cause additional anxiety for ALL of you. If this is not your first choice, is there anyway you can stay? (At least for a few months while everyone adjusts to this new situation).
Have you or your husband done the “unthinkable”? Gone to someone else? Committed a crime? Become abusive in ANY way? Your baby is only six months old, could it be love is very wounded but not completely dead?
If you children saw animated arguments or heard a lot of fighting, shouting (screaming) between you and your husband, that may be part of the behavior problems your daughter is now exhibiting. If you are crying a lot and are visibly depressed, (which is perfectly understandable), both kids will pick up on it. So while it may be difficult, I would try to maintain a normal routine. I’m not suggesting you must be all smiles all the time, because I know you can’t.
Many people (regular and experts) will say the welfare of your children is the most important thing. Some people will tell you that taking care of yourself is the most important thing. (While I believe you can’t take care of others until you take care of yourself, I DO NOT subscribes to the ME FIRST theory).
I believe that taking care of the WHOLE family is the most important thing. So lastly H., before you call it a day with your marriage, please try again. Both you and your husband should consider each other and your children. Pray and meditate for a long time before you do this.
I know you have already done this, maybe more then once. It’s OK, try it again.
God bless and hold your family in his arms.
P.S.
Those of you who are offended by the mention of God and church, please know I mean NO offense. I sometimes find myself being offended by the Godless and unchurched, because there is so much sorrow, hatred, and unhappiness in this world. This will not keep me from caring about all mankind.