Having trouble finding a good daycare in Channahon, IL area. My daughter is almost 5 months old and we are on our 3rd daycare. the second one worked out wonderfully but she had to quite...we just started today with a new lady who is wonderful but my daughter cried most of the morning and wouldnt eat for her very well. I feel horrible saying this but she is hispanic and everytime my baby sees a hispanic person or is approached by a hispanic individual, she cries...i am not sure if that has something to do with it or not.
she is doing much better, she poked a tooth through last night and I am still sending her to this daycare. I chose this woman because she was wonderful with the other kids at the home and my daughter seemed to like her when we interviewed. we interviewed twice with her and one of the reasons i did choose her is because of the exposure to a different ethnicity for my child. I have no issues with the ethnicity, my best friend and my child's god mother is hispanic and i work for the spanish translation office at a courthouse.....we pulled her out the first time because it was NOT a good situation which was agreed upon by myself, her father and our doctor and the second daycare provider quite...completely. but thank you all for your concern
I hope you don't take this the wrong way but 3 daycares in 5 months is a lot on a baby.
At 5 months, they can begin to show separation anxiety from their parents. You have to give her time to adjust. It's perfectly normal behavior that you can help by easing your mind and letting her feel you relaxed when you drop her off.
If her new provider is meeting her needs on a physical, development and emotion level than she will be fine.
I'm rather confused. You are thinking maybe she is uncomfortable with hispanic people, and yet you picked her. You are worried because she's crying ONE DAY? What flimsy excuse did you give for quitting the first provider? Your way of thinking is way off base. The time to make a proper and PERSONAL decision about a provider is BEFORE you choose the place. I don't think race should be a factor unless there is a language barrier between you and this provider. But if you want race to be a factor, why choose her and then blame her because she can't snap her finger and undo the damage you have done? 3 care situations in 5 months is just plain wrong and damaging and you'll have a difficult time with this child in the next few months because she's just reaching the separation anxiety phase and will be in it even worse over the next few months. Now you can add way more fear to an already anxiety filled time.
I see this ALL the time. Way too many people base their decisions about daycare on price first, location 2nd, and qualifications hardly enter into the scenario.
Is it possible that you are feeling guilty about having to put baby into daycare and so you are finding reasons for each daycare to not be the right one?
I have a neighbor that sent her baby to the neighborhood sitter. He was on medicine for something. He was there for a day. He was due for his medicine around 10a, but the sitter didn't give it to him until lunchtime. The mom got mad and pulled him out of the daycare declaring that 'its obvious that I'll just have to quit work and care for him myself'. and that's what she did.
Mind you, there is nothing wrong with that decision, but she was LOOKING for any reason she could find to validate her decision to her hubby, without her having to come out and tell her hubby that she just wanted to stay home with the baby.
M.
It is normal for your baby to fuss and cry and refuse food at the beginning of a new care relationship. She will probably do it no matter where you take her or what the ethnic oriigin of the caregiver.
Give your child a chance to adjust. If in two weeks she's miserable then think about switching.
And be sure you are not projecting your feelings on to her when you say she fusses around hispanic individuals. If in the unlikely event that she is reacting badly to folks of that particular ethnic background then it is probably a good idea to let her stay there so that she can see that they are as good as anyone else.
If you just started with the 3rd daycare and you feel comfortable with having your daughter there (all her needs meet, taken care off, attention and so on) then I would give it a week or two and see if your daughter has adjusted. A child any age needs time to adjust, give it time and having interaction with a different ethnicity is a great thing and encourage it so she gets use to others.
My daughter is 4 years old and even though both sides of the family are all caucasian she interacts weekly and almost daily with other ethnicity and it is amazing how she recognizes different facial features or color of skin but that is it, we are all Americans. We never make a big deal about different ethnicity (which kids can pick up if you point it out, even read your level of comfort around others, talk about it a lot when out and about or at home) and she loves, talks, and enjoys being around everyone. So do not keep her away from others just because it makes her upset or cry, she will learn to be comfortable around others.
