Am I in the Wrong or Is Husband to Controlling?

I am so sorry. Oftentimes when someone is so insecure like your husband sounds, it is because they have something to hide. I am not trying to stir up trouble. But I was there and everyone saw it but me-they even mentioned the same thing to me and I was like "no" But it was true. I ended up leaving him with my 3 small children and it was the hardest, most difficult thing I ever had to do-for a few years afterwards I was still afraid of him. But now we are all better off and as my children are getting older they are starting to see how he is-he never changed- and they are not close to him. I hate divorce but if someone won't change sometimes you have to make tough decisions. Have you ever read a book called "Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life by: Henry Cloud and John Townsend" Awesome book. I did not read it until after my divorce but it has made me a different better person. I highly suggest it. I will be praying for your situation.

I went through the exact same thing when I was married to my ex husband. We were on the other end of our marriage (had been together for 7 yrs, married for 4 - had a 2 year old and I was pregnant when I left him), but it is no different. You are in a different place of self development and independence and he is threatened by it. Who knows why - they all have their own issues! Mine would go out with his friends all night and not call, but I couldn't take a client to happy hour/dinner for 2 hrs without him blowing up my cell phone with 45 "when are you going to be home" calls. I made our lives better by removing myself from his grasps. Four years later, I'm a totally different person and we (my kids and I) are much happier.

I would exert my independence and just go. Your children, no matter what age, will be more well-rounded people knowing their mom as a healthy, strong, independent person, than as an emotional wreck who's watching over her shoulder. Set a good example for them because right now, they are seeing you be emotionally beat down "for their sake".

I'm here if you need moral support
C.
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He is being controlling. You shouldn't have to ask him permission. What is this the 1950s? Explain to him your disconcern with the whole situation. Tell him that you are not one to be asking "daddy" for permission. That ship has sailed LONG ago. Make sure you get your point across and remind him that he goes hunting and you love to see him go because it makes him happy. Then tell him you want to go but you want him to attend with you. OR at least drive you there. Explain that he doesn't have to attend the party but that you need him or his support with you.
And to stop being so insecure.
MEN!

RUN, do not walk, RUN to the nearest exit.You are a grown woman, you don't have to ask anyone for permission to do anything.He is an insecure, control freak and you deserve a LIFE. GO GO GO.

YES, he is very controlling. I would just tell him you are going and leave your cell phone at home or turn it off unless you need to use it. Call him when you need to but do not allow him to call you every few minutes. I have been through this before and I am no longer with the man. I am very happy now. My husband (not the same man)trusts me to go anywhere without him. Once a month I go out without him to where ever I want. He trusts me and I trust him. He has no reason to NOT trust me. I have never (and will never) cheat on him. If a man does not trust his wife it is usually because he is cheating on her. This is what was going on in my case and he was ALWAYS acusing me of cheating on him and I was NOT. Good luck. I will keep you in my prayers. S. Lee