Am I Crazy?? Help!!! Need Advice

no i dont think you are crazy i did the same thing after having my little girl maybe you should see the doctor and tell him how you feel because what was wrong with me was i had post partum depression which is very common after having kids. I hope this hleps

I completely know what you are going through. I was having the same issues about 10 months ago. I talked to my doctor about it and have also done lots of research, it is depression. It can possibly be manic depression and if you don't get help for it then it will only get worse as time goes by. My doctor has put me on Lexapro 10mg and it has worked wonders for me! I can cope with everyday life now and if I miss one pill then I feel like I am going crazy again. Depression can be triggered from any number of things and even if you have never had depression in the past it only takes one tramatic life obstacle to push you over the edge. Also most cases of depression show up in women who are in thier 20s.
I hope that I helped some! It is hard to go through something like this when you don't understand it.

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Relax--you are not crazy. I did the same thing and here is what I do:

Exercise (when can)
Get Outside everyday
I take Cod Liver Oil everyday, I take 2500 mg (about 180mg per 10 pounds of weight) for anxiety/depression

You may have your hormones checked...I think I am low on estrogen, I got on a pill with estrogen and was SOOOOOO much better. If you are not on a pill (birth control) test your hormones first....otherwise you have to get off the pill for three months (which is too long to feel that way again) and then do the blood test.

Hang in there.

B., I too am overweight, always have been, and I went through post partem when my first child was about 18 months old as well. I went on an anti-depressant until I found out I was pregnant with my second child, got off the meds until he was about 10 months old. As I sat at the dining room table crying my eyes out as my two children ran around the table screaming and laughing, I figured out I was dealing with post partem again. I thought post partem was only when people don't want anything to do with their new babies, I never had heard that it could come on so late when the kids are older. I was 26 when my first was born and 29 for hte second. My husband and I, after much prayer and after going to my doctors, decided it best we not have any more kids as the depression seemed to get worse with each child. I, with the help of regular exercise, have been off my anti-depressants now since April 2, 2007. Almost a year. I am thankful I was on them, and thankful to be off them! I did everything you're describing, no energy - TAKE VITAMINS! - no tolerance, no sex drive, no nothing and mostly PO'd at everything and everyone! Check with your doctor... I hope this helps... BTW, we ALL scream at our kids sometimes! If anyone thinks you're a bad mother for that, they don't live the same kind of life you do! I have a full time job too! Keep your head up, check it out with your doctor... I hope things turn around for you! Write if you need me! ~C.

Make an appointment with your gyn and talk to her/him about it. It could be post-partum depression, PMDD, or something else. I had a lot of the same symptoms about a year ago. I saw my doctor and was diagnosed with PMDD
http://www.pmdd.factsforhealth.org/

Now I take medication and it's made a world of difference for me.

Also - if you've taken the depo shot since having your son a LOT of women complain about massive mood swings while on depo. I was a raging lunatic when I took it, I'm lucky my husband didn't leave me :)

Do you have a family support group where you live? Someone to babysit once in awhile? No need to be "super" Mom. It is pretty tough to be a single parent and children to pick-up your feelings whether you realize it or not. If you son is Whinning he may be reacting to what he senses in you. Try to leave the stress of work behind when you walk out the door and look forward to playtime with your son when you get home.

Your first priority is to your son. He will be yours forever. We have all gone through the "crazy" time when you feel there is no one helping out, but if you have family or close friends to give you a hand with playtime outings or a 'mommies day out' that can help.

You may also need a good physical check-up if you haven't had one since his birth. Hormones may be out of balance. Besure to talk with you OB-GYN.

Bobbie,
I think you should consider seeing your doctor about possible Post-Partem Depression. Although this might not be what you have, it certainly sounds like you have at least a slight case of depression. It might be worth it to consider trying a medication to see if it evens out your mood. If you're still breastfeeding make sure to let you doctor know this so he/she can perscribe something BF friendly.

Also, are you able to take some time for yourself once in awhile? If not, I recommend working out some scheduled "me time" and have your boyfriend keep DS. This might be just the thing you need.

Hope this helps and hope you get some good feedback.
K.

Hi, it sounds like you are going through a adjustment time with your son getting bigger and having to deal with work, boyfriends, your emotions, ect. You have allot on your plate and sometimes the best thing to do, when you feel this way, is take any time you can find to get quiet with God. I dont know you, but I too have a 19 month old little boy, I have days that are good and days that are not good. I run out of patience, I get angry, I yell. When I get to this point I realize I need to take some time to get my thoughts and my emotions in check. I spend some time reading psalms or proverbs, I pray for strengh and help from God. I also turn to trusted freinds that I can vent to and work out my emotions. Something else you need to look at is are you depressed? With all the stress of being a mom and work and not taking care of yourself, you could be dealing with some depression. Talk to your doctor, get a check up, see what is going on with your health. That is a step in the right direction. Remember, you need to take care of your body, mind and Spirit!

I know you know this, but your little boy looks to you for everything, he is learning kindness, patience, love by your example. We all can go alittle crazy at times, we all go through hard times or times of being down - the body and mind and spirit all work together, when your not getting what you need, your body will let you know. Hang in there, you have a very tough job and it's not easy. I would suggest you get a good friend that you can trust and that will give you good healthy advice to talk to, and pray for strenght to handle the load you are carring and take time to calm down and be at peace with yourself.

Good Luck, you will be ok. Every day is a new day to start afresh and make a difference in your life, your sons life and your relationships.

I know exactly what you mean and I am here if you ever need someone to talk to!

Wow! That sounds just like me a few years ago. But I am happy to tell you that you can make it through it but you have to get professional help. You can't do it alone. Go to your ob/gyn or your family doctor first. What worked for me was getting my sleep right first (required Ambien for a few weeks), then taking care of myself, taking St. John's Wort along with a daily vitamin and working with a therapist. I tried prescription anti-depressants but the side effects were awful for me-and the drugs were not so effective. But everything I did above was under the care of a doctor. Now, I am better than ever. I still get "out of whack" now and then but my family is very supportive and they know what to look for and I can get myself back on track without medical intervention.

Hello Amy,

to add to the other's advice...(sorry it got kind of long but I hope it helps)

do you get any 'alone' time --at home? (not while shopping or running errands) so you can hear your own thoughts? I know you probably don't want to hear them right now (trust me, I've been there). Are you exhausted? need some extra help w/ your son. find a 'daddy and I' activity so you can get some time alone at home. even if all you do is laundry or vacuum or dishes at that time. I think barns and noble has story times on saturday mornings. check out your local library. have them go to the library so you can stay at home and listen to some soothing music or I bet it's been a while since you heard your favorite music...crank up the volume and enjoy it =) or even talk to a grown up w/out interruptions. having a non-interrupted conversation can go a long way towards 'soothing' your soul.

get some lavender oil and put some on a tissue and keep it close to you. chamomile tea is soothing. they also have tension tamer tea. watch your diet. After 2 kids I figured out that drinking a bit of cow milk was an instant transformation into a witch. also soy affect me too.

I've also found out that writing down my thoughts and ideas and fears help me a lot. you can take a piece of paper and write what's bothering you and what you're mad about then take another piece of paper and start writing your blessings... starting with that sweet baby and your boyfriend.

I can almost bet money that you're not getting enough 'talk' time with your boyfriend because of lots of interruptions.

You know i hsve been going through something very simular.I seem to lose it over nothing.I dont think you are a bad mom i think it is probably pretty normal.This is really silly advice but amazingly it helps sometimes.When i get so mad that i want to yell at my child i growl at her like a bear it gets the frustrastion out and disgusies it to her she thinks it is funny which reminds me of how cute she is.I also started a journal to try to discover thr root of my anger.I am doing it on the computer it seems that typing relieves more stress than writting.when you are mad try doing things around the house it will relieve stress to.My husband and i went on a trip recently and we didnt fight the whole time we came home and had a fight within 5 min of entering our house.Our house was a mess and it hit me that that was what it was it is proven that a messy enviorment can cause depression and anger.I have know idea what you home looks like and im not saying it is messy at all im just saying what worked for me.I organized my house and now we have more time 4 each other and we dont have to look so much to find stuff.When the house is clean we fight less and i have more patience.when it isnt it is the total opposite. hope some of this helps.

You are only human and things can change after you have a baby ur body goes through alot. I think you need to see your dr and tell them what you are going through. it sounds to me that you are depressed. depresstion is a very tricky thing. i have depression and before i started taking my medication i had those excate same symptoms. i have been on t3 different medcations for depression just trying to find the right one. It is very common in woman and there is nothing wrong with you some of us woman just get it and if it is not taken care of properly it can be harmful to urself and children. AS for your boyfriend i would just explain to him that you think somethign is wrong with you and you are gonna go to the dr to get checked out. I had to do that to my husband myself it is like i just did not want anything to do with him.. Let me know how it goes, i will be praying for you.

Sounds like you need to visit your doctor. You are showing signs of depression. I have been through this with my husband, sis-in-law and both daughters! You could have a chemical imbalance that can be easily corrected with an anti-depressant. Don't balk - I know you don't want to think you are depressed, but it happens to new moms all the time and it will just sneak up on you. Tell the Dr. what is going on. My daughter went thru the same thing and now she feels wonderful. Has soooooo much more patience and energy. Said she did not realize how bad she felt until she started feeling good again. Do this for yourself and that precious baby boy! Good luck and keep us informed.

please dont take this wrong but my first thought was post partum depression. my advice is to talk to a professional. post partum depression is capable of landing you on the evening news for harming (or worse) your child. again, my comment is in no way suggesting that you are not a good mother or that you dont love your child.

Hi bobbie, first of all, you are not a bad mom.. You are just overwelmed with everything. It happens. You just need to take a day and relax (just you)whatever it may be, taking a long bubble bath by candle light, going out with some girl friends for dinner etc.. You just need some alone time.. Trust me it will help. I felt the same way, i have a 4 year old and a 10 month old and they are the best kids in the world, but i need a break every now and then. I have only had one so far,lol... But it did help.

Good luck
-B.

B. I,

I am just catching up on some e-mails so this response is a little slow, but you are NOT crazy. Your body is still trying to recoup believe it or not and you probably have not had a decent amount of rest in about 2 years (counting pregnancy). Kids are such a blessing, but they take a huge toll on your body and you are working so hard to keep going with all of the new responsibilities, that you don't even realize it. I am not a doctor and granted I waited until later in life to have my two sons but I was exhausted. and this will reak havoc on your emotions, your attitude, etc. Talk to your OB Dr, let them know how you are feeling, they might be able to help. You have to get some rest, you have to have some "ME" time. It is OK and it doesn't make you a bad mom. You will find that if you give yourself some space, you will have more patience with everyone and especially your little one. Hang in there! you have youth on your side and you will start to feel like yourself again soon!

T. P

B., I have been in your situation - in a strange way, I still am. My sons (2.5 and 1 year old) were not sleepers. My baby didn't sleep through the night until he was 1!! So, I was up 1-2 times EVERY night. This went on for more than a year. I was grumpy, emotional (I cried at the drop of a hat), yelled at my husband all the time. The only good thing was I didn't take it out on the boys. I think you use all your patience on your kids, so when your husband, sister, brother, friend, etc come along, you just have no patience left and tend to snap!!!

Well, I finally called my doctor and said "I cannot sleep - I'm turning into a crazy woman - HELP". He gave me a prescription of Ambien to help me stay asleep and it FINALLY worked. I went from 3-5 hours a night to 7-9 hours. I could sleep through my husband's snoring for the first time ever, but, I could still hear the kids and respond if I needed to. It took about a week to get my sleep to catch back up a little and I noticed a huge difference. I wanted to be aound people again, I had energy and much more patience.

It could be a medical issue - like everyone is hinting at - or, it could just be plain olf exhaustion!! You work, you have an 18 month old, you have a house to take care of, bills to pay, etc. You may just need some good old-fashioned sleep!!!

I hope things get better soon. By the way, the first time I turned into a royal b**ch after my first son was born - I found out I was pregnant with my second son - just another thought!

I didn't read the other comments, but I have three words for you: Post-partum depression. Go see your doctor and know you don't have to live like that!! I speak from total experience. Zoloft is my friend and my daughter is 5! Since mental illness runs in my family, I'm more prone to emotions-gone-wild! So please, go see your dr and let them know exactly what you told us. You'll feel SOOO much better once you're balanced. And of course you're not a bad mom, seeking help will only make you a better mom. Good luck!

you might need something to balance you out...I would visit with your doctor and tell him/her what is happening and how you are acting and feeling. there some good meds out there that can balance your hormones. After you have had a baby, your body changes in so many ways we don't realize. I encourage you to be proactive in this...this is the rest of your life and you don't want to be angry or short tempered, especially with a new baby. Also, find some time during the day for just your self...5 or 10 minutes for just yourself is good for the soul and good for everyone around you. hope this helps and you are in my prayers.
JLM

Are you sure you are not describing me? That totally happened to me. A few things to get checked out...
*hormone levels, including estrogen and progesterone
*thyroid and insulin level, resistance and sensitivity
*Vitamin D level

All of these things, when out of whack, contribute to weight gain, mood swings adn lack of mental clarity. Go to your OB or normal doc and have them do a complete chem panel, cbc and the things I mentioned above. There is a lot they can do for you to help you feel like yourself again. Good luck!! E-mail back if you have any other questions, etc.

Have you had your hormones checked? It is a simple blood test. Also, have you had a check - up recently? You might have an underlying medical condition. I just went through the same type of thing, but it was depression with anxiety. I see a counselor once a week. Also, do you ever get out and do "girl things" with friends. My friend has made us nail appts., shopping dates, movie dates, etc. just to have some grown up girl time. Hope that helps!

It sounds to me like you are depressed. I would go to the Doctor and see what they suggest. They can try putting you on antidepressents and they do help. Good luck.

Hello there, I am mother and grandmother my 50. I was a single parent, I understand what you are dealing with emotionally. Even thorough your son is only 18 months your hormones are still off balance. Which affect your mood from high to low. Just remember this is only temporary and remember your son love and need you regardless. Hopefully your boyfriend will be patient and understanding while your body and mind re-adjust. What help me was therapy even to this day, maybe this option will help. I will keep you & your family in my prayers.

Bless you, you are in agony now. Several thoughts:

1) you could be exhausted, which leads to all kinds of physical and emotional issues.

2) your hormones could be seriously out of whack.

3) if you never had feelings like this before, it could be post-partum (sp?) depression (related to #2)

4) I had mood swings for years. Unless it was a miracle of aging (ha!), the thing that got mine under control was a combination of changes I started for other reasons: Low carbing (lost 50+ lbs and stopped sugar-surge cravings), exercising (studies show it as good as most of the anti-depressants), taking fish oil (Omega 3s even help with bipolar; take 3-5 grams a day), and taking B Vit complex (important for brain chemistry). It wasn't until two of my adopted kids developed bipolar symtoms around age 20 that I read all four of those same things as recommendations for helping bipolars with mood stabilization. While I am not bipolar, I definitely had larger mood swings than most people, and was just toooo emotional. These changes have made me an entirely different, calmer, healthier person than I was 5 years ago.

5) Mental illness is a scary thing. It is also genetically linked (true in my adopted kids' case). If anyone in your biological family has exhibited symptoms in the past (and stats say 20% of all families have some), be sure to mention THAT and your symptoms to a doctor. A mood stabilizer may help. In the meantime, start taking fish oil while you're waiting for doctor's appointment and/or medicine to help. Even if you don't need it for your brain, it's good for heart health and joints, so can't hurt you.

Be blessed ... and hopeful. Relief can come.
D. B.

You are suffering from post partum depression. Please see a Dr. quickly - medication is available. This is nothing to be ashamed of - many women go through this.

Dear B.: Years ago I experienced exactly what you are describing and ended up a zombie, unable to care for me or my family. What I discovered was that I was taking good care of my baby, my husband, my job, but never taking care of me. Please remember that to be a happy effective woman in all these areas, you need to put your own needs first. If you don't take care of you, who will? And if you run yourself into the ground, you can't take care of your family, which makes you feel worse. Negotiate with your significant other, your mom, or a friend to give yourself just a few hours per week to do something special for you and you alone. It can be as simple has taking a walk or exercising - which will release endorphins and make you feel better. It may be going to a gym and just sitting in the sauna. Make yourself a small goal to achieve each week - one that is completely doable. Then reward yourself for reaching that goal. Also, see your doctor and make sure a physical condition isn't contributing to the problem. If you still have "baby fat" to lose like I did, you may have developed a blood sugar imbalance. I became Type 2 Diabetic. Low & high blood sugar will make you a screaming meany and worse. Try eating 3 meals a day with 3 snacks inbetween. Go to the American Diabetes Association website and get tips as to the kind of meals and snacks that will best for you. You love your son so much - love him enough to give him a strong and happy mom, which will provide him with the security to grow up healthy and strong. He'll love you more for it. Good luck - I'll say a prayer for you.

You are not crazy nor do I think you are a bad mom but I think you should go to the doctor with this write-up!!
It sounds like a type of depression or post-pardum.

Hello B., I know how your feeling and it sounds crazy but it is normal. Your body is doing a lot of changes even though your son is already 18 mos. you said your 24 yrs old, well when I was in my mid twenties I started feeling the same way and my emotions were a wreck, I thought something was wrong with me. I am not going to judge you for being human and sometimes we get so angry and frustrated but try to take deep breath tell your self it's okay or get out of the house if you can get a baby sitter and get away for a while to relax.
Please if you haven't already go see your doctor or obgyn. it will pass I had to get use to the changes of my body and when you get closer to your thirties you will feel more changes. Start early eating healthy and excerise take some vitamins daily. Remember we are women as we get older we have more to deal with than men. I dont know ur medical history but when I was your age I had to adjust and I hated it. oh btw I am 33 yrs old and have two sons who are now 17 & 14 yrs old. Believe me I hated getting older and the changes but now it gets even better! Take care, be safe

Wow B.,

You sound alot like me. I told my Midwife about what was going on with me. If you don't have a midwife, I'm sure your OBGyn can help you. My midwife said that it sounded like I had a hormonal imbalance. She prescribed me some hormones which I had to take for about 4 months. After that I was fine. Sometimes it takes longer than you would like it to to bounce back after having a baby. Hormones allowed me to get my sanity back and stop being so emotional.

It sounds like you're very tired and overwhelmed. Go see your doctor and consider taking some medication to help you cope. Also, consider some "me" activities (join Weight Watchers, a fitness center, yoga class, etc.) If you have vacation time, take a long weekend trip to Las Vegas or a bed and breakfast. Get away and get rejuvenated! But first, go see your doctor! Good luck and God Bless!

You're not crazy but you sound tired and possibly depressed which is very normal for a busy working mom. 18 mos is so busy too. I remember! Call Genesis Women's Shelter or a church in your area and ask them if they can recommend someone who will see you and you may possibly need a mild anti-depressant for a short period of time or just some guidance. I know most churches will help. Try Highland Park United Methodist Church or Highland Park Presbyterian Church. But there are many more. If you feel like you might lose control, put a movie or video on for your son, and go to another room and try to calm down. Do you have friends or family than can take your son for a couple of hours a week so you can have some time? Good Luck and don't give up on yourself.

You're not crazy but kids are demanding whether you work outside the home or stay with them all day. I'm a mom of 3 & trust me when I say this - we all go a little crazy from time to time! It's completely normal. If I were you, I would talk with your ob/gyn. I have several friends that have been put on SMALL doses of antianxiety or antidepressant meds to help with the daily demands of being a mom & it was the best thing they could have done -for themselves and their families. There is nothing wrong with getting a little help to make life easier. That cute little guy is only going to get more challenging as he gets older!

Probably stress and with that comes alot of anxiety!! I have been there with my two kid's. You might first consider learning some deep breathing techniques and try and calm down.Working and raising a baby must be incredibly hard.I stay home with mine and homeschool which isn't always a picnic either.Having kids can be the hardest job on earth!!
You could try St.John's Wort if you need a HAPPY PILL!!!! It really worked for me at one time in my life.
Calm's Forte is great for relaxing my nerves too!Info below!!http://www.walgreens.com/store/product.jsp?CATID=304747&a...
It did not make me sleepy although it is called a sleeping aid!!It just took some stress away and relaxed me.
Best of luck to you!!

--M.

I would say you for sure have poost partum depression. You haev alot on your plate with an 18 month old and a boyfriend and working mom, you have alot to be responsible for all on your own. You need to seek the advice of a doctor. Call your OBGYN. Good luck

B. your not crazy you need help. By that I don't mean sitting down and talking to someone, I mean you need a break. I wish you were close to North Garland so I could watch your little one while you just go and do whatever you wanted. A regularly scheduled time away from work, "sunshine", boyfriend, everything. Single mom's AMAZE me. If I didn't have 5:30; "Daddy's Home!" I'd be out of my mind!! Find a safe environment for your little one and get away fro a little bit. No - never take it out on the littlest one, but really give yourself a break from everything. You'll be surprised how much happier you are when you return. I'm adding you and Elija James to my morning prayers.

Hi B. I, just wanted to let you know that your not alone. I have been feeling exactly the same. I have a 3 month old and feel like I'm going crazy! My husband is out of town alot and I work a full time job. When he is in town almost anything he does or says sets me off. I'm also afraid that he is going to get tired of me. As for the energy if it wasn't for some vitamin products that I take from Advocare I wouldn't have any either. Although I'm very tired by the time I get home. I want to be my happy self again! I love my baby sooo... much, but all I want to do is sleep when I get home instead of play with my baby. Help Us Somebody!!

You are not a bad mom!!!! You are going through depression. I did the same thing when my son was 4 mo. Get yourself to a doctor asap!!!! Please do not think poorly of yourself for needing medication. That is the easiest thing to do at this time. If you feel yourself 'loosing control', leave the situation. No child has ever died from crying for a few minutes if necessary.

If you go for therapy, don't be surprised to find that you have had symptoms for longer than just recently. You just haven't been aware of them until you have someone to take care of. Please let me know what you find out. I have been on medication for 7 yrs now, and have had to change medication a few times.

No you are not crazy you are just another Mom trying to do her best to raise a healthy child. Please do not beat yourself up over this. In my case my OBGYN called it post partum depression. I chose to take meds to help me get past it. Like you my 2 year old is the center of my universe. The sun rises and sets in him. I was on zoloft for about two months. it helped me find a middle ground where I did not feel crazy and my husband no longer hated to come home and be at fault for my entire day being horrible. I can tell you that I too am overwieght, I do not exercise except for chasing a very active 2 year old all day. The biggest help I found for me was realizing I am not the same person I was before. I no longer have just me to worry about I have Michael, and that is a huge responsability. My carefree world was no longer in existance. I became we and it was a very difficult thing to accept. I am a stay at home mom, with him 24/7 and he is attached to me something feirce. I forgot how to go to the bathroom by myself. So do not feel alone or crazy there are many ofus out there stuggling with you. Just make and take time for you and keep doing what you are doing. But remember there is medication if you feel you need it. Hope this helps. Best wishes

PLEASE go to your doctor immediately and explain all these feelings!! You may be suffering from depression that may be treatable with a simple medication. Please get help before you do end up hurting your baby when you are out of control. You need medical attention. It is not unknown for "baby blues" to be delayed for some time after birth---18 months is not that long where depression might be involved.

I was seriously depressed at one point in my life and am still on antidepressants. The antidepressants gave me my life back.

J.

your not a bad mom, you're just a mom. and yes we have the hardest job in the world. 18 months is a hard age especially for boys, at least from my experience as the mother of 2 boys. as for me i have been there, i hated being a mom and a wife and all those things and i thought other mothers didn't understand what i was talking about. but you will find there is alot of us out there, and you are not alone.
my suggestion to you is seek the lord. something is missing and it is something that only he can fill. tell him that you give up trying to do it by yourself and you are ready for him to take over. he's there to help you ..

This could be hormonal or thyroid related. However this could be depression and or Bipolar. The GOOD news is all can be helped with the right medication. DON'T not seek medical help. For the love of your child please see a doctor for a bloodwork-up, for hormonal causes a saliva test is the most reliable test.There is a great docotor in Pilot Point her name is Lisa Haulk and she is gifted with inbalances. Good luck.

I would see a doctor. You could have a thyroid problem, be pregnant again, or be suffering from depression. Many women suffer from depression after their child is born. Go to the doctor!

I went through the same thing a few years ago and my doctor suggested I was depressed. I convinced her to bloodwork and found out I had thyroid problems. You're tired, gain weight, moody, grumpy, can't stay awake, etc. Call your doctor and make sure all your bloodwork comes back normal.

no you are not crazy sounds likd you have post natal depression or some such ---- I'm not good with those names of things any way it's a thing that hits some Mom's after they have akid I had it years with one of mine and I know of several others who got it some bad somenot so bad.???? my advice is go tell your doctor he will give you some meds to help even you out and you'll get over it. this too will pass. honest honey. stick in there and you'll make it. KC

No, you are not crazy, but it sounds like maybe you've got a delayed post partum depression. Go to your OBGYN, tell him everything, and ask their opinion. You might need some 'calming' meds, or therapy, but you've already identified that there is a problem, and admitted you need help, so you're in the right direction. If your OB doesn't do it, try your regular GP. Don't give up - we all need help, and asking for it is a good thing. We're in this boat together. Good luck!

Hey, there. I know you have gotten several responses, but I just wanted to offer my support, as well. First, you are not crazy, so don't make yourself feel guilty for the emotional roller coaster you're on right now. I have four children of my own, and several months after having my daughter (now 27 months old) I started feeling as if I were on the brink of a complete nervous breakdown at all times, LOTS of anxiety. I finally told my husband how I was feeling and we decided that I would make an appointment with my ob/gyn since I knew it was hormones. Ironically, before I made the appointment, I evened out and am now fine. Although, I would strongly suggest you talk to your doctor as soon as possible. Even if you are not a danger to yourself or your child, you will feel so much better if you go now, and get a Rx if necessary while your hormones get back to normal. I think we moms forget just how long it takes for our bodies to re-adjust after having children, and life is too short to spend it feeling the way you are now. Take care and many blessings to you and yours!

Hi Bobie Jean:

You are not crazy at all, but it is very important for you to talk to your physician. It may be a good idea for you to tell him/her how you are feeling so they can help you. There are many medications that they can put you on that would make you feel better about yourself. If you do not feel good about yourself, you are not going to feel good about your role as a mother or a girlfriend. It does not sound as if your weight may be of primary concern, although it is very important. Go see your OB or even your internist, and let them help you feel better. Walking is an excellent form of exercise, but you must feel good emotionally :)

R. Elkin, MOT, OTR/L, CKT

After my daughter was born I changed dramatically too. I felt bad all the time and I could never seem to feel like myself. I'm not saying our situations are the same but you should talk to your doctor. I found out I had a Thyroid Issue that was causing my problems and that can only be verified through a blood test.

No one should think you are a bad mom. After having a baby a women's hormones go crazy and it takes a long time for them to get back to normal. Talk to your doctor and he may be able to recommend something to help with the hormonal changes.

Sounds like depression. Not uncommom. You should discuss this with your doctor ASAP.
Also make some time for yourself on a regular basis. Caring for a young child is physically and emotionally exhausting.

I personally don't think you're crazy. But you might be having some hormonal issues. It's common to have wild hormonal levels after you've had a baby, even 18 mo later. I would try to see your doctor about it. If you let it go, it might get worse. And you sure don't want that. Good luck, hope this helps.

Have you tried talking to a therapist? I went through something like that after my second daughter, I didn't know how down I was and when you are in it, you can't see it. It sounds like a little postpartum depression. It's perfectly normal, but you have a lot on your plate. I went to a therapist and she helped me so much. However, therapy is a work in progress. At first, I didn't want to go, nor hear what she had to say, but after a while I started to get it and apply her great advice to my thoughts and everyday routine. The best advice I can give you is take a deep breath, write down how you are feeling and just remember how blessed you are to have such a beautiful son! Good luck!

I was the exact same way - I then started going into depression not wanting to get up and do anything... I went to my doctor and got on Lexapro. this was the best thing I have ever done...

You are not crazy, but you might have post partum depression. Make an appointment and see your doctor soon.

Sounds like you aren't getting enough rest. Do you get 8 hrs. a night? Uninterupted? Also, you can talk to your gyno. about this. There is medication to help you control your emotions....I have twins at 41 yrs. old & although I wanted them for 11 yrs. including 10 yrs. of fertility treatments. I love them to death but my nerves aren't the same as if I were younger. The med. was truly a God sent. I was spanking my son's hands at age 10 mos. for touching the TV.....I understand your up & down swings.

I don't think you're a bad mom at all. I was 24 when I had my son who is now nine years old, and struggled with some of the same things. In hind sight and after speaking to a counselor about it years later, I had a bit of depression but didn't know it at the time. I'm sure your hormones are still going crazy, plus, most importantly what are you doing for yourself?

Make sure you have time each day that is dedicated to something you enjoy...reading, talking to a special friend, walking through the mall, exercising... You need to make sure you have time without your son and without your boyfriend so you can regroup and think about who you are. You can't give 100% to your family if you aren't giving yourself 100%. Make sure you are taking excellent care of yourself and don't blow it off. It only hurts you in the long run.

Talk to your doctor about it if you can. Reach out like you've done on this site. You're not abnormal...you're just still adjusting to a MAJOR life change. Hang in there, my friend!

Hi there, first of all, please don't feel so badly about yourself!!! It's great that you realize that there is a problem and are willing to discuss it and ask for help - that's a BIG step. I'm almost 49 years old and have a daughter your age.....I've been where you are I think. It sounds like you are overwhelmed and stressed. Sometimes the pressure of being a mom, working and having a relationship with a man can push us to the absolute edge....you are under tremendous stress and probably don't even realize how much! Please see your family doctor to discuss these symptoms....you might benefit from a round of antidepressants, there are some designed to help with stress also....Another thing to think about is if you're now taking birth control pills - some can drastically alter your moods and even personality....I've been where you are I think, please get some help now, don't waste months or years feeling miserable if you don't have to. Someone should warn us women that being a mom just gets more stressful as the years go by, yes you lose diapers and bottles but with their independence comes wear and tear and stress on the moms. Good Luck to you, remember, you must take good care of yourself in order to take care of your family!

GO SEE YOUR DOCTOR!!! it sounds like you have anxiety/depression. I started on effexor after my daughter (she's 4) and it was amazing how much better I felt. But its also important that you take time for yourself. Find something that YOU like doing...baking, scrapbooking, reading whatever. even 15 minutes a day will do wonders. I hope that you find the help that you need and start feeling more like yourself soon. M.

Wow...I think a lot of us have been where you are! First of all, are you getting enough sleep? (probably not). It sounds like you've handled more than one person reasonably can for over 18 months. I'd encourage you to seek out a therapist or trusted friend to talk with--your life seems to be getting out of control, but it doesn't have to! Parenting is tough, no matter what--but you DO find ways to cope. Just please don't be afraid to get help where you need it (obviously, you're not--you've come to the Mamasource moms, for one!). If you'd like to talk more, please reply to me; I happen to have bipolar II/manic depression/whatever you want to call it, and I have struggled to stay sane despite the pressures of parenting. But I now love my life, and I'm working hard to balance everything and find peace again--it IS possible! Hang in there!!

You know my daughter was just like that. I learned early on that she fed off my and my husband's emotions. So if we were cranky, yeah she would be too. It's really just his age right now. There is so much for him to learn...and my daughter talked very well for an 18 month old, but still for her communication was also crying or screaming. When she was mad or frustrated that is how she communicated it! Boy she can scream too! For me, when the "fun 2 stage" started I had been working out when she was 3 months, but I definitely made it more consistent. It was just a nice way for me to get rid of some stress and relax. I too am a bit too overweight...and working out really helped me stay calm. I lose and gain like nothing, so I think for me it was the act of doing something good for myself. Which in turn made me feel good and be more happy! Which of course made for a happy family! I'm sure after working all day you may not necessarily want to work out! But something you enjoy...that makes you feel so good. Like I said, for me it was sweating on a cardio machine for an hour. But his "2 stage" will end and go into the "fun 3 stage!" Yeah, apparently there's a terrible 3s too. But as he get older he can convey his thoughts better and it really does get better. My DD finally stopped having little fits here and there over the last few months....she talks even better. If she does start one ... we tell her to use her words and tell us what is the matter. If she still cries, we tell her we want to help but we do not understand crying. It's worked out pretty well. It'll get better. oh. I found also that sometimes DD would get upset when she was bored...maybe some puzzles or coloring (we started letting her color around 13-15 months and of course it was scribbles, but she liked it!) with crayons. And do it with him...mommy-son time! We would do it after her bath. It'll be okay...you'll find what works best for you! Best wishes!

You are not crazy, you are a mom and sometimes it is overwhelming. You need to see your doc and talk about these things It is very common to have depression at some time in your life, usually when big changes like having a baby occur. Being 24 and having a toddler and going off towork each day while also trying to have a relationship is TOUGH and it can drag you down.
Please see your doc and tell the full story about the feelings you have-if you do, you will probably be given an antidepressant and will feel better. Once you feel better, the good feelings will take over and you will be able to stop the med soon.

OMG! Are you writing or me 2 mos. ago? LOL-

Seriously, I was there. My son was born in May, my second child. There were lots of stresses and changes in my life prior to this preg. and continuing until after his birth, so I blamed stress. But it was like I was in a rut and couldn't get out. Finally I made an apt with my OB to see about anxiety meds and depression (no, it does not run in my fam, but it sure looked like the culprit, even the OB nurse said so).

Well, in the mean time, I started back on Birth control and within 2 mos, I was fine. My hormones were totally out of wack and after the second full mos. of BC, I was 90% better. My ob is still watching me, but I can totally tell a difference.

Leson: Check hormone levels and maybe level them out with a little BC? (I use Nuva Ring, and it may be a little higher in price, but it admins the hormones at an almost completely equal level unlike the pill, so it is in theroy anyway better for hormonal women)!

Best of luck and e-mail me if you need support from someone who has recently been there or have a question or two (or three)!

Best of luck!
T.

Dear Mommie - you sound depressed. I have been there and it ain't pretty. You are not alone in this condition and the way you feel. You have alot on your plate and just need some help in coming to a balance.

I would HIGHLY suggest you go see your GP or your OB/GYN and tell them what is going on. They should not judge you , rather provide you with some medical advice. Most likely they will put you on some kind of anti-depressant. It will just help take the" edge" off of your mood swings. It can be for as short as 6 months to as long as you need it. Nothing to be ashamed of. Do this for yourself but also do it for the people you love.

Good luck!

You may be going through like post partam much later than normal people or just may have depression setting in. Depression has all those symptoms and sometimes much more harsh symptoms depending on how long you go without getting it addressed. If you goto the doctor and let them know your symptoms then they will do a verbal test on you and tell you what they think. Most people think they can treat depression on their own but it has to do with losing to much seritonin in the brain due to lack of sleep and other things. Just like a diabetic has to have insulin you may need something. I had post partum after both of my babies and I only had to be on something for 2 months and it did the job. Good luck and I donot think you are a terrible mom. Just a busy working mom and we all get that way sometimes but if it lasts for a period of time then you need to address it.

Talk to you gyn doctor.
Zoloft has really helped me, and there are many other meds. that can help greatly!!!

You might have your harmone levels checked with your ob/gyn. Sometimes they can be so out of wack they cause irrational behavior. Mommies need a "time out" also. If you feel yourself losing it, I suggest going to a quiet place in your home for a moment to gain composure.

Hope this helps!
L.

I don't think you are crazy! I also don't think it could hurt to get some help. We all have times when we need help dealing with our emotions. It is very possible that you need medication to control your emotions right now. That is ok. It is not as unusual as you might think. A lot of people deal with that kind of thing. It is important to remember that your son's best interests are most important. You might want to visit with your doctor or with a counselor. A lot of churches offer free counseling services. I hope this helps.

I think you may be going through post pardon depression. I did and i got on Zoloft which helped me tremendously. Your not crazy. You can get PPD late in the game. Go to your doctor and get something you will feel better in about a week

First, NO you are not crazy! I, too, was a single mom at the dear age of 19 and know just how stressful life can be, especially with a toddler. I'm not sure how "full" your days/week are or how much sleep you are getting each night, but how you are describing yourself sounds like pure exhaustion, with maybe a some underlying depression? Now only a doctor can make that call, but it's a road I went down a couple of times. I would suggest getting with your doctor to talk about all of your symptoms and see what she/he thinks would help you, whether it contains medicine or not. There are plenty of homeopathic remedies if you choose a more alternative route. It may come down to just needing to make some "mommy" time for yourself each day, and a little longer time each week. Does your bf help out with your son? I know we, as women, have a tendancy to want to fulfill the lives of our SO and our children, which is fine, as long as we remember our limitations and that we only have so much we can give before our tank runs empty.

I hope this helps a bit. Keep smiling, hug your son (it's therapuetic, too!) and know this too shall pass.

Blessings.

While you are at the doctor, you may want to ask to have your thyroid tested. The fatigue and super mood swings are big symptoms of thyroid problems, too. In addition, is joint/muscle pain, change in periods, weight gain/inability to lose weight, etc. I went through the same thing and couldn't stand to be around myself. I felt very bad for my husband. He was great, though. I don't know how he stayed so calm. I hope you get resolution soon. Best of luck.

I am an older first time mother and a working professional. When my kiddo was 18 months, I did the exact same thing. I called my friend who's baby was a year older in tears. There was no time for me or my needs and I felt selfish even feeling that way. She told me what turned out to be absolutely right - this is the HARDEST time. They are mobile but you can't let them out of your sight. You are never alone and can never let your guard down. She told me it get incrementally better every day from here on out. Hearing that made me feel better and it turned out it was true. During this hardest time, do what you can to take advantage of some "you" time - even just 30 minutes with a friend or day care or mother's day out. I know it feels wrong when we work all day and then we want to be by ourselves, but your boy will be just fine. Mine was and is. He's 5 now. And they never stop talking up a storm!! I also have to be sure I stay on top of my antidepressant - if you think it's physiological, check in with a doc - could be hormones. Most likely, it's because you are mentally and physically taxed because you love that little boy more than life itself! J.

I think you are an awesome mom who needs a break! I see you are a working mom--you are in one of the busiest groups of women in the world (as a sahm I am in awe of you!).
I'd do meds as a last resort. Is there anything you do for you?
I find exercise helps me tremendously--I do hot yoga at least 4 times a week at 6 am. So is there anyway you can go for a daily walk/jog or to the gym alone?
Get in touch with your friends--have a girls' night out--kick back, relax and do at least one thing for you a day! And don't feel selfish--you are doing this for you and your family!
If you start to feel hopeless or feel like you cannot go on, please call your doctor. If you feel irrational, don't even hestitate going to the ER. Mental health is just as important as physical.
Big giant hugs!!!

Well, you might be crazy! ;-) just kidding....

Looks like you have a lot of support here, and
a lot of very good suggestions.
Also, consider a counselor/psychotherapist.
Somtimes when your life feels out of your control
it helps to have professional support.

It could be a simple as needing a good nights rest. I used to work nights and cared for my children durring the day. I began noticing that if I did not get the rest I needed I experienced a complete personality change. I was yelling and screaming about little things all the while telling myself "you are overreacting" but I litteraly could not stop my self. It was like I was on auto pilot in the horrible mom zone. Once I gave up my night job and got sleep the mood swings went away. HTH

It's not too late for post partum depression. Symptoms can crop up 2 years after the birth of a baby. Post partum depression is real and can be scary. Don't be afraid or embarassed to talk to your doctor. You are probably a good candidate for antidepressant medication. It doesn't make your problems go away, but it definitely takes the edge off and helps you deal with them better. Your hormones will eventually catch up. Also, make sure you are making time for yourself and kudos to you for walking! Every little bit helps! In the mean time, hang in there and talk to someone! A friend, family member, your boyfriend!! Let him know you need a little extra love and support right now. I've been there sweetheart. You're a good mom!

I dont think you are a bad mom at all. everyone feels overwhelmed at times, including myself.

I honestly would go to your doctor it kinda sounds like you might have post pardom depression, which he could you with or point you a good direction.

hang in there..
M.

Hi Bobbi,
It could very well be a medical issue which others have mentioned. You could have some chemicals out of balance that could be causing your flucuating emotions. It could be a simple as your over tired and just need some rest. I know when I am extremely tired everything can seem very monumental and overwhelming. t sounds like you need a friend who can help you and give you a little break for awhile so you can get some rest. See if a frind wouldn't mind taking your son out for awhile so you can get some rest. I'd start there and see what happens. I think you'll be amazed at what a little rest can do for you physically and emotionally.
L.

I don't think you are crazy. I think it would be a good idea to talk to your obgyn. Even though your son is 18 months, you may have some hormonal imbalance from having him. I battled with depression after my daughter was born, and I waited until she was 3 to do anything about it. I was put on antidepressants temporarily to get my chemical balance back on track. It worked and not only did my family like me better, I liked myself! Hang in there...just don't delay and go another day feeling miserable.

I would give yourself a break. Sometimes stressing about the fact of being stressed and angry adds to the anger and frustration -- leading to a vicious cycle. I know -- I am WM with a 5 1/2 and a 2 1/2 year old and they drive me crazy sometimes. I had just washed the kitchen floor the other day and told my 2 1/2 year old repeatedly to leave her cup on the table. Lo and behold, she didn't and spilled her sticky apple juice all over the floor! ;-) I was so angry with her -- while I feel bad for yelling at her, I really think it is on the whole, fine. We made up. Our kids have to know that sometimes their actions can cause certain reactions in other people. We cannot shield them from that. We all get mad at our children -- even when they are just being kids. So give yourself a break -- you love your child and your boyfriend. As long as they are happy and healthy you are a resounding success! Accept that and maybe a lot of the frustration and anger will go away.

If you think you need to take it to another level, several of my friends, me included, have gone to counseling from time to time. It might be worth it -- either through church or the medical porfession.

All my best to you!

Go see a dr. for depression. I take care of my 21 month old greanddaughter and she is a handfull. Sometimes I want to scream too, and loose it. That is normal.. You mayneed to be on antidepreeants. That's ok to. Talk to your Dt.

D.

Sounds like you are suffering from depression. I have had experience with that. I can cry at the drop of a hat and fluctuate my moods from pole to the opposite in no time flat. Anti-depressants help and some alone time does, too. Talking to someone about your emotions, like a counselor also helps. Please be sure to let your boyfriend know that it is not him. Good luck.

No you are not crazy..You just should go to the Dr. Everything that you say you are experiencing sounds to be hormornal.You need to have some bloodwork done to determine which hormones may be out of whack. Make sure that you have your thyroid check especially T3 and T4 levels. You didn't mention if you are on the pill.. understand that what might have worked before the baby(the pill, hormonal levels) may not be working as well after the baby. Call your GP or OB/GYN to schedule some test. Keep excercising!!!

I would check with you doctor. It could be hormonal and/or you might need anti depressants. You have so much going on right now and you are being pulled in different directions. It is a stressful time for you.

Sounds like you are having anxiety/ possibly depression. Some of what you are sayng could be hormone related as well. Go see the doctor and have them test our hormones, thyroid, etc. Keep talking to friends and family about it and know that some of what you are experiencing can be from stress. Go see the doctor... they can help you! Prayer helps too!! Also get the book Battlefield of the Mind by Joyce Meyer...it helped me a lot.

You are not crazy.. get yourself to the Doctor.. ASAP!!!!
Call a lawyer and get child support started right away!!
You would be a total fool to try to take raising this innocent child by yourself with the help of your "boyfriend". Your child comes first. Do right by your little one.. God Bless...

Go talk to your doctor! My first thought would be to tell you to have your thyroid checked. I know when my thyroid is off it makes me feel emotionally unstable, tired and it makes me feel like I'm not in control of my life. Please make sure your doctor does bloodwork and doesn't just throw you on an antidepressant. That seems to be the general fix for any problem these days.

Good luck - keep me posted if you get help.

And, your not a bad person or a bad mom - just a human being trying to deal with life. :-)

I don't think you're crazy! Sounds like you're seriously stressed out! I can understand that! Are you getting enough sleep? Time to yourself? Quality time alone with your boyfriend? You're a working mom (like me)...it's not easy! I find myself sometime chewing out my husband for the littlest things, just because I'm stressed out and tired. I have to force myself to step away sometimes, even if it's just leaving the baby with my husband and going to the store alone, or reading a book in bed while he takes care of the baby. It's hard, but make time for you! Since I stopped trying to do it all, I've been much more relaxed. If you eliminate some stress and start sleeping more, and you're still feeling the same, maybe think about talking to your doctor. It doesn't mean you're a bad mom, or a bad person. I think we've all been there. Good luck with everything!

It sounds like you are feeling a little overwhelmed right now, which is completely normal with an 18-month-old. It might be stress or you might be suffering from a form of depression, so it would be a good idea to make an appointment to see your doctor. Sometimes just talking and getting your feelings out in the open will make you feel so much better. Your doctor can lead you in the right direction to help you feel normal again, so please call and make an appointment today. Best of luck t you!

i didnt get post partum depression until my son was about 3-4months so i definately think you could start having the symptoms later. Go talk to your doctor and ask to have some blood work done too. You could have a hormone imbalance, or something else that is making you feel bad. If its depression though your doctor should also be able to help you with that as well.

B., you are not crazy! We all feel a little crazy sometimes with the overwhelming responsibilities of caring for our children, working full time, dealing with daycare incidents, cleaning the house, doing never ending laundry, dishes and constant toddler patrol!!! Let's face it LIFE IS JUST HECTIC AND HARD! But would we have it any other way... really? Take each day as it comes, find the positive in everything (even the annoying boyfriend/husband who never really does things the way we think he should). Just today I looked at my husband taking a nap on the couch while I folded laundry (twice, mind you after my two year old unfolded it!) I could feel myself getting annoyed with him because he wasn't helping me and I would love to take a mid-day nap... but I reminded myself of all of the things he does do and I quietly kept folding while he slept. He woke up and made dinner tonight... an unexpected surprise. Most times when you make waves a storm hits. When you let the calm waters be you find serenity.

Bobbie, You aren't going crazy. You need to see your doctor quickly. You may be depressed or there my be something else wrong medically with you.It sounds like you may be having a hormone problem. You are carrying a lot on your shoulders.It is good that you walk every night. Have you tried using your walk as a down time for yourself? My doctor suggested walking as a workout routine for me. I too am plus sized and have been for quite some time. I try to walk at least 2 miles in 20 minutes. You should be able to hold a conversation when walking but it shouldn't be easy. If you are out of breath. you are going too fast. You should also have a varied terrain,up and down maybe a hill. It is easier to stay with it if you have a walking buddy.If you can do it, this is a good time to spend with your loved one. You can discuss anything going on during the walk.My husband sometimes goes with me. At other times. he stays home and I walk alone or with our older son. I always carry my cell-phone in case.I also live in a small community where everyone knows everyone else and feel safe even walking at night.See your doctor and get checked out. If you need someone to talk to , call me at ###-###-####

Is it possible that you are pregnant? Just a thought...

I don't think that you are crazy at all. I can relate to the eratic emotions. This may have to do with hormones. Have you been to the doctor to have your thyroid level, and blood sugar levels checked? Both of these things could cause this. I had gestational diabetes, and let me tell you, no one wanted to be around me. (A good clue about this one, is if you are thirsty all the time.) I also had an overactive thyroid level a few months after having my son. Your thyroid can do lots of things to you. It will make you very tired, and overwhelmed. It will make you loose weight, or gain weight depending on if it is over or under active. You feel like you have the flu all the time, and you loose your hair.
I don't know if you are on any kind of birth control or not, but you might want to check with your doctor on this one too. Sometimes the dose, or levels of hormones are not right for you. My doctor wanted to put me on a post pardum depression med, and come to find out I was just crazy because of my thyroid and by birth control pill. All this and trying to care for a new born at the time, belive me I can relate to CRAZY!!!! Good luck!!!!

Hi, I had the same problem after my son was born 6 years ago. I lived with it until my daughter was born 23 months later. I went to the Dr. and he put me on a antidepresent called Wellbutrin XL and it worked wonders! I was back to normal after several weeks. I never thought that I was depressed, but I was. I recommend it to anyone.
S.

First of all, stop beating yourself up! Lots of us have been where you are now, you will make it through, but you need to take the right steps. If you have a doctor you trust, make an appointment to go in and discuss the issues. Be open minded to the fact that he/she may suggest medication. I am not suggesting that meds are the cure all, but for some of us it is the only way. You deserve to be happy, and your BF & son deserve a happy, person to be around. You are no good to your son if you don't get help for yourself.
Hang in there!

Sounds like you might want to consider getting your thyroid evaluated. It's very common for woment to experience borderline symptoms of hypothyroidism after having a baby and it can affect your moods and energy levels, not to mention weight gain. This happened to me, but it took a long time (approx 3 yrs) for me to get diagnosed, because my levels were within the normal range. It took a more knowledgable doctor to discover I was 'subclinical' and started me on thyroid meds. It fixed everything. I've since gone a natural route, and take Thyroid Strength from Nutritional Therapeutix.

Hey Bobbie! I work at a mental health clinic in Fort Worth so I have some knowledge in this area. First, no you arent crazy girl! And I'm not a doctor so I cant say you have this or not, but based on my personal experience with it, you sound depressed. If you dont have private health insurance or your deductible is super high, check out our website www.mhmrtc.org. We offer mental health treatment (visits with a psych dr and medication management) based on income and residence. We have clinics all over the metroplex. I am the one that determines eligibility, so any questions you have, send em my way. Just know that this is common and sometimes it doesnt go away. We all need a helping hand at one point or another. Good luck girl!

A.

Hi Bobbi Jean-

I see a lot of "check with your doctor" comments- what you may want to look into is an all natural doctor- he will be more on the natural herbs for you with no side effects. Do you go to church? If not - I strongly suggest you get involved with the local church- You need time out girlfiend...if your boyfriend is your baby's daddy- he need to get up off his pertooters and help you out- take the baby for a drive for about a couple of hours or something- if he's not the daddy- what about his father-what about family and friends -can they help out sometime?I suggest you take up Suzan on her request to watch lil man if noone can help...but do your research first- don't just let anyone keep your baby- too many psycos lurking about now.
But please try not to yell at him- it is natural to do so...but stop in the middle of your yelling and hold him- tell him how much you love him and give him kisses galore.
Talk 2 yourself- tell yourself - everything will be ok- I just need to stop and take 10 deep breaths- you're stressing over something in your life...take control girlfriend....you are IT!!! This will soon pass - you will soon see how funny he is - he is your heart and soul....he will be there for you when everyone one else walks out...he will be your protector- trust me on this...I have a 14yr old- he is my protector--- I won't lie - I have had my yelling spells too when he was Elija's age- that's why I know it will change-- YOu are 24yrs old- face it- life is different now...it's all about lil man- when you learn how to take control of your emotions things will run smoothly. But PLEASE do not start taking anti-depressants...my sister is doing that now and the side effects is really making her insane...her own child don't want to be around her anymore.
I will pray that things change soon for the best...but you too have to pray for that.

You are feeling normal. YOu are feeling what most moms in this day and age feel. Family life is different from 50 years ago, and now we have single homes and homes that have to have two incomes to support themselves.

I am a SAHM and it is hard--I have studied for part of a master's but have given it up for moving around for my husband's career. I love my kiddos and there is nothing that I would do to change that, BUT we need time to ourselves.

I am preaching to my choir--we as mom's are directed to whatever our kids and family needs. Our time is never directed by ourselves anymore, yet it is all warranted by what the needs of our family might be. That is difficult, especially for a mom that once was spontaneous, creative, and the like.

Excerise is a good outlet and just getting out of the house. Use all the resources you can. If you have any family or inlaws ask them to take the baby for a little while. Excercise shows to be just as effective as depressant meds over time. You have to get out and get some sunshine-- the winter months can do you in.

Sometimes parents get frustrated and that is when they take it out on their little ones. That is usually when spanking and yelling get involved. Just remember to take a time out before discipline. Take a minute to remember to what the issue is about, and how your little guy is. He is 18 months. At this age he has probably been an angel until now, but he wants to experment and explore the world around him in order to learn.

18 months for a child is also a rough time. This can mean that your child is more independent, especially since he is more communicative. They can have more tantrums and such. There are many books about loving and giving discipline --to help you out. Also remember at this age to devert their attention to other things--this is more affective at this age.

It sounds like you have a bit of depression or SAD(seasonal affective disorder)I don't know much about you, but if your are very creative, and were before the baby you should find a creative outlet to releave some of your stress. I try to do this on a daily basis--it is hard I have three--email if you want to talk--Good luck and God bless!

Please see your doctor. Your hormones may be out of whack or something, but you really need to see your docotor immediately! Please don't wait.

Go to the dr ASAP!
Its just that simple.
You arent going Crazy you body is just out of wack with how it use to be.
Talk to your Boyfriend about it too...
Make sure you arent holding to much in!
And take a deep Breath,

No you are not crazy. I went through this when I had my second daughter. You just need to go to your doctor and tell him all of your symtoms. I was at a job that I hated and put alot of stress on me. I was suffing from a close nerves brake down. I have been on antidepressent pills now for 11 years. I suggest talking to your doctor to get help.

I don't think you are a bad mom......the symptoms you are describing are very common symptoms of depression or a hormone imbalance. Please make an appt. w/ your doctor to discuss this possibility!!!!

Hi! All my life I had primary care of my children because my husband was never home and when he was more difficult to deal with than they were. I found that I needed to have some alone time. So, I would go and take a bath. It is hard to do that with an 18 month old, but he sound of the water tended to sooth me. You also need to get some sunshine. It will improve your disposition and make you happier. Perhaps after you tuck him into bed, you can take a long hot bath all by yourself. Sometimes experts say that we may be suffering from post-partum depression and that it does not occur necessarily right after childbirth. Read up on that on the internet. They might tell you to take a vitamin or St. Johns Wort.

When I was in this situation I went to the Doctor because I was tired all of the time and explained my schedule to him......He looked at me and told me that Well, young lady, you should be tired all of the time. That was a lot of help.

You might trade off an hour here or there with a friend. You keep her child and the next time she keeps yours. If that does not work, or if you do not have close friends with children, then go out in the sunshine in a safe place and take a blanket and a book. Children love the outdoors and will usually behave better and will not cling as much. This has the effect of you being alone, yet by your child at the same time. Sunshine always makes you happier. In fact reading takes your mind away too.

I totally agree with everyone else to go see your doctor. But I also wanted to make sure you remember to get some YOU time. Especially if this is your first child. Everything changes. It goes from being able to do what you want when you want to always having to make sure that your little guy is taken care of. It's a rough transition. I have a 6 year old boy and a 2 year old boy. I am 28. When I had my first it was really hard on me. I just felt that everything revolved around my child , and it does(Still does as s matter of fact.:) ). Luckily I had family and friends who gave me breaks. Time to do stuff that just I wanted to do. If you are not getting some down time to just be you, instead of just being Mommy, it will affect you.

Hi -
I work with a lot of moms who have young children. I am a social worker. I have had moms who had your symptoms. They took it to their physician. Had one that was prescribed medication for anxiety and depresssion. She didn't need it for long but it took the edge off.Sometimes post partum plays a part in pregancy with some women. Its nothing to be ashamed of. Working full time, young son and no energy. The antidepressants will give you a boost till your emotions and body catches up with you.
Hope this helps.

Sounds like you have post partum (spelling??)depression. This is very normal to feel like this after having a baby. Your body is still getting back to normal. I had the same symptoms and my doctor prescribed zoloft which helped tremendously. And don't be afraid to talk to your doctor about this. They are there to help. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. Don't give up...hope this helps.

bobbie
you're NOT crazy, in face you sound EXACTLY like me about a month and a half ago! i was always a positive person and hardly ever yelled really then after my baby was born about 8 months later....i started getting mad at him for crying....i was always exhausted, didn't want to get up in the a.m. wasn't hungry, didn't care what was going on with anyone or anything. Laundry piled up, dishes etc. My dr started me on anti-depressants (after much convincing of my family members to actually call the dr.) and i'm back to my old self! :) It actually did the trick and i was amazed! :) You should try calling your OB b/c this isn't something to be taken lightly!
hope things get better for you!
S.

you need something in your life on a regular basis that is just for you! i did too! look into classes or church or join a gym or a bowling league, take something a your local community center (i did jewery making! it was great!) it doesn't matter! just something that is just for you that is just for fun.

It is good that you are asking for advice. No one should judge you for that. I would STRONGLY suggest you see a doctor...either a family physician or your OBGYN. You might be suffering from post-partum depression. It can come on much later than you think. Being a first time mom is hard and there are tons of emotional and hormonal changes that happen. You might need an anti-depressant for a short time (like a year) to get your back on track. If you are against medication then see a pyschologist or if you are more religious see someone at a church - pastor/priest. I know many people think anti-depressants are bad but sometimes they are truly needed for a chemical imbalance. It is great that you recognize your behavior change, so get teh help you need! Take care of you!! : )

You're not the only one out here that gets this way. It's normal when we are overwhelmed and feel out of control. I'm talking about myself. I have to get somewhere where I can breathe, have some space and just be me. Try meditation - it works! Get a CD on it and practice it on a regular basis. I'm a middle age woman, overweight (about 10 lbs) with some of my good looks from youger days (haha), widowed and with 4 teens that my late husband and I adopted. I Have to be able to keep it together and so do you! Tell yourself "I can do this" over and over and over!

Go to your doctor's and have them check your thyroid levels. This can be done with a simple blood test. It's common that a women who just had a baby may begin to experience thyroid problems. Thyroid problems cause mood changes,etc...

You are cetainly not alone. Sometimes you just want them to "act normal" but we, as moms, must always remind ourselves that they are growing and learning how to be in the world, even at 18 months. Do ya'll stay at home a lot? I have noticed that when my daughter and I get out and walk the block, that she doesn't whine as much, the fresh air really helps and it gets you out and about as well. you can take that time to talk about things you see outside, you can teach your child things about safety while you are outside as well. Sometimes we yell...it is good and bad, we need our children to know that it is okay to have emotions, but we also need to teach them the right way to have emotions. The way you are feeling sometimes, may be the way your son feels, not becasue you are a bad mom, but because he is a small child that has a lot of energy or a lot to communicate and he's still trying to wrok that out. I am thankful that you love your son, always let him know that and remind yourself that you do. Take time to look at baby pictures with your son. I hope this helps, always willing and ready to talk about kids, so if I can help you, please let me know.

You are not crazy. I think you need to go to either your obgyn or family dr. and tell them because you could be depressed. It is perfectly normal for mothers of young children to get depressed. It is the most demanding and difficult job there is, but when you are feeling good then it is very rewarding. I had post-partum depression after my first daughter was born and I had never been depressed before I had her. I hope you feel better soon. Don't feel any guilt about this because it is not your fault.

I ditto the response on looking at your hormones, in particular your thyroid. Also, you don't mention if you're taking the BC pill, but that always made me a maniac. It turns out it depletes your B vitamins, which are really important for your nervous system and feelings of well being. Also, you don't mention diet and exercise, but recent research shows exercise is the MOST effective anti-depressant of all and it depends upon your make-up, but I personally do better on a higher protein diet and sugar makes me crazy. I also latter learned that I have celiac disease (intolerance to the protein/gluten found in wheat, rye, barley and oats), which leads to all sorts of nutritional deficiencies due to damage to the gut. This can lead to depression and anxiety, as well and recent research shows that in many people, there is actually no GI symptoms, but the gluten does impact the brain.

So, no, you're not crazy, but should see a doctor to rule out things like hypothyroidism and celiac disease and then look at your lifestyle - diet, exercise and sleep, all of which can make a huge difference in how one can handle the stresses of motherhood, which is the most stressful job in the world (studies have shown mothers are more stressed than soldiers in a war zone).

It sounds like you need a little time to yourself. As much as we love our kids sometimes we need a break. Do you ever have a chance to go out with your boyfriend or your friends without kids? My husband travels all the time and I am a stay at home mom. I hire a sitter for 4 hours every week on Wednesday afternoons. I really look forward to that time. I think if you can get out without your child it will give you the break and perhaps perspective you need. Good luck!

If it 'takes one to know one' then i can say with a moderate degree of certainty you are suffering from a form of depression. And if you son is only 18 months - it could be post partum.

In any event - it does NOT make you a bad mom. It just makes you human. So first off, lighten up on yourself!

If you have a good relationship with your pediatrician - ask him/her for a referral to a mental health specialist that deals with new moms. If not, check with your family doctor.

Don't put this off. The sooner you seek professional help, the sooner you can put this funk behind you.

And in the mean time - be good to you. Hot bubble baths. Good books. Favorite music. and if all else fails - one thing that almost always works for me (other than chocolate) is to sit down and LITERALLY count my blessings. Take stock - out loud - of what IS good in your life. Every single thing - big and little!

While you may feel that what you are experiencing is not normal you should acknowledge that is not uncommon. You are in good company here.

Lots of MamaLove to you and yours!

I'm glad you've gotten such helpful responses, and I agree - you need to get checked out thoroughly for depression (which most of us don't recognize when it's masked with rage) or hormonal imbalances. Your life has changed drastically by having a baby, and now that he's older and requires more interaction and discipline, it's a lot more challenging. I would also encourage you to try to find some part-time help in the late afternoons/early evenings, because that is usually when everyone is stressed out (baby's tired, Mom is frazzled, Dad wants a break). If you could find a teenager or college student who would help you from 4-6 p.m. a couple of days a week, it might make a big difference. She could keep the baby entertained while you get dinner ready...give your son a bath...help wash dishes...whatever would help the most.

Another thing I'm going to suggest is checking out www.fibroandfatigue.com. They have a clinic here in Dallas that will give you a thorough check-up and lots of support and help (medically) with any hormonal imbalances you may have. It's expensive but you are worth it! And so are your son and boyfriend. Take care and best wishes!