Am I a Bad Mom?

Hi G.. I doubt one weekend will make a difference with your son. If he has a good time, he won't even notice (I say that in a nice way). You are not a bad mom. However, one weekend for yourself will make a world of difference for yourself and your mental health. I say go ahead! Think of it this way - one weekend out of a lifetime of weekends isn't very much time away from your son in the grand scheme of things. Have some fun! We all need it once in a while! Jule

Dear G.,
You are not a bad mother, just the fact you are asking the question shows your good mothering instincts. If you live in the Cumming, GA area, please come to the MOMS support group at First Baptist Church on Wednesday nights at 6:30. Child care provided. MOMS is a Ministry of Single Mothers program that provides spiritual encouragement as well as seminars on issues single mothers face every day. The Address is 1597 Sawnee Drive, Cumming, Ga, Room 215. You may contact me at ____@____.com for more information.

Taking time for YOU will make you a better mom!! If you are that concerned about it, let your friend take him for MOST of the weekend, and be refreshed and ready when he comes back. Don't be too hard on yourself!
Good luck!

This does not make you a bad Mom....If you do not have time for your self you will be a bad Mom.

I don't think it's a bad thing or you're a bad mom for needing a break. Everyone needs alone time. I just recently went through my own self judgement battle on this. I have a 3 1/2 yr old boy also. My husband and I are getting divorced and he was not around the first 3 years of justin's life but now acts like he wants to see him all the time. My sister in law always wanted my baby to spend the night but I always said no, even though I needed a break, because I felt like I was a bad mom if I wanted to send him away for the night. Now that I let him spend the night at his dad's twice I realize it's good for me and him. We both get a break and when you get him back the next day you realize how much you miss and take for granted the day to day things. plus it gives him time to do things that maybe you aren't able to do at the time. It refreshes you both. hope that makes sense!

Hi G.,

I am also 29 and a single parent of two girls. I think that everyone questions their parenting skills at times, but just hang in there and know that you are not alone. My advice is don't feel guilty and just do your best. I'm sure that when your son grows older, he will realize what a wonderful mother you are if he hasn't figured that out already.