Alarm Clock

Get a tall chest of drawers. Put it on the other side of the bedroom (put the alarm clock on it) where he has to get out of bed to shut it off or put it on snooze. It will break him real quick. He will then set it for the time he really wants to get up instead of doing the snooze bit over and over.

G.,

I am in your shoes. I have learned to adapt and fall asleep between snoozes as well. It took 20 years. A fun and satisfying solution to those mornings that are particularly important to get up and still fighting the alarm clock have been frozen marbles. I keep a bag in the freezer. I announce that he must be out of bed before I return with the marbles or he will be wearing them. The covers are removed and the marbles are dumped and they roll towards his skin. They are cold and he moves. After one application all I needed to do was shake the bag as I approached the bedroom. He gets up. I am watching the responses you get and see if there are any useful hints. It basically boils down to selfishness, but they don't see it that way and blame fatigue and not knowing what they are doing. I have wondered if there is a sleeping disorder involved. And I suspect the executive functioning part of the brain isn't doing its job either. Good luck. B.

Hi there G.,
Can you move the alarm clock to his side of the bed? If there isn't a nightstand on his side, move one there. Also, you could get some ear plugs. Lastly, just stop waking him up. When the alarm goes off, DO NOT TURN IT OFF, get up and go lay down on the couch.
Hopefully you will find a solution if these are not helpful to you.

Kindest regards,
M.

You have my sympathy. My husband is an early riser but he doesn't snooze. He sets his alarm on his cell phone to vibrate. And then in the morning when it vibrates, he takes the phone and himself out to the living room to do what he pleases. Although I hear the vibrating cell phone at times, it does help me to stay asleep most of the time. Also, I wear foam ear plugs to sleep.

If he doesn't see that you need to sleep in the morning, then maybe you need to talk to him because obviously he thinks his sleep time is more than important than yours.

Good luck!!

I'd move the clock to his side of the bed and set it for the time he wants to get up, make it his responsibility not yours.
Or don't use an alarm... what's the point.
I bet he'd wake in time anyway.
You're treating him like your child he's an adult isn't he, capable of making intelligent decisions on his own and taking action.

Seems simple to me. If the alarm is not on your side of the bed (and you can't just move it to your side)...when it goes off, don't hit snooze...don't wake him up to hit snooze. Just lean over him, shut it off and go back to sleep. Let him pay the consequences for being late to work -- not sure what line of work he's in, but surely if his tardiness is noticed at work or his performance suffers from being late...maybe he'll get it in gear. Clearly, he doesn't care about your concern over it...

Quit enabling him! Like ppl said...he's a grown adult. If there's a sleep disorder, that's one thing...but to me, it sounds like laziness and selfishness...he's making everyone pay for his 'need' for a little more sleep.

If this was my husband, I'd be taking a serious stand. You teach people how to treat you...and he won't change as long as you keep putting up with it. Why would he?

G.:
I think it very inconsiderate of your husband to be so self-centered as to disturb your sleep over and over while he keeps hitting the snooze on the clock. Make it his responsibility to get up and don't make it your responsibility to make sure he wakes on time. Going to the other room is not the answer. How would he feel on his day off that you set the alarm and continue hitting the snooze until he is disturbed. Undoubtedly he will not have good start to his or your day. It may not be good advice, but that's what I would do, especially if talking to him about it and trying to negotiate didn't work. Good luck.

my first thought was to move the clock across the room. But it doesn't seem like he would just accept that. Don't say anything and change the time to when the alarm goes off to 1 hour later. When it goes off, you tell him what time it is and then he will have to get up. you can change the time after he goes to sleep if you have to. I would warn him first. Say that if he doesn't start doing it on his own, you will do it for him.

I would shut it off (not hit snooze) & say, "I shut off the alarm clock- you need to get up"... he isn't a 12 year old!

OR, ask him how he'd like it on weekends if you did that. My husband did that too & now does sleep a few nights in the guest room (also snores like a coming tornado)

I would put the alarm clock on the other side of the roo. That way he has to get his butt out of bed if he wants to his to snooze. OR get a clock without a snooze function.

I know this is not an option for you, I sometimes sleep in my guest room. Nice big bed by myself.