I am trying to wean my son off his beloved pacifier. He is very attached and as soon as I make a little progress he goes to my grandmothers house (she is his child care provider) she gives it back to him and even attaches it to his shirt so he won't lose it, Now it seems like he is more attached than ever. I am looking for the best approach for him and granny.
Hi A.,
We first moved our twins to pacifiers only at naps and bedtime. then we started talking about how pacifiers are just for babies and that it would soon be time to give them up. when it was time to give them up for good, we took them to "build a bear" and they put their nuks inside the bear of their choosing. it worked great for us!
good luck, it is not an easy thing to do!
L.
mom to gentry and ainsley 11/03
Hi! Well my first question is why does granny even have any pacifiers? I would take them away from her and any in your house and have some kind of ceremony to say goodbye. If she doesn't have any she can't give them to him. We just got our daughter off of hers and we used Easter as the excuse. "The Easter bunny needs the paci to bring to all the new babies. You are a big girl and big girls don't need them." Then the Easter bunny took it and left her a present saying that he was going to give them to all the babies who needed them and that she was a big girl and didn't need them. We discussed this every night for 2 weeks leading up to it so she knew it was coming. It worked for us. Good luck!!
My son only ever used his nuk for nap time and car rides. We first just stopped offering for car rides and he did fine with that. Taking it away at nap time was a litte more difficult. I started snipping the tip of the rubber off a little at a time. He would still take it when it was snipped but when it got so low he could barely keep it in his mouth he didn't want it anymore.
Set limits for your son and grandma!!! Tell her you are trying to get him OFF of the pacifier. My daughter had hers until she was almost 3 because my mom kept giving it to her when I was gone. I just finally got rid of ALL of them and spent 2 days with a crying child. We looked for them and just couldn't find them. She had trouble sleeping for 2 nights then all was fine. You just have to stick to your guns. Good Luck!!
Cut the tip off all of his pacifiers they will not give the sucking feeling so he will no longer want them as for Grandma you may just have to put your foot down and say it is time to stop the binki. I had the same grandma problem with the bottle, finally I just put them in ziplocks and puth them in the trunk of my car, out of sight out of mind. Good luck
