Advice/Opinions On Stepmother Sending Inappropriate Text Messages to Husband.

If you do not want a direct confrontation I will tell you my story and you can use it to "ask" if she knows anything about it.

Years ago my yahoo email account got "stolen" by a man that knew me, and I am guessing wanted something with me and when he did not get it got very upset.

I did not know what information he had, but apparently he had total access to all my information and contacts. One day my mom calls me very upset because one of her friends received an email from MY email account with a photoshop of me.... in a cover of a men's magazine with huge boobs, totally naked... with my face.

Shortly after a friend called me and said that someone had been chating with him in the yahoo messanger but the messages turned extremely sexually oriented and he knew it could not be me since he knows me from way back.

I cancelled my yahoo account but I do not know how many persons received or lived any type of experience with this person thinking it was me and I can not imagine what could they thought/think of me.

This story can help you.... asking her... have you had any problem with your accounts? did any got hacked or something? my husband received this extremely nasty or disgusting emails and they appear to come from you... ask also infront of your father. She may or may not be brave enough to admit she did it but either way is a way to letting her know you do not like or appreciate this kind of messages to your husband without going full force ready for fight.

Hope this idea helps.
M.

Since she texted your husband I would get him to text her back and tell her to absolutely never text him anything like that again. He should be very clear that he doesn't keep things from you and you both are extremely disturbed by what she sent. Not funny, not appropriate, never again!

I feel that u should tell her straight up that U dont want this to effect you alls relationship but it not only makes ur hubby uncomfortable but u as well n sending messages of that nature to ur hubby is inappropriate n is not acceptable. Judging from her past u shouldnt beat around the bush with her but at the same time keep a healthy relationship for the sake of ur father. Judging from her past n im sorry to say this n I dont want to put any negative thoughts in ur head but keep her away from ur hubby and ALWAYS TRUST UR INSTINCT..Good luck..NIP THIS INAPPROPRIATE BEHAVIOR N THE BUD!!!

Hi,I can understand your situation.The emails sound vulgar and disgusting.Without knowing the woman I would wonder what kind of person she is.The emails are obviously in very poor taste.It is a touchy subject,since your relationship is somewhat rocky.If it were me,I would ignore this and if she sends more,or brings them up in conversation,tactfully say that you would prefer those kinds of things not to be sent.If you have children you obviously don't want your kids to see that.I have rec'd some emails about Tiger Woods that are in poor taste as well,although not as bad as what you described.I personally think he has been humiliated enough.Even though he has done his family terribly wrong,I think the man has a real problem and is not just a roving man.

Hi L.,
I totally agree with sending her a text and making it clear that neither your husband nor you are ok with inappropiate text messages. I think both of you should put a stop to it soon. or Better yet ask her infront of your father to make sure she doesnt send ANY inappropiate nor pornographic text messages to your husband, Say something like I hope the last 2 were sent accidentaly,but neither of us appreciate inappropiate messages. So please stop it. This should make it clear that your husband doesnt hide it from you.

this may sound odd but id be interested to see if your dad may have sent the messages from her phone...if shes cheated before he could be jealous/insecure and may have sensed something (false or not) and wanted to see how your husband would respond. good luck relationships are hard enough without third parties always interfering.