Advice on How to Cope with Trying to Get Pregnant!

I had the same thing happen and when I mentioned it to my doctor, he said just have sex one time, every 2 to 3 days within a month. Your cycle could be different every month and if you have sex every 2 or 3 days, you're sure to hit it. (after my doctor told me this, we were pregnant right away). you may want to try that option before seeing a specialist. Just a thought

Quit trying for awhile and just enjoyed being married. Do not think about children when you are together and that is when it will happen. I would give it some time and relax I have had several friends with your same problem and when they quit trying that is when it happened. But you truly need to quit trying and just enjoy each other.

Good Luck.

We tried for 5 years before seeing a doctor, got answers and help and now have 4+ kids. I think when it's in your heart to have children, you will. How you get those kids may be different than you expected (adoption?). What I learned at the fertility clinic (a LOT!) was that 90% of couples will conceive within 9 months of trying. So, if it's been a year, it's definitely worth making an appt. Mine turned out to be endometriosis and a cyst, both taken care of and could conceive on my own. I maybe should have gone earlier, but now feel the timing was how God wanted it and feel like I'm a better parent being a bit older. Either way, you will feel better having some more information on your side. Make an appt.

I tried for several months before seeing my doctor. He gave me a schedule and I got pregnant right away. I told my general doc the same tip from my obgyn and his wife got pregnant right away after trying for a year.
If your cycle is 28 days, have sex on days 12, 14 and 16 after the day your period starts. If it's 30 days, do days 14, 16 and 18. Your husband needs time to build his little guys back up. Since I was a little irregular, we did every other day from 12-18.
Give it another month or two, relax, and enjoy being married. And don't stress about it if it's not meant to be - there are lots of babies out there in need of a good mom that would love to have you.

My advice would be to go online to www.justmommies.com and join the TTC board (trying to conceive.) It helped me immensely to have that support and advice available while my husband and I were trying. Also, if you aren't yet charting your cycle, try fertilityfriend.com. This is where you take your temp each morning and it can help you determine whether or not you're ovulating, and if so when so you can plan intercourse in the days preceding ovulation in order to catch that egg. A good book to check out that will tell you how to go about charting is Taking Charge of Your Fertility. Very easy to read and understand. We tried for about 7 months without really doing anything and then I started charting. We were pregnant by my 6th month of charting. At the time it seemed long, but I know now that that was nothing. Also, if you do go to a doctor they will tell you to start charting anyway so you may as well get started first so you can bring him or her some information. Good luck! I hope this helps.
D.

Since you are close to 35 I would recommend going to a Fertilty specialist NOW. Even if there is news you think you don't want to hear. My husband & I got married at 28 and waited over a year of trying. Then went to a doctor, then a Fertilty Center. We went through over 6 years in all for different treatments (IUI's and IVF). Our last try worked, so there is hope...even when there seeems to be none. Don't give up!!!!!!!! But don't not go to the doctor. Earlier treatment is better...once you hit 35 then your fertility starts to drop (according to stats from many fertility websites). Try not to stress...I know everyone prob tells you that (I used to hate hearing that and "it'll happen when it's meant to") Just get checked out...it could be a simple fix! Good luck & hope this helps!
J.

I had a miscarriage last March and it was absolutely devastating. Immediately afterwards, all I wanted to do was get pregnant again. My husband and I were constantly having sex, not making love. There was no fun in it and everything started feeling forced. Finally, we stopped having sex and though it wasn't as often, started making love again. Not to get pregnant, but because we truely love each other and we enjoyed it so much more. My point is, when people told me to stop tying and just let it happen, I didn't care. I wanted a baby now! As hard as it was at first, I was able to let go of the "I want to be pregnant now" mentality. And I am happy to say that I am living proof of the "just have fun, God will bless you when he's ready" idea. Approx. 3 months after my miscarriage, I missed my period. I am now almost 18 weeks with a healthy baby. Just try to be patient and I have full confidence that you too will soon become a mommy. Good luck and God bless!

Be patient. Sometimes it takes couples longer to conceive than others. Also, it has been found that the more you stress about it, it decreases your ability to conceive. Many women try and try and get very upset and stressed about not conceiving, and when they finally get to the point to where they accept that they are not going to get pregnant (and relax)... they get pregnant! I wouldn't believe the doctor even if he said you couldn't get pregnant anyway... my sister-in-law was told the same thing, but she believed that she would one day have a baby, and it took a long time, but finally after a long time of trying and being told she couldn't have a baby, she became pregnant and now has a 6 month old son. It is not uncommon for it to take a year or longer to conceive... especially if you have previously been on birth control.

Well I can tell you that probably the last thing you want to hear is "relax" and "quit trying". So hopefully you won't hear that too many times here. My husband and I have been trying for 19 1/2 months. We did start seeing a doctor at 1 year. We fall into the unexplained infertility category. So basically we want to get pregnant, can't, and still don't know why. We have one daughter so it's possible, we know. It took 10 months with her. We have been through the quit trying phase, relax phase that everyone tries to tell you to do. The fact is, that's easier said then done when they aren't the ones that want it so bad! I would say see a doctor. There's all kinds of options depending on your situation. Most of all stay positive! I know sometimes that's hard, but ya still gotta try! :) Best wishes to you and your husband. I hope you get your little miracle soon!

Hi M., congratulations on getting married. This is the most exciting time for you. At least is was for me. You will get pregnant when the good Lord says it is time. Int the meantime, you can read the book 'The Secret' and get your mind on other things like the baby's room and it will happen for you. I know it will. Let me know hwo it goes and the big news. Congratulations again.
K.

sometimes stressing out over this can cause you to take longer to get pregnant, I know this was the case for me, with my first were weren't counting days, or tracking anything, and it just happened, with my second pregnancy I was actually counting my fertile days and testing as soon as my period was a few days late and it took me longer to pregnant,I hope you get pregnant soon and wish you the best.