My advice would simply be this:
Some questions are not good to throw out to a crowd of strangers. We don't know you, we don't know your history with your loved ones, how stable it is, etc. ALL we know of you is what you tell us. That's it. So, write what is important and skip the extra details that aren't, unless you want us to consider them.... because we will.
And know, too, that if 75% or more people are saying "what, are you nuts", "run for the hills" or "that's not a good idea".... there's probably the ring of truth to it. And if you don't like the answers, have a little dignity and self-respect. I don't mind if someone decides to remove their question, but when there's a long bitching session about how the readers are 'stupid' or to "answer the question! Hmmmph!" (stamps her little foot)... it just makes the OP look petty, sad and stupidly in denial.
Funny, I don't know why someone seems to be picking on you directly regarding this question. I don't think of this as your *asking permission* to be direct (which I happen to appreciate), but rather, asking people "What sort of advice could you give a person who is going to ask a complicated relationship question?" I think everyone reads into a question what they want it to be about. I know I'm guilty of that from time to time. I personally enjoy the range of voices. People need to remember it is **FORUM**, not a chorus of unconditional validation. Personally, I think a lot of these relationship questions would be better addressed to one's spouse, significant other, or a counselor, not a bunch of strangers. I could be a troll of a person who screws people over on a regular basis in my real life-- so why on earth would anyone take my advice to be anything more than one person's thoughts is beyond me. (I'm not a horrid person, by the way, but just pointing out that common sense needs to be present when using a site like this one.) Logic.