My husband and I are leaving for vegas in a few weeks, without our daughter. My mother-in-law is watching her for 4 days, This is the first time leaving her overnight. my mother-in-law lives an hour away, and really doesnt see my daughter that much. Is is too much to ask her to stay at our house rather than taking her to hers? My husband thinks there is nothing wrong with her staying at her grandmas. But i think she is still too young, doesnt know her grandma all that well, and finally got her bedtime routine down. Ive literallty been losing sleep over this matter. please help!
I would prefer my house, but I'd say it's up to Grandma! Give her the option and see what she says.
Have fun!
I think it's actualy easier on my son to go to Grandma's. At my place he'd keep looking for me! At Grandma's he'd relax and go to with flow.
You know what? Your daughter is going to be just fine in either place. Since MIL is doing you all this favor, I would let it be HER choice. Offer your home, but be fine with letting her stay in her own home.
I think as parents we lose sight that our children are fine when they are being cared for and loved. Your MIL raised the man you love the most, she is going to be able to figure out how to handle any situation.. Get some rest.
When my parents have watched our girls overnight it's *always* at our house - and my girls are very close with my parents.
It's much easier on the kids to be in their own home, in their own bed, with all the familiar smells and sounds at home.
Plus, when you get home your MIL gets to go home to her nice, tidy, quiet house instead of cleaning up, changing sheets, etc.
I would say-hey do you want to come here or should she come to your house....I am just thinking it might be easier if you came here then you might have an easier time with all her stuff right there. But I wouldn't push it. Four days is a long time and she is an older woman who will most likely feel more comfortable in her own house. I know that I would.
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I think its great for your DD to stay with Grandma!! After all you are asking her to babysit for 4 days. Children adjust and she'll be just fine. It is good for kids to experience new things.
I don't think it should matter which house she stays. The fact is you guys will still not be present at either house - and your MIL doesn't see her much, she will get to know her more now. Your daughter would not be missing anything other than the "perfume" smell of your house. The important thing is that someone familiar is taking care of her in your absence. Try to get some sleep, you will need it on the trip- I would probably be worrying more about whether she will be missing me when gone :-))
It can't hurt to ask. If your child is more comfortable in her own surroundings (as most young children are) then both grandma and child will probably have an easier time of things if she is at your house.
Maybe your husband can ask her? He could just throw it out there that everything the baby needs is at your house and it could be easier for her and the baby.
There is no harm in asking at all. If she prefers to stay at her home, just make sure you pack anything for your baby that is very familiar from home like a favorite blanket.
Either way your baby will be fine and what a great time for her to bond with Grandma!
Have fun in Vegas!!
It doesn't hurt to ask. How old is your daughter? How does she do with napping outside of her home? You can ask your MIL and see what she says. She might be willing, she might not. She might also do better than you think she will, so don't worry too much. Kids are pretty resilient. :)
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It will absolutely be better for both your daughter and her grandmother if they stay at your house, so much easier for everyone! My MIL watched my kids several times over the years and she always preferred to come here. But yes, since she's doing you a favor, you should ask her what she prefers. Have fun in Vegas!
I don't see any harm in asking. However, I do agree with hubby that there's nothing wrong with staying at grandma's house. IMO it will just be easier for everyone if she comes to your house.
I understand completely where you are coming from. I would ask, I think it would be sooooo much easier for you and you wouldn't have to pack anything. Your mother in law I would think would agree because everything will be right where she needs it to be, and the baby will be in her own comfortable environment. If I were her I would rather go to your home then to try to child proof mine.
Cant hurt to ask. She might be good with the idea, and everything will work out. Just explain your thought process of it being more familiar for your daughter, and all her things are home, and it would be easier than carting all her things to Grandmas for a few days, and so instead of potentially forgetting something important, its all there for your daughter.
How about taking her to grandma's house a few times in the next weeks. She can get to know her better, and her house.
Insist she stay at your house, beginning at least one night before.
My inlaws made my child's stay so miserable she won't ever stay there without us. She still remembers and it traumaticed her.
We just left our kids, ages 5 and 2, for a week with the grandparents. My Mom and my MIL/FIL split the week up and found it easier to come to our house. My in laws watch our kids from time to time and usually say its easier to come to our house. BUT - that doesn't mean we haven't dropped the kids off at their house either. We have done both and both work fine. I would talk to your MIL and see what she thinks would be easiest.
My son stayed with his grandparents for two weeks while we were in Asia. He had just turned 2 and the grandparents live out of state and he sees them only a few times a year. He was old enough to remember them though. He had a fabulous time playing in a new place, getting showered with love, hanging out with aunties and uncles who live there. I was nervous and was second guessing my decision of him staying there, but in the end it was great for him and them and kids are more flexible than we think. Let her go to grandma's and you have a great vacation!
Yes, just ask her.
That would be best.
How old is your daughter?
Then, just bring home a nice gift for your MIL, when you get back from the trip.
Go with your Mommy instinct.
Plus, as you said, your daughter does NOT see this Grandmother, very much.
So, that means, she does not see MIL's home much either.
And if home, your daughter will have her same routines... IF your MIL, does it.
Maybe have MIL over, prior... so you can explain your daughter's routines to her.. and show her wear everything is in your house etc.
It does not seem like, MIL really knows your daughter well enough.
