I need some advice...my daughter and her boyfriend have called it quits! They have been dating on and off for 10 years! I am glad that it is finally over! She is so hurt, but realizes that the break up is for the best. So, I have been accumulating "things" for the bridal shower and wedding for over a year. Should I get rid of everything...maybe they are bad luck items now! What do you all think?
Thank you all for your great advice! I'm going to keep the items I have accumulated for the bridal shower and wedding. You are right...they are things that I thought my daughter would like and she even helped pick out many of them. The truly scary thought...they could have already been married...they had postponed their wedding because his grandfather and my mother were extemely ill. I want to believe that my daughter will never get back together with this guy...he recently told her that he didn't ever want children....a deal breaker for my daughter. Thanks again!
I would keep everything, also, if they have been on and off for 10 years, most likely they will be "on" again... Even if they don't get back together, I'd just wait a year to see, then give it to someone that might need it...
I have 7 children: boys and girls. When they are about 16 I start buying things on sale - stuff they will need no matter if they are married are decide to live on their own. I make it into a "Hope Chest". All of them have been very grateful. I would say not only should you keep the stuff, but continue to add to it as you can afford. Circuit City is going out of business. Good time to pick up small appliances and vaccuum cleaners!
Hi Kathie,
One of my dearest friends had her wedding called off two months before the big day. Of course, everything was planned and ready to go. She was very sad at first, but later she realized it really was for the best. Two years later she married someone else and used all the stuff she already had, including the dress she had already purchased. My friend and her husband are about to celebrate their 9th wedding anniversary and they are very happy! I would save all the stuff you have bought for when she does get married-I don't think they will be "bad luck". HTH!
I would return what you can, not because it is bad luck, but because why have money tied up in things you don't know if you will need or not next time. The things you can not return, I would store for next time.
I wore a wedding dress that I had bought for a prior occasion 7 years ago. It hasn't given me any problems. :)
S.
Hang on to the stuff if it's not creating clutter for you, but if it is, donate or re-sell whatever you can. You never know...when she finds the right man for her, she may have changed tastes, etc. by then.
Kathie,
I agree with the other responders. I don't think that "things" are bad luck. Keep what's appropriate for the future if you have the space, but only if you want to!
Be glad that this happened before the wedding, not after it!
A.
Use wisdom about what you keep and what you get rid of. I wouldn't toss out anything for a few weeks or maybe months then you might want to see what you could get for them on Ebay. Ask your daughter. Also remember that she will find someone in the future and she may want them for her wedding. Some of the not wanted items could be gifted to someone else for use in their wedding.
It's not bad luck holding on to things you like. It will have no impact on any relationship your daughter may have. They are just things! It is practical to keep things - not something that brings bad luck.
I don't necessarily believe it would be bad luck, but storing stuff for an undetermined time when you are unsure these thing will be what she wants in the future might not be a good idea. 10 years is a long time and she will probably grow more into her own person now which means changes in style and tastes. Ask her about what she wants to do with what you have and go from there.
If they're things you really like and would like your daughter to have, keep them. Save them for when she finds the right guy. I don't think they're bad luck.
I don't believe things can be bad luck. I would get rid of anything that I got with the two of them in mind. However, if there are things that you got with only your daughter's tastes in mind, then keep them. I think it will mean alot to her to have some things that her mom collected through the years when she does get married. Also, keep in mind that she may want to pick out some things that are specifically appropriate for her and the man she does marry. I am currently single and really resisting planning my wedding for when I do meet my husband, but I want everything to be expressive of our love. However, I would be absolutely touched and blessed to receive things from my mother that she had accumulated in anticipation of my wedding day. So, talk to her and see what she thinks.
