Adjusting to Single Parenthood

I'm so sorry this happened to your family. I've been a single mom for 14 years. It's not easy, but one thing I learned about myself is that I'm a heck of a lot stronger than I ever thought I was.
I hadn't worked outside the home for 10 years. I couldn't believe how quickly I fell back into it....as if I'd never missed a day. My kids were young and juggling work, daycare, school wasn't easy, but somehow it just works out. You do your best and you learn as you go along.
It's true that necessity is the mother of invention.
My ex didn't pay support so I had no choice but to be on the ball for my kids.
I still fall into bed dead tired most nights, but at least I know it's because I keep moving every day.

My kids are pretty proud of me too.
We've never had lots of money, but I've accomplished some pretty cool things along my journey.

You'll be fine. You really will.

Best wishes.

You definitely need to make sure your ex is paying child support, and possibly even alimony. I'm sorry you have to adjust to this! Maybe you can sub until things get more under control and then look into starting school in the fall or next spring.

First... big hugs. I'm sorry you're going through this.

Talk to an attorney. Most of them have a free or low cost initial consultation. They can give you legal advice and tell you how to proceed.

You are entitled to child support for sure and should file for that immediately. Since you were a stay at home mom all this time, you are probably entitled to alimony/spousal support as well for at least the next ten years.

If you want an idea of how much money that might be, go to your county or state's family court website. They usually have the calculator available there. You enter all the specifics about income and children etc and it gives you the guideline amount. If you want to avoid going to court over it, that figure might be a good one to just present to your husband and see if you can just agree and sign the support documents without paying court costs.

HTH
T.

it all just works out and i am sorry your plate is so full right now. my cousin had md and my aunt was a teachers aid so she could keep an eye on him and transferred schools with him. I would suggest consideringthat and being a teacher later you will already know the answers :)

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I would not overwhelm yourself. Make a list as to what you can do first priority to last priority. It is good that you want to go into education, but that is a long term investment of time and money so maybe right now, while this is so new, you should start small with getting a job of any kind that will be flexiable for your needs to the family. Maybe some friends can help you get connections. Maybe a support group of divorce or separated moms is something you can get into. Of coarse counsoling, excersise to keep you modivated and determined. I think a step by step process is good to be written down to what you can try and accomplish week by week and not so much look at the Whole picture. Alamony is great if your kids are still under 21 . I guess there is a thing with that I thought. I am so sorry for you to face the new year in this way. But God gives us many challenges in hopes to come out better then where we were. I will keep you in prayer.