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I have ADHD and my husband has ADHD. With this gene pool, my two children (one 3 and the other 4) may have ADHD, but my children are young to say. I am an occupational therapist that works with children with ADHD and other sensory integration disorders for the last 15 years. I will say my husband and I have been on meds during hard times in our lives, but do not like the way the drugs make us feel. There are a lot of new drugs out there for ADHD. This topic is often discussed in my house due to the above and my husband being a pharmacist. My husband would tell you all about how you do not know what the drugs are doing to the nervous system, etc. He would never give a child medication. I on the other hand work with the highly ADHD child and have seen night and day in children. I am for medication if the child really can not function without them. You are afraid for the child's safety. There are many ways to help child with ADHD.
I would suggest starting up with an evaluation to see if your child truly has ADHD or if the behaviors could have another reason. Remember that you are the mother and you see your child more than anyone else. If you do not like one doctors assessment, get another opinion.
My other suggestions are to read the out of sync child. It has practical suggestions in the book. Others are if your child is hyper and you need him or her to sleep or sit, give a big bear hug or wrap him or her up in a quilt or blanket. Do jumping jacks or push on the wall. Decrease stimulation in the room (turn off lights and sounds). This will calm the nervous system down to allow your child to concentrate or calm down. You will have to find a task or set of tasks that work for your child. If you notice your child responding in a positive way then great. The task will not work every-time or will not take the amount of time. Good luck.