I'd like another baby, my husband says he's done.
We have three children.
I will be very content if this is it for us. But if he wanted another, I'd jump at the chance.
Did any of you have husbands who changed their minds after saying "NO WAY!"
Just wondering... I've decided to not bring it up again for at least a year. :) Our baby is 18 months old. Our other two kids are 3 & 4.
NOTE: We are not arguing about this, if he doesn't change his mind, I'm okay to be done. This is more of a friendly fun question.
I am just wondering if anyone out there has a husband who was adamant that he was done and then wanted another baby after all (no chance of an accident here, so it would have to be a decision to actually get pregnant.)
Thanks mamas! :)
Well, my husband always wanted 3. I was fine with 1. We compromised and had 2, and that's been more than enough for both of us, actually. However, there's now a chance we could foster and possibly adopt my cousin's child (the little girl is almost 5 years old, and cute as a button), and we are both happy at the thought of doing so. So, you never know where life will take you! :)
You already have 3 healthy babies! Congratulations!
That's a handful when you think about college educations, retirement, weddings, etc.
As for us, we felt complete with 1 from day 1. She is 18 and will be heading off to college in the Fall of 2013. We couldn't be happier and we have NO regrets.
Some people are very content with 1 and some grieve because they don't want to stop having babies.
I think you are in the right frame of mind that if he does not come around that you'll be ok with it. You already know it takes 2 to be 100% on board and you are looking at it maturely. Some women are not that mature and they trick hubby into another one and that just makes huge issues.
Best wishes to you, whatever happens!!
We are opposite. Husband wants to try for a boy #3 but I am done. He brings it up all the time, and it makes me feel bad that he won't have his boy, but I just cannot go through another pregnancy.
There are times that I do think about it for his sake, but then reality hits me and I go back to the I am done stage.
I do not have easy pregnancies, so it isn't good for me.
Well, it's kinda the opposite with us. I thought I was done with one. Now I'm pregnant with #2 & he's already talking about #3! I don't know of I'm up for a third.
If I were you, I'd wait another year them bring it up again. You never know.
Well my husband only wanted 3 kids, we had 4 and I was told he was done. We have 8 now, and he would have more if I was willing. It does happen, wait till the little one is a little more independent, it's always hard to think straight when you have had back to back years of sleepless nights.
for reference our kids are 21, 20, 20, 19 then 11, 8, 6 and 3 :)
Just happened to my best friend :). She wanted a third, hubby did not. She totally let it go after the talked it out and the this year for valentines, his gift to her was to start trying for a third, so yes, I have seen it happen! Good luck :)
Well, my Husband wouldn't mind more kids.
We have 2 and that is enough for me.
And it is fine.
No problem.
Its not a big deal.
I was the one who said NO WAY after my 2 girls and then changed my mind. I'm due now in May with my baby boy:) my husband always said he wanted to try for a son, so now I can say we are officially done.
Not sure if I believe you'll be very content if that's it for you. If you're already willing to jump at the chance for another one and your youngest is only 18 months, then I think that desire will only get stronger with time.
I agree with you to wait another year and then bring it up. It took me a long time to decide I wanted to try for our boy. I was in no way ready when my daughter was 18 months. It just sounded too overwhelming to me, so maybe your husband has the same feelings on it too.
My hubby and I both went back and forth about it for about 1.5 years. Seriously. he would say "no way in hell," and I'd want one, and then he'd say "how about it?" and I'd say "no way in hell."
We just had our third almost a month ago. Best thing in the world! Hopefully your hubby will change his mind.
Oh yes, and I have a friend whose hubby was adamant, and they are trying for number three now. Do you know anyone with small babies? If so, invite them for dinner. Maybe your hubby is one of those men who can't resist a newborn. I know of a few cases where the sight of a newborn changed the minds of "adamant" men. ;-)
naaaah....just be happppyyyy :)
My husband and I always thought after three, there was an empty space at kitchen table. Six chairs. Amusement park ridges come two to a ride lol. We had our fourth. Actually there was never a question about a fourth. My friend had three and always thought about me and the empty seat at the table. They had a fourth.
