Definitely no 'harping' here! What happened may be a blessing in disguise! It can be a difficult decision to let them cry it out, even if you're NOT a fan of co-sleeping! You mentioned wanting the best for your son, as we all do. Don't assume that co-sleeping IS necessarily the best! There are valid points on both sides, and I really don't believe there is one superior method here. You have to go with what works best for your family. I have yet to see a child ruined or scarred by either method. If anything, I have actually witnessed a slightly higher level of insecurity in some who have co-slept, in terms of having Mom out of sight, during my employment with a mom's day out program. But they ALL eventually grow out of that as well. And again, that was just in some, not all. If your child is loved and nurtured he will be fine! Plus, think about it this way. It may be the best thing for your child if Mom has gotten a better night's sleep and has more energy than for him to co-sleep with you. Doing it now rather than when he's older and really in the habit may be easier on him as well, in terms of how long it takes for him to be done with crying it out. I'm sure the worst of it IS probably over. Whatever you decide to do, he'll be FINE! Good luck to you, dear!