A Second One Already?

I feel very similar as you. I have a 15 month old and my husband is ready for another one. I know I want another one (or two) but feel like I could wait a little longer. I have the same worries you do and also don't know if I'm ready to go through the newborn days (weeks/months)again. I just keep thinking of how I felt before my daughter was born...that I wouldn't be able to handle having a child, how would I care for another person? And it turns out you just do. I think that's how it will be with the second one. I think your feelings are totally normal. At least I hope so, since i have the same feelings. Good luck with your decision!

I have one son and he is 5 and getting ready to go to kindergarden in the fall. I want another baby so bad. I think that once you have a second child that you just automatically share the love to both of your children. I love Jared with my whole heart, and pay all my attention to him. Now that he is getting older though he requires less of my direct attention. In fact, he is the one asking for a brother or sister. I don't think your nutty you are just concerned and there is nothing wrong with that. Good luck and I am sure you will make a great choice. S.

I thought I could never love another child as much as my first, but it is amazing! You would never believe the new love that you find. What was even more awsome for me was watching my first child doting over the newborn. They are still as close as can be now and it warms my heart to watch them love on eachother and play together.
I found that I really made the most of the time that I had alone with my oldest when the baby was napping so we still had that "special" time together. I also made sure that my oldest helped with the baby, such as helping with his bath, changing diapers, or picking a toy to take along when we were going somewhere. She loved it and I think she's found more love by having a little brother.
I know it's hard to believe, but having a second child is like finding more love that you never knew existed! My daugher was 2 years and 9 months old when my son was born. We did read lots of stories about having a sibling and Mommy being pregnant before my son arrived, so I think she was really ready for it. I find their age difference to be just perfect!
I hope this helps...good luck!
K.

I went through the same emotions when I actually was pregnant with baby #2. I knew I wanted 2 (or 3 or 4...) but once I was pregnant I was terrified that I couldn't have enough love to offer the next one. I actually had nightmares and such. But once my second was born it was like my heart exploded exponentially. I now have 3 and hope to have at least one more. With an older one, you are able to connect differently...they can actually respond to you. But that precious infant time is a little break from the constant activity of the toddler/preschooler. Besides, the elder almost always relishes the role of being the "helper" or the "big brother or sister". I can't imagine my life without each of my sons and am amazed at how our mommy's hearts just expand to include all who become a part of our home. Hope that encourages you a little bit.

My husband was all talk last week about having a second, and a third! My son is 2 and I work full time as a high school teacher. Don't get me wrong, I do want a big family, but it is scary to me as well to think that I may have to give up my job someday, juggle everything, and in fact be very near insanity! PLUS, my husband has a year left to finish his degree and isn't working while doing it - I am a planner and need to know that he'll have a job in place and we'll be set financially, then I'll feel we can go ahead with the bigger family.
So, you are not being nutty - I am in your boat.