A Remembrance Present for Passing of a Loved One.

Everyone is different, I'm just going off how my Mom was when my Dad passed away suddenly, I think it's too soon. She hasn't had time to grieve and it doesn't feel real yet. I would wait. What she really needs right now is friends and family around her. When it first happens you have so much love and support then the funeral is over and you're left all alone. It took about three months before it really hit us my Dad was gone. I love the idea, I'm actually having one made w/ my Dad's old tshirts.

I believe it is too soon for something like this.
for christmas maybe but just after his death, I don't think it's a good idea.

My heart really goes out to your aunt. I think the quilt idea is wonderful.
It will take you some time to make it so when she gets it, I think she will appreciate it.
When my dad died, my cousin got a huge picture frame and made a collage of all kinds of photos of my dad from his Navy days, with the grandkids, etc. I really treasure it. I personally think a blanket or quilt would be nice to be able to wrap up in and hold.

I got a little urn with some of my dad's ashes and it might sound weird, but I carry it with me sometimes. In my pocket or my purse...just days when I really want to feel my dad close to me.
I think your aunt will treasure the blanket. That's my opinion.

I will keep her in my thoughts.

my mom always waits about a month and sends a second gift or card to those whose loved ones have died. she found that after my dad died, when all the family who had come for the funeral finally went home and no one was bringing food or flowers anymore, and other people had pretty much moved on with life, that's when she felt loneliest.
several years after my dad's death my mom made me something similar using an old army blanket and photos of my dad in the service. i love it. it is in a box where i can keep it safe and look at it from time to time.

I don't think that I can answer that for her. It's depends on what her sensitivity level is. Me, personally, would probably not want to see a face of my deceased loved on on a blanket but that's just the way I am. But I would probably love to receive a pillow that was made from his favorite t-shirt -- that way I have something to hold that the once wore and captures his true essence. But, again, this is just the way I am. Someone else would probably love to receive a quilt with a picture of her husband and son. Whatever you decide to do, I do hope that you know what a wonderful niece you are.

The best thing to do is to ask. Ask what you can do now, what you can do in a month, 6 months, a year, etc.

I agree with those who said I would personally not want something like that as a token of remembrance.

But, when I was diagnosed with cancer a few years ago, the nicest thing people could do for me was to wear a Livestrong bracelet in my honor. I've not taken mine off in over 2 years (except to exchange it when the original one broke a few months ago). Believe me, I noticed when it was missing, and it hurt.

No one will ever fill the void in her life and her heart from the passings of her son and her husband. But, you can help fill the emptiness by being there and helping her cope as she needs.

Even if you find something like a bracelet, a necklace with a charm of something important to them, etc. you can have one for her and wear something in their honor so she knows they're in your heart as well.

My sister died 2 years ago and we are just geting to do this. We are starting with quilt that use fabics that remind us of her. For example we are using a sunflower one and a panda bear one becasue these where some of her favorite things.

I think the best thing to do is call her and ask her if she would like to have these quilts. Let her be a part in making them picking out the pictures and fabrics if she likes. It has been great to work together with my mom and sisters to choose and design our own quilts even thought I am sewing them together.

One of the reasons we waited so long was we thought we could get a bit of my sisters old clothes from her widowed husband. He turned out to not wanting to give us any so we are moving on. But you might think of using some of their clothes in the quilts. Maybe old jeans or do a T-shirt quilt of all the old T-shirts they had.

These are just ideas but above al I think you should involve your aunt in the prosess and tell her you can wait a while if she is not ready yet!!

Good luck it is a great thought.

I think that is a wonderful idea.. and it's not too much, and it's not too soon. It's special. People who have lost loves ones really appreciate when others take the time to care for them and let them know how sorry they are. I think this is a great idea.

I think that is an awsome idea. I wish I would have thought of that for my dad when my mom passed. I may still try that, even though he now lives in an assisted living place and his memory is fading. That would definitely be one thing to keep her close to him longer.

As for when the best time to give something like that, I really don't have a clue there. Sorry.

Good luck & thanks for the sweet idea.
C.

I think that if you are truly feeling this idea then go with it, but also explain to her when you give it to her that you understand if its too soon or too much but you wanted to do this for her from your heart. If she puts it away so be it, you fulfilled something inside of you that told you to do it. Go with it!

I think that is a great idea! It will be something she can snuggle up with, that has memories of good times. I think she would love it!

Love the idEA AND THINK IT IS THOUGHTFUL. She will love it. Do it!

My sister and some other volunteers make quilts with photos for children with parents in Iraq, Afghanistan, etc. They are incredible gifts for them to remind them of their loved ones. She made a quilt for a family that had 5 kids - the DAY she delivered it they found out their dad was killed at war. It was so comforting to have this gift they could snuggle with, sleep with, etc, and it had photos of the dad with each of his kids. It will help their healing process. So...not too much and not too soon. I am so sorry for your family's loss - I hope you are doing OK and taking care of yourself too!

Just a little background, my husband passed away about a year and an half ago. I got lots of things to remember him with right after he passed and I will tell you that I politely thanked everyone for their thoughts but it was too difficult to look at. I put them all away in a box and left them there for 6 months. If you want her to truly appreciate it and to look at it fondly I would wait a little while. I definately agree with previous posts that stated that when someone passes people are there for you right away but then everyone goes home. I never felt so alone as I did about a month after he passed. Being there for her at that time would mean more until she is ready to look at things with his picture. Hope I am not appearing to preach, it is a terrible thing that has happened and my sympathy goes out to her.

I think any effort and any time spent doing something for someone that has lost some one is an excellent idea and will be much appreciated by the receiver. Believe it or not, when people lose someone they get the upfront attention then a sense of alienation begins. I think a lot of people just do not know what to do so they do nothing.

I think your aunt will love your thoughtful gift, I say go for it.

Having experienced allot of loss I would say the gift sounds very thoughtful and loving. It is a nice way to show her how much you care. It may be she puts it in the closet for a bit or maybe she will sleep under it everynight or hang it on the wall. The only thing that could cause her more pain is silence and not showing your love-so please I encourage you to make her this wonderful blanket. And talk to her and cry with her about her losses.