WOW! I'm amazed @ how many women have these issues and are willing to just be miserable about it! First of all any OB that says that painfulsex is a phase, is wrong!!!! You may have a serious problem or Endometriosis. but you should find out why you are in pain! second, I think everyone w/ kids is tired. You run all day every day! And I can tell you I don't feel like the sexy desirable chickee-poo I used to! Sometimes I think it would help if we feel like we are more than a means to an end, if you know what i mean. We need to feel like we are desirable/wanted. not just needed. We are 'needed' all day for food and clothes and potty and shall I go on? have you talked to you hubby about how you feel? Guys don't think about things the same way we do. They just don't. sometimes, no all the times, we need to spell it out for them! They won't get offended, cuz they want some good fun too! most of the time they'll do anything for it!! lol
I would still consult a different OB. Nothing wrong w/ a second opinion! right? we get it for everything else!
I've had several female issues and one thing ALL of my research is in agreement on is pain is NOT a good thing. espcially if you didn't have it before or it's getting worse.
good Luck! Let me know how you're doing!