M.S.
Hello S.,
I am so sorry for what he said to you. You are beautiful just the way that you are. God made you who you are and he does not make junk.
I know that this is going to be very hard for you to hear, but I need to say what i think.
I know that you love him and i know that your kids love him. BUT!!
He might be saying these things to you because he no longer wants to get married. He might be saying this kind of stuff to hurt your feelings so that you will tell him to leave. He might not want to be the one to break it off with you. What about sex? If he ia talking to you like that in a fight, then how does he feel when it is time to make love?
I truly do not want to trash this guy but he is nasty for saying that to you. That was totally wrong on his part.
In his right mind I do not think that he would hurt you like that so i am thinking that he has something bigger bothering him and that he does not want to tell you. "like he wants out." Because he said that he wants to be happy. Then that means that he is not happy right now if he said that!!
If I was you, there is NO WAY i would stay with him. I know that it will be hard on you and the kids but the LORD has great plans for you and your kids and he already knows who he wants you to marry and this guy is not it.
What i want you to do is to sit back and read what you wrote, and read it as if you were reading it for the first time and it was coming from another young mother that needed advice. Think about what you would tell her to do and that is what you need to do.
Trust your heart. Trust in the LORD with all of your heart.
This guy does not love you the way that you need him to. I do not know if you have any daughters (Imagine her as a grown up )how would you feel if some man told her that. What would you tell her to do?
I think that you already know the answer to what you should do, i think that the answer is just to hard to handle. Put the getting married part on hold and take some time to think this over. OR do what i would do, tell him to leave and as he is leaving tell him that no one is allowed to treat you like that. (I know that it is easier said than done.)
I wish you only the greatest and i will be paying for you. God Bless you and your kids.
From one mother to another.