A Different Potty Training Question.

I understand better after your responce. For the next couple weeks try exclaiming "oh! I need to go potty" so he has an idea that there is a pre-emptive feeling. Use the word need and maybe look for opportunities to show the difference between -need- and -want-. About 15 mins after he eats ask if he would like to "see if he needs" to go instead of "try". Also check the timing of his bm's and check for consistancy so you can know when to encourage him. Good luck to you!

a friend told me about a book today called, Potty Training in 24 hours or Less. (I think that is the correct title) It sounded great. She used it on her 3 boys and on one granddaughter so far. I hope that helps. :)

In my experience, getting a kid to even SIT on the potty is a challenge in and of itself. I would much rather have a child who sits on it too much than one who doesn't care. You might try just letting him sit for a while and tell him he has 10 minutes (for example...5 may work better for you, but make it a good amount of time) and if he cant' go, it's time to get up. And tell him if he is unsuccessful that he can try again in an hour. That way he knows you are acknowedging his need and giving him another opportunity to go. You can even offer to remind him in an hour that he would like to try again (that way he sees you care and is more willing to get up). I know that can be a drag, but it may just do the trick. Good luck.

How do you know he doesn't have to go? Until he actually recognizes the sensations of what it feels like to have to go it doesn't hurt to let him try. What I did to help my girls (ages 3 1/2& 21 mos) to poop on the potty was anytime I thought they were starting to go in their diaper I would carry them to the potty so they could associate the two. This worked so well that both of them have only pooped on the potty since they were 9 mos old. I know it is much harder to keep track of a 3 year old than a baby to watch for pooping signs, but it does work. Also do you have a seperate potty chair? If so you don't have to leave it in the bathroom. When my oldest was at my mom's house during the day (while I was at work), rather than having to camp in the bathroom with her, Grandma just brought the potty out into the living room. It made the potty less intimidating and more convienient. I know it sounds a little gross, but maybe that could help it he doesn't want to get off the potty.

Good Luck!

i agree with jessica and lisa. Having a potty chair in a room other than the bathroom is more convenient than you'd think. Also setting a time frame is a good idea. I think its great that he is so determined. I think a timer would make it easier than just stating a time and then coming in to get him. My son would argue that it hasn't been 5 minutes if I told him it has. But a timer is physical evidence that can help him understand time a little. And I agree that telling him he can try again in an hour is a great idea. Just be sure to tell him that at the start of the timer. Once he finally goes poop in the potty a couple times, he will more easily pick up on the feeling and it will become much less frustration for the both of you. Good luck.