A Cute Way to Say I Love You?

When my husband and I were dating, he would squeeze my hand three times to say "I love you". It's a nice way to say it without using words.

I bought a halmark card and mailed it to his work. So while he was at work, he got mail and it was my "love you" card. You can make him a card if you don't want to buy one and just pay the postage.

The sweetest thing I have ever seen was a list on someone's refrigerator. She typed out a list of all the things she loved about her DH and then cut them out in strips and put them on the fridge. She continues to add little reasons he's lovable. It was touching to see it.

When my DH and I were newlyweds, I got a permanent marker and wrote sexy thoughts on the inside waistband of his undies. He loved that.

HI C.,
One time I made up a crossword puzzle that my husband had to figure out. It was funny things about him and ways of telling him I loved him. He LOVED it.
L.

My husband used to do this alot, maybe now I shoule return the favor. He would write a love message-short and sweet on the bathroom mirror using soap or gel or something that would not show until the steam of my shower would fill the bathroom.
Now I wonder what he used,
M.

It doesn't have to be expensive to say I LOVE YOU. Post it notes in his lunch, on his visor in the car, on the mirror in the bathroom. If he travels put some sexy underwear with a special note in his suitcase.

For Valentines Day, get a babysitter, make his favorite meal, eat by candlelight. Or send him a love note at work telling him how you are looking forward to being with him on Valentine's Day. Have a note on the front door telling him to follow the rose petals. Now, the rose petals could lead to the bedroom or bathroom-that's up to you. Set the mood with candles and more rose petals-use your imagination. The rose petals can come from the dollar store-being romantic doesn't have to be expensive.

Having children in the home sometimes makes it hard to be sexy and have time for each other. Just remember when your husband comes thru the door of your home, stop, smile and kiss him and act like you are glad to see him, even though your day was a rough one. Set the tone for the evening-he be glad he came home to you. Give him time to relax a little, then talk to him about the events of your day-see if that doesn't help.

Hi there, I leave little notes in my husbands sock drawer, under a pair of underwear, written in lipstick on the mirror, taped to the underside of the toilette seat so when he lifts it in the morning he sees it... little things like that. I make his lunch for him and put a note in there, Ive even called the deli where he eats lunch if I know he's going to eat that day and I have had the manager write a note with the little plastic peg letters on the menue board that says , his name, I love you, A.
Ive had a pizza delivered to work... the ideas are endless

These are some things I have done in the past, of course not all at the same time but different times for different occasions. use your imagination. I have found that those type of things keep the marriage alive and my husband feels supported and loved and nurtured. It really does help, then you will see that he will start doing those kind of things for you... Good luck,- AJ

Google out your question and you will surprised at the answers...free ways to say I love you...something like that..I google everything...

C.
How about coupons? Last year, I received a coupon book from my husband - there were of course purchased for about $5 from Kroger, and you can probably find these at CVS/Walgreens as well. These are coupons for items such as back rubs, extra kisses, doing the dishes, vacuuming, dinner out at your favorite restaurant, hot baths, breakfast in bed, etc., etc., You can make your own, and be creative!

The best thing I could advise would be say it the way he will hear it!! I am a touchy, lovey, write it in the sky kind of lover. But my husband does not express love this way. It's taken five years of marriage to finally start to get it. So when I want to show him love, I clean the house really well (it's so 1950's of me, but I would love a clean house too) and then I rent a stupid comedy and cook his favorite dinner. So think of how he best expresses love, his "love language" and try to speak it back to him. This really has worked in our marriage and it can be so meaningful. Plus a clean bedroom, with clean sheets, makes things so peaceful and leaves the opportunity for closeness without the clutter!!

My husband and I have ongoing poems and try to out-do each other. Our poems always end with a questions so it keeps the "conversation" going. I'll leave one in his lunch box, truck, or cellphone for him to find later in the day. He'll leave his in the cabinet where all the sippy cups, or somewhere like that are so I'll find it during the day.
We also write messages on the bathroom mirror when it fogs up after a shower. The message disappears until the next person takes a shower and then it is revealed! Just be careful what you write once the kids start to be able to read!!!

I know you have had a ton of responses but I have a few more suggestions, if you don't mind. One thing my DH and I do to keep our marriage happy is we have dates every week, just like we did before we got married. We also have a tight budget so we are always looking for free or cheap dates. Since we have kids now and a babysitter (aka my mom) isn't always available we will often rent a movie from Redbox (you can rent a movie for $1 a night) and get pizza at Little Ceasars ($5 for hot n' ready pizza). Sometimes when we have a sitter we will go to the mall and sit in the massage chairs at Sharper Image and get massages together (hey it's free). We also like to go for walks together (the kids ride in the stroller) and play games at home. When we take this time for just us it helps us remember why we got married and how much we really do love each other.
Also, physical affection can communicate how you feel - try massages and sex - both will bring you closer physically and emotionally.
I hope this helps, I know they have helped my marriage. It's nice to see other people working at their marriage and not just give up when things get hard.

One of my favorites is to make a mix CD. I know its cheesy and hokey, but its completely personal and if you have a computer they aren't hard to make. I look for my favorite mushy songs, Our songs, or songs that just say how I feel, and put them into a playlist and burn that onto a CD.

I decorated a pretty box with stickers and put that into it. You can also write your husband a sweet love letter telling him the things that you love about him or what makes him special to you and put that into the box too. If you don't have a box or stickers you can do it all with pretty colored pens or markers on plain paper, or construction paper, whatever you have. You can also make a card and tuck the CD and letter inside that.

Get creative and have fun with it!

Write it on his bathroom mirror with lipstick and make lip marks too (I mean kiss the mirror)! Kinda silly, but cute!!

I think women like the roses and chocolates more than men do. If you really want to send your husband a message, find a good friend who will take your son for a couple hours and be finishing up a good meal in the kitchen...naked....when your husband gets home from work. If you can splurge on a little neglige or something to be wearing instead, great, but I think it would work fine with nothing at all. Let things go from there.....

Write it with a dry erase marker on the mirror for when he wakes up or gets home at night?

Well, why not make him his favorite meal and rent a movie that he would like to watch, then offer a massage in the evening wearing a sexy new nighty...but you know your husband and what he'd prefer, those are just ideas. I like to put little notes in my husbands lunch every now and then, write on the mirror w/ lipstick "C. and hubby's name 4-ever", love notes in sock drawer, ect...keeps your man knowing he is special to you. May I add that when you give 100%, even if he is not, he will most likely come around. Also, our church had a class called Alpha Marriage, i think that was the name. It was awesome, usually someone is there to keep the children while you and your spouse attend short sessions...hope this helps!

One time I made my husband a paper chain out of colorful construction paper. On each link I wrote down one reason why I loved him. Then he tore off one link a day and read it before he went to work. I made it when I knew I would have to be away for two weeks and it made us both feel a little better. You could do a chain that counts down to Valentine's Day or something. It sounds a little silly, but my husband really loved it and it cost me nothing. Have fun with whatever you do!

This does cost a little bit of money but not much-- couple of dollars, maybe? Last year I found (I think at Party City) powdery markers designed to write on glass. My husband loves it when I leave him love notes on his mirror in the bathroom. (Made a big heart around where he would see his face and wrote "World's Greatest Husband"-- that sort of thing!) Leave him little love notes taped to his steering wheel. Plan romantic in-home nights-- maybe a candlelight dinner in your bedroom after your son is put to bed, and leave him a note on his steering wheel hinting that you are looking forward to a very romantic evening with him?
So happy for you that you are making progress on your marriage-- that is the best gift you can give your son!
A.

PS-- have you ever read the book The Five Love Languages? If not, go to the library and check it out-- it shows that we all like to "receive love" differently-- physical touch, words of affirmation, quality time, gifts, hmmm... something else! Anyway, you can learn so much from this book-- it will transform your marriage if you both read it and take it seriously!!

I havent done it in a while, however, I would wait until hes not looking and stick little "I love you" notes in his wallet. Then sit back and wait. On any given day, while hes at lunch or the store, he comes across my little notes. I also taped a cute, tiny,tiny note on his grocery card that is on his keychain. The checker saw it!!! Funny stuff!!!
M.H. :)

I would make a coupon book for him. You can put anything on there: It can touch all the senses, and it can be a "get out of doing..." It could be about his love language, do you know it? I have a test I can email you. It is a great book to read and really helped us through our "rough patch" It is by Gary Chapman. Also you could make him a card and list 10 reasons I love you!

You can give him a "heart attack" by cutting up lots of hearts from construction paper or whatever you have lying around and writing love notes on eachone- you know little things like "I like it when..." or "It really made me smile when...". When he is sleeping you can cover the car windshield & inside the car, when he wakes up and goes to work what a pleasant surprise he will have, and he will have the notes to read all day.

My friend and I made chocolate covered pretzels from christmas and they were awesome. If you go to the food network and you can find how to make them. You can coat them with sprinkels or coconut shreads. You make them and put them in a nice basket with like a valentine napkin and lay them out nicley. And then just get a .99cent card. Pretty cheap to make. 1 bag of chocolate chips 3.89 sprinkels 1.19 and pretzels about 1.89. Less than $10.00. Hope this helps.

You could have a friend take "seductive" pictures of you and you could put them in a photo album for him to have. I did this for my husband last valentine's day and he loved it. I printed the pictures off myself, just put them in a cheap little photo album and added cute stickers to it (like hearts and lips and little sayings). Good luck!

Breakfast in bed on weekends,a massage with lit candles to relax.

"The Five Love Languages" is an EXCELLENT book for learing how your spouse recognizes love...it is not an extrememly long book, and I be you could find it at a library nearby. If reading doesn't intrest you, you can find it online in the form of CD for about 15.00.
Take Care,
~K.

Dear C. I,
I really don't have any cute ideas because; basicly, I've learned that that was not what my husband needed. We spend more time sharing about our family experiences, sharing everything; actually, that is part of our lives. We talk about our dreams, our God experiences, pray together, hold each other, our fears, our joys, just everything. I've tried all that cutsey stuff, but it's the sticking together in hard times that matters the most. How you prepare the meals, wash clothes, make the bed, and spend time together is what counts. That has helped us reach retirement and even preparation for meeting each other's death. I'm not saying that it was easy, but I am saying that the cutsey stuff just happens naturally when you've communicated deeply with the one you love. Our marriage was one of serving others through various Church ministries or situations that just happened because of our jobs--me as a elementary teacher and he as a janitor. That's what marriage is all about--serving and doing it together in some way. May the Lord guide you in doing the same. Carmen Castillo

When my husband and I were rehabbing our marriage after an affair, we would leave each other short notes in the car saying things that we loved/appreciated/admired about the other. I actually started it, and my husband began doing it too after a couple of weeks. Sometimes it was a short silly poem, other times it was just a heartfelt statement. You know your husband best. That was 9 years ago, and our marriage is stronger because of it. I'll be praying for you.

Very cute and neat ideas from other ladies!!!! There is other suggestion. If you are stuck with no babysitter or else, wait till your kids goes to bed. Text message or verbal him from other room and start play Scavenger Hunt game with him around the house with small notes and gifts for you both to enjoy.. Like example- Go to the kitchen and get me a water. He go to the kitchen and find a bottle of wine with chocolate covered with strawberry with small note for him to collect items from other rooms before meeting you in bedroom or bathroom with bubble or rose petals.

Good luck!!

Men are not so into cute ways, although they do respond to it. Women LOVE the cute, it means they were thinking of us. Husbands want to have that hero image, the conquerer. "Telling" him how much you appriciate his efforts to support, to fix what ever, feeds his "ego" and he'll feel 10 feet tall. The best way to "show" how much you love him. Spice up the bedroom scene! Candles, music, a soft blanket. (check Dollar stores and Wal-marts, their is a new soft blanket out there for around $10. and the next time it's out it's a hint when I find it on the bed....) wear his favorite purfume or one he bought you, a slinky robe and he'll know how much you love him. If that get's boring for him, try setting up in the living room. (put son to bed) His favorite drink or snacks (ours- port wine, cheese and summer sausage with crackers) I will usually wait till he is in the shower before I set up, everything is statigically hidden. He loves it! We usually take turns planning for our anniversary. Our 20th, he had saved for a cruise. The next year I "walked" him down memory lane...a scavenger hunt, starting at home, his packed duffle bag with a clue of his nest destination...the place we met, when he got there, the next clue to the next place. and so on till he finally ended up in the hotel where we spent our honeymoon (Even got the same room) I took the whole year to plan and save for it. He still grins when I show him "the blanket" and this year is our 25th. the little sparks between aren't so bad either.
don't let a month go by without doing something.

This maybe cheesy, but I thought it was lots of fun. Everytime my mom opened a new jar of peanut butter, she'd draw a heart in it for my dad. She'd eat around that heart, and when my dad got into the peanut butter the next time, he'd eat the heart. He new it would be there, so he'd be looking for it. My husband thinks it's dumb, but he's an engineer.

Another fun thing to do is write short little notes and stick them random places for him to find - one a day or something - and put them in a lunch he's taking to work, on his pillow, next to his razor.... pretty much anywhere. Keep him guessing where it's going to be next.

How about this: Sneak into the bathroom before his morning shower and hang a folded towel over the shower curtain. Inside the towel, put a special card or some glitter with a message (the largest cut-outs you can find because they are easier to pick up). When he pulls the towel down he'll get a surprise!

I haven't read all of the responses.

so here are my ideas.

Write him notes and place them in his shoes or laptop, or whatever the more of Valentine's so he will know you are thinking about him all day.

Write a message on the mirror with lipstick.

Give him a coupon to redeem when he wants...something he will like ;)

This year I am gibing my DH something he has wanted for 12 years but we are low on cash too. I am giving him another drawer in our dresser. hahah, my clothes have always taken over the dresses, so I cleaned out and madfe anenpty drawer for him, I am going to cut out hearts and lay them in a path on the carpet and tie a big red bow to the drawer front, hehe.

Think of something he would like that won't cost you anything, there is probably something special you can do.

Make a fun dinner and eat it by candle light after your son goes to bed.

Be creative. Decorate the house with construction paper hearts and paper chains you and your son make that week.

Have fun ;)

Something easy and free we do is every once in a while - not just on V day - send free e-cards. There's a lot of sites out there, hallmark.com is just one. Search free e-cards and you'll get a list!
They're fun to get and give. I just got one this week from him and it made me laugh.

how about for valentines day, when he comes home from work you are there (alone) with nothing but one of his neckties, or a string of pearls on . there are candles on the table (lit) an elegant table cloth and some wine or water in wine glasses. maybe even some rose petals sprinkled on the table. (they have fake ones at the dollar tree right now!) and tell him you thought about going out for dinner , but you decided to stay in and "BE" dinner!!! believe me he won't care one bit if there is no card or store bought present! and i bet he will be happy with a peanut butter and jelly sandwich after all is said and done! ENJOY!

his favorite meal, and a foot rub?

If your husband likes chocolae does he like fudge. my story I met a guy and in the60's you had very few options for gifts. So I made a batch of fudge and my MOM came up with this IDEA for a Valentine. a fudge heart. I was 13 he 15 and I'm 64 and he's 66 and this june we'll be married 47 years and each and every year He gets a fudge heart that says I love you from me. about 5 years he became ill and couldn't eat choco. so now I make Vanilla fudge and he just smiles. he looks forward to it. AND YES YOU CAN GET ALL SIZES OF HEART MOLDS I HAVE ABOUT 10 JELLO OR BAKING OR CANDY ONES OR JUST PUT ITINTO A PAN AND FREE HAND DRAW ONE. DON'T FORGET small ones for the kids. Kathy

Have you thought of making him one of those coupon books. You know the ones that say good for....or redeem this coupon for...
You could put things on them for what he likes and do one for each year you have been married or number of years been together. Examples: (his favorite meal (you fix it), his favorite movie or t.v. show (you watch with him), a bubble bath, massage, etc. Whatever shows him you are taking interest in him. They are redeemable at anytime (maybe a day or two advance if it requires prep time). Just a thought.