OK this will be long... I have a two year old that has changed in the last 3 to 4 days, he is very craby and yells NO NO, cries and is glued to one of us. We have had things in are house change about a month ago my grandmother came to live with us. I thought that would not be a problem which it hasn't, but he is only use to her being here during work hours because she watches him. Not only has that changed but we also have a little girl that we watch durning the week which is usually only here 2 night but is here 4 nights now. They play very well together she is older and he loves to have someone to play with because he is the only child. Grandma has also been watch a litlle boy durn the morning hour for a friend until she can find a new care provider for her son which is 5 months younger than my son. When I get home he seems very tired and crying and will not let us out of his site, he will cry until we come back him and hold him. It is not like we do not have alone time my grandmother is down stairs after dinner and usually stays there for the night and he is up with us in the morning for 30-45 mins. His route at night has not changed, I just do not understand why he seens unhappy. Please anything that we can do for him, I hate that he is upset, cries and can not decide what he wants to do. Any ideas or does he just need time to adjust to all the changes.
Just to yet everyone know my son was not feel well this morning he has a cold which explains why he has not been himself. My grandmother is a very good care taker thanks for all the advice. Hopefully once we get over this cold he will be back to my happy guy.
HI D.,
I'm no expert, but I would be concerned something is happening to him that he does not like while you are gone to work. i am not trying to blame anyone for anything, but sounds very concerning. Does grandma yell, lose patience? Are the other kids being mean? I'd try to investigate deeper into it.
I hope all works out well.....
Hi D.,
It's funny how children act when things change.
I know when our little daughter was born our son re-verted into sucking his thumb, screaming and trying to get his way, he wanted to drink out of her bottles/.
I think it's just their way of saying , don't forget about me. I think the first ones always feel that way when others come along. They are used to be the center of attention and when that changes, they get confused.
Just keep loving him and trying to show your son that you aren't going anywhere.
It'll pass. I know it's hard to deal with now, but just give him the extra attention until he feels safe in his world again.
Best wishes,
J.
If it continues, I would take him to the doctor to make sure there's not something going on with him. Ears, or whatever. This could be a developmental thing, a change thing, or maybe a sick thing. Good luck!
We have a 2 year old also. He tends to get cranky and clingy a few days before he gets sick or if he nap schedule is off, or if he plays extra hard during the day. I would say that he is just trying to get used to the changes in his environment. I would give him extra cuddles at night and wait it out. Hopefully it won't last too long.
It sounds to me like there may be too much stimulation for him to know how to handle just yet. He may be enjoying the extra kids and people around the house, but it may be overtiring him to the point where he is getting crabby, and at that age they don't quite know how to vocalize 'i'm tired' or I want your 'undivided attention'. My 4 year old daughter goes through phases like this every so often and sometimes it seems like its coming out of the blue, but when I sit down and think about it, I normally see a pattern. What I try and do is watch out for the 'meltdowns' before they happen. As soon as I get home from being gone, or her coming home from school, I always tell her that I need a hug. I think it makes her feel important. Something as simple as giving her long big hugs while shes in my lap as we talk about her day or whatever she feels like, or maybe saying nothing at all. It kinda slows her down and me too. Just giving her the hugs, love and attention. Then she gets bored with it after a while, or will want to go onto do something else. It may be a quick minute type thing, or sometimes she will linger for a few minutes. It just reinforces that with all the new stuff happening, that mom and dad aren't going anywhere and we still love you. Your son is still a little younger than she is, but I will talk to my daughter and ask her what she may be feeling, lots of times I get the standard 'I dont know' but I just want to start the line of communication between us, so that if she does have things going through her mind, she can feel free to come to me and not be afraid or just sit confused and frustrated. Hope this helps!
Sorry, but red flags would raise for me...Has your son been happy in grandma's care before? Or, has your son recently stopped napping? I wish I could help, that's gotta be rough.
Sounds like a lot of changes for the poor little guy.
And, even though he gets along with the little girl you have stay over, when another child spends a lot of time in the house and is older than your own child, it can tend to make them feel like they've lost their standing a little.
Are you sure things are going okay with grandma and other kids? Any chance you could invest in a Nanny-Cam?
D.-
I'm in the same boat with my little boy - he turns two this week. I teach, and ever since I've gone back to work (I had the summer off) he's been out of sorts. Honestly, you could have been describing him in your message. After two months, it seems likes it's finally getting better. Instead of being crabby and upset all week, now it's just Thursdays and Fridays. I don't have much advise for you, but there are a few things that seem to help. I've been getting up early to get ready for work. By the time he gets up, all I have to do is slip on my shoes. This leaves quite a bit of time in the morning just to snuggle and ease into the day. We've also been trying to spend as much time as we can outside. There's something about the fresh air and exercise that seems to make things easier for both of us. Good luck!
He might not be getting the normal amount of love he usually gets from Grandma and needs more hugs and his quota of touch for the day when you get home. You may not get anything done and that can be frustrating, but just bring him with you and have him be your helper when you are trying to get things done. If you think at all he is sick or is not sleeping, call your Dr
