My 9 yr. old son has had a bad attitude lately. When he gets mad he stomps off or whines and he has been back talking quite a bit. Is there anyone that has had these similar problems? Need advice on what to do, I have tried everything.
I have a 3 yr. old who is just OUT OF CONTROL sometimes and I was just doing some research online and I came up with what sounds like a great idea....it is called the Better Behavior Wheel. Google it! I am going to give it a try!
Hi S., I'm T.. My husband and I have 4 children, all boys also. My oldest is 9 years old as well. (newly 9 I might add) and I am not sure what it is but this boy is driving me nuts with his mouth, also. I don't ever remember talking to my parents the way he does me, and what's worse is that I am almost completey tongue-tied when it happens. I mean yeah, he gets punished by being put in time-out or getting things taken away from him but it still doesn't seem to help! UGH!!! My son does the same thing, stomps off and whines but lately he's graduated to slamming the door in addition to the tantrum. Sometimes I wonder if it's because he's the oldest, that he's trying to act like his younger brothers? Have you tried the "taking away" of things that your son loves the most?
I am not sure if my advice will help you but, I recommend the school counselor. It seemed to help my 9 yr old. It gives him someone else to talk to other than you or your husband.
Let me know how it works for you.
Good Luck,
J. H
I have to agree with alot of moms here. It is just a stage. But what is most important is why he is doing this. Is he jealous of the other children? Sometimes being the middle kid is tough. My middle kid just turned 10. He feels he is somewhere between being too young for some things and to old for other things. This will frustrate a child sometimes. My ex husband treats him like a baby sometimes and this really upsets him. So, I started allowing him to do things that older kids get to do. For example, I let him help me cook 3 or 4 times a week. I let him fix his own lunch and breakfast on the weekends. No cooking on the stove without supervision of course. But by allowing him to be more independant has helped him more then anything. Good luck...hope this helps!!
S.,
I am a mom of four. Two girls teo boys. My 12 year old is doing the same thing. The only thing I have found to work is taking away her favorite things,(gameboy, music, etc..). When her attitude approves and the temper is acceptable she gets her posseions back. I believe in spanking, but she is to old and it does not work. Be consistant and things will improve. As with many other things, this is just a stage.
watch what he is watching on tv. my 9 year old was doing the same thing until I took away his mtv
I sent my then three year old daughter home to my grandmother to spend the summer. When she came home she was cursing, stomping, hitting, and had a really bad attitude. Spanking in these situations usually makes its worse. They are already mad so this usually just makes them madder. She had on these sunglasses and she took them off and threw them down. I told her to pick them up. So she snatched them up. I told her to pick them up nicely, so of course she snatched them up. So I stood there and made her pick them up "nicely" about 15 times until she got the idea. Everytime she did something with an attitude I would make her redo it until she did it nicely. That included stomping off. Suffice to say she knows what I mean when I say do it "nicely". It still works!!!! And sometimes she even tells me do it nicely mommy!!
I have a 9 yr old boy also, and while I can't say I have alot of attitude problems with him, he does act up occasionally, getting frustrated and mad when things don't go the way he wants, or is too chatty at school, or starts to fall behind in his school work, misbehaves on the school bus etc. He has a couple favorite things that he enjoys doing, and we take those things away from him for a day or two depending on the severity of what he has done. The teacher and the bus driver both remind him that he is gonna lose these privledges if they have to tell mom and dad what he is doing. It usually works.
I'm not sure if its the age. I have a daughter that just turned 9 and she has started doing this to. I have just started to sit down with her and only her atleast 1 hour a day and we talk about everything from boys to what was for lunch. That has seemed to help. I think all they want sometimes is some one on one time with u.
