My little guy is 10 1/2 months old. at about 9 1/2 months - he decided that he wanted to start feeding himself. At first I was really scared that he would choke, so I gave him tiny bites, but he can gum just about anything, so I've slowly started to increase the size of the pieces. My advice is to keep offering him finger foods, if he's not feeding himself yet, he will soon. Before he could feed himself, I still gave him the same amounts as listed below, just with a spoon instead.
I try to make sure he has 2-3 servings of soft fruit, 2-3 servings of soft veggies, 2 servings of meat/beans, 1-2 servings of dairy and 3 servings of grain. Also nursing 4 times a day. Some doctors say not to give dairy until 1 year, but he likes it and has had any kind of allergic reaction...
His typical day:
He nurses when he wakes up.
Breakfast: toast with butter cut up into small squares, plain full fat yogurt, cut up fruit (usually melon, bananas, blueberries, soft pear, etc - just no strawberries or citrus until 1 year) If I'm feeling energetic, I will make him a scrambled egg yolk (also something I feed him for lunch) (He is allergic to oatmeal, so I cannot feed him cheerios)
Nurses after morning nap.
Lunch: Some kind of protein (black beans, cut up turkey or chicken or cheese, egg yolk, ground turkey or beef) 1 serving vegetable (his favorites are sweet potato, peas, avocado, corn), 1 serving fruit, one grain (bite-sized pasta, rice, rice cake, tortilla, bread, crackers)
Nurses after afternoon nap.
Dinner: Pretty much same as lunch.
Nurses before bed.
Servings are usually approximately a few tablespoons each. Somedays he eats more, some days he throws most on the floor.
I don't do juice - but I've read that if you want to offer juice, make sure you cut it 50/50 with water. My son loves to drink water out of a sippy cup. I also offer him snacks if he seems hungry.
Hope this helps - I've been asking the same question - it doesn's seem like it should be hard - but I spend a lot of time thinking about what he should be eating!