My 9 month old was a very good sleeper until she learned to stand up in the crib. Everytime I lay her down, now she stands in her crib and cries and cries and cries. I've been going back in to lay her down and not pick her up every 15-20 min. I don't think she knows how to get back down on her own. This is not working. Eventually she will go to sleep after we do this about 2-3 times but, she will either wake an hour to 4 hours later. We share a room because we don't have 3 bedrooms right now. I don't want to keep my husband up because he gets up early to go to work, so I eventually end up picking her up and taking her downstairs to sleep on the couch. This is hard for me to do because she was such a good sleeper and now she's hit this milestone and it has changed everything. Any suggestions would be great!
Thanks,
Mama in need of some sleep :)
Thanks everyone for your opinions and ideas. I will take all of them to heart and will let you all know how it goes. :)
Teach her to get down by bending her knees and slowly moving down. This too shall pass but don't buy into it by bringing her to the couch and making a big deal of it.
It is just the milestone interruption. When they sit, or stand, or talk there are always a couple of days of this. You may need to let her get to the point that she will go back down on her own. Your husband will have to deal with it, otherwise she may not get over it.
This is normal. What happens is they learn how to pull up, but they don't know how to get back down. In your living room, they just let go and land on there bottom or back. In the crib, they let go and most likely bump their head. After this has happened once, some babies remember and are afraid of repeating. Other babies bump their head over and over and it doesn't seem to bother them. My first two did not mind a bumped head. My third would pull up and when she got tired of standing she would cry until rescued. Sometimes and quite often at first she would pop back up. I just continued to lay her back down. She eventually learned how to get down herself. Whatever you do and no matter how tempting it is, do not rock her to sleep to save yourself the frustration. If you do, she will expect it from then on out.
u should either take her for spin 2 get her 2 sleep or wait until she is asleep
I agree with Diana. "Teach" her how to get back down on her own. My son went through a phase about 2 months ago where he climb on top of his toy box (not but a foot, maybe 2 off the floor) and cry horrifically until someone put him back down on the floor.
One day my mom was here and it happened and instead of just picking him up, she went over and helped him get down by showing him what to do.
He's done great ever since.
This is a difficult question. Your child is unique; and you will have to attempt any and all ideas thrown out to you until one of them clicks. Know that once you get into a routine, it changes. She may be teething, which hurts. She may be scared, as you mentioned, not knowing how to lay back down.
And Mommy not getting REM sleep wears you down. I thought I'd lost my mind raising three boys. They were all different. And their dad got up early and went to work, too, so I kept vigil. It's exhausting; but catch those zzz's when you can and best wishes for your sanity and marriage.
You're on a slippery slope - we did the same thing with our little one (eventually giving up and sleeping on the couch) - and then he came to expect it - he learned if he cried long enough, one of us would take him to the couch (he loved it). How about sending your husband to the couch while you stay in the bedroom with your daughter in her crib? If you consistantly lie her down and/or ignore the crying as best you can, she'll eventually give it up. I'll bet you'll have it solved within a week.
With regard to her not being able to sit down while standing up, practice it over and over again during the day - show her how to bend her knees and lower herself to the ground, putting one hand down and then the other. She'll learn it fast!
Anytime a child/baby hits a major milestone... it will TEMPORARILY tweak their sleep.
Normal.
ALL babies do this... when their gross-motor skills are changing and they are attaining, new ones.
No, she does not know how to lay herself back down.
This is normal.
A baby, does not know how to do it, much less on their own. They have to learn it... AND in conjunction with learning 'how' to use their gross-motor skills... and appendages. Which is all new to them.
It is just something you have to be patient about.
Be happy about it... because, if she were NOT doing these milestones, THEN you would have to worry about delayed development. Which I am sure you would not want to worry about.
all the best,
Susan
Both my kids when through that at that age. They were learning to stand and couldn't get down. My daughter kept it up until she completely learned to walk--she just wasn't going to stop practicing until she had it, or collapsed from exhaustion! But she's pretty determined.
Hang in there--it's just one of those phases, and it sounds like you're doing great.
It won't last very long. My son just got over doing the same thing. I would keep doing what you are already doing.
The first night my kids moved from our room, was the first night they slept all through the night. Is there another room you can put her in? That may keep her from waking in the middle of the night.
My little girl just started doing the same Exact thing during afternoon nap:(... She doesn't really take but one nap a day. I guess she is afraid she might miss something LOL. But she stood up in crib crying but couldn't get back down so I went in, comforted her and rustled around for a min and then lights out:)!! Hang in there!! U r are never alone with anything your child does or doesn't do, remember that:) all mommies get frustrated from time to time but guarantee your little angel overpowers any frustrations you could ever have in life:))!! They are little miracles!
