8 Yr Old Daughter - Behavior Change

Sounds to me like she is getting some hormonal changes happening. There are young girls that get there period before they even get into junior high. Do you see any developmental changes? Have you tried just sitting down just the two of you? Maybe trying a girl day out just the two of you. Just spending time chatting.
Try talking to her best friends mother. If something happened at school her best friend may have come home and shared the event with her mother.
Sometimes as parents we need to just nature take its course and emotions are part of a young girls life.
Hope all works out

Well my little brother is 4 and he went through the same thing as she is going through my mother was worried so she went to school with him and to find out the teacher was being very nasty to him and he didnt tell her he kept it to him self but maybe thats it or something else maybe go to school with her and find out

Hi P. Try to get some counseling for her to get to the bottom of what bothering her. The children at school could be bothering and the teacher doesn't know. I'm a substiute teacher and plenty gos on at recess that doesn't get the teacher attention. She maybe afraid to tell you because she's being bullied. So check this out and tell her if it's something she may have said or done and afraid to tell you, tell her not to be. Because if a case where she's being bullied they could be holding this over head.

I have a 3rd grade daughter also (she's 9) with the same characterics. Like Sigrid said-I do know my daughter is going through some hormonal changes already. She is starting to have soreness in her chest. So this may be an answer (or may not) and you can ask your pediatrician. I try to talk to my daughter when she is in a good mood
and give her space when she needs it.

When my daughter was in 2nd grade, right after she turned 8, we had the same problem. Didn't want to go to school, cried all the time about everything. We couldn't figure out what was going on. She was feeling like everything she thought and said was bad. This all happened over spring break. I called her teacher when she returned to school and she sent her to the social worker at school. Which helped, but it turned out 2 boys at school were harrassing her. The next day they were telling her how they wanted to have sex with her. The principal heard them and pulled them from lunch(which is where this was happening) She told us about it when she came home. No call from the school that they had figured it out or anything. My husband went up to talk to the principal the next day and he was more interested in protecting the offenders than our daughter. We have since pulled her from public school and put her in a private Christian school and she it totally happy there.
Something IS going on at school. You have to figure out away to get your daughter to open up. Whatever is going on it sounds like she is blaming herself for it. Maybe go to the school social worker or psychologist and ask them for help. What her teacher sees is only what is happening in her classroom, she has no idea what is going on in gym, or at recess or even lunch.
Good luck.
T.

Is she possibly having a hard time with some work in class? This could be the reason she hates doing homework. I have an 8yr old, that is very social as well. The teacher had said to me that she may be talking more, because she does not understand the work and talking is a distraction.

I would make a visit to her in class, and also make an appointment to see her teacher.

P.,

As a teacher, my immediate thought was something is wrong at school. I don't always know about the issues my students have because the day is so structured, there's not a lot of spontaneous social interaction time as their interactions always have to do with the assignment or task. The true interaction occurs at recess when I'm not there. Anytime a student has regular stomach aches, it's usually brought on by anxiety. It may even be related to the work and not necessarily another child. Ask yourself how she does academically. Often times if a student of mine is talking in class, not working, and refusing to do homework it's because the work load is too difficult. A student would rather appear like they don't care and they're choosing not to do their work rather than try, get things wrong, and feel "dumb".

If she's not opening up to you, try a counselor or maybe have her talk with the social worker at school.

Good luck!