I have a 5 year old and am pregnant now, but i babysit for a friend of mine and she and I are at our wits end with her 8 year old daughter. She wets the bed almost every single night, she has to change her own sheets and clothes when this happens. But, the real problem is during the day. She constantly wets herself during the day, its worse when she's with her mom than me. I will not tolerate it and she knows it, but her mother on the other hand doesn't really do much about it. This child does not care where she is either, whether it be home, a friend's house, the store, or yes, even at school, she will wet her pants and then sit in it almost like she likes it. She will sit on your furniture, knowing that she is wet too. And on top of that, she does not wipe at all when she poops, and half the time either poops her pants and won't tell you, or she somehow, gets poop all over the toilet seat in the bathroom!!! Another thing, she won't even let her mother wipe her without a serious fight and struggle and trying to get her to wash down there at bath/shower time is absolutely ridiculous. I've had to help her mother literally hold her down to wash down there because she refuses to do it herself and tries to refuse to have it done at all. And all the while, her pediatrician says its fine and normal. She has also been to a urologist to make sure everything with her urinary tract is fine, and it is. What should we do about this?
I just want to say to Suz T that posted an answer to my question, I never once said that this child was a PITA, I am frustrated, don't get me wrong, I've been there for her family since before she was born and love her to pieces and want nothing but the best for her. If i didn't, I wouldn't be reaching out to perfect strangers online to see what everyone else thinks before talking to her mother. I resent that u put those words in my mouth. I am an extremely caring and loving mother, friend and babysitter. If i didn't care and wasn't concerned and thought she was just a PITA I would not show up for work every single day and run around and clean up after her and try to help her especially when I'm 7 months pregant and my 5 1/2 year old gets less attention because I'm so focused on the 8 year old i'm babysitting. So, Suz T, thank u for your comment, but no thank u
that is NOT normal. something is going on with this girl. i'm much less worried about how much of a PITA she is for you than that no one is trying to help her.
:/ khairete
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the night time is one thing but during the day is another. If she checks out medically then it would beg to question it is mental issue. The behavior is not normal for an 8 year old, and this goes beyond lazy. I am not one to say..seek counseling, but in this case that is exactly what I would do.
Time to find a new pediatrician.
You must be a very good friend. I don't know if I could handle that day after day. You can do very little for her, Mom needs to step up and be more proactive. Something is off. This goes beyond lazy. Whether it's a physical issue or mental, it needs to be addressed immediately.
Did the urologist take an x-ray to make sure everything's ok? Her Urethra could be going out her vagina, so she wouldn't have any control over her urine. As for wiping, she may not understand how. Tell her to wipe until the toilet paper's clean.
