8 Month Old Boy Becoming Out of Control, Willful and Constantly Hyper

Updated on March 12, 2009
A.A. asks from Long Beach, CA
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Hi Moms,

I am a first time mother who is home, looking for advice. I adore my son but lately he is displaying out of control, whiny behavior. He is willful, and is acting as if he is in his terrible twos even though he is only 8 months old. He acts bratty. I feel bad saying this as if it's me..I devote my life to him while his dad is at work everynight and sleeping all day. I take him on walks everyday, do all of his feedings and play with him from 8:30am to 9pm, then wake up with him in the middle of the night as needed to feed and change him. He is lately displaying very temperamental, unruly behavior, yelling, whining constantly, refusing to eat, not showing interest in any of his toys for more than a minute. I look for things to keep him entertained and make him happy but I am sometimes at my wits end with his constant whining and acting spoiled. Is this possible for a baby who is only 8 months old or am I doing something wrong? He does not appear to be colicky. He is a very sweet, active little boy who is 8 months old but who thinks he can do much more than his little body allows him and has a fit when he can't. He is not autistic or having mental issues as far as I know.

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Hi Moms,

Thanks to everyone for the advice. My 8 month old son is indeed teething however none have shown up yet. He also has just learned this week how to crawl. I think the problem is I overstimulate him with too many electronic toys with lights, buttons and music. I started to just let him play with tactile, small toys that do not make any noise (his stuffed animals, books, etc), and that has helped. I already do walk him in his stroller for long walks everyday but that only helps during the actual walk (when we get home he starts the whining but is fine during the walk.). He does not have food allergies as he is only on rice and barley single grain cereal and formula per his doctor. I will read the child development books and see if I can train him to take more naps. Also, I do not wake him at night. He consistently wakes on his own for a feeding/diaper change atleast 1-2 times in the middle of the night and then is up by 8:30am ready for a full day. He already takes two 30 minute naps a day. I will also mention all of this to his doctor and see what he says. My son's father is an ER nurse and says the baby is just wound up by too many electronic toys that overstimulate him but I will take all of your advice into consideration. Thank you.

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K.H.

answers from Honolulu on

You may want to try cutting out any dairy or gluten in his diet. I have a friend with a son who gets really agitated and aggressive and sort of "ampped up" from a dairy & gluten sensitivity. good luck and hang in there mamma.

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B.B.

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Babies internal clocks are set for a much earlier bedtime. When I moved my little one's bedtime up to 6:30, she became a different baby. She just needed more sleep and it helped her adjust to taking longer day time naps and sleep longer at night. Also, another thought, he could just be teething. Either way, it will pass. At 8 months there are so many developmental milestones going on in his little body and head, it has to be exhausting!

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B.L.

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I definitely agree about the nap. It could also be teething. That makes many babies cranking, and not want to do the usual.

With babies and toddlers, just when you get them into a routine, they will change their habits. It's never a static situation. They go through exploring phases, attachment phases, separation anxiety phases... it's all really normal.

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J.M.

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A.:
Your son is A BABY,and he is acting exactly like a normal baby of 8 months should.Your right. It is you. Did you believe he was acting whinny when you first brought him home from the hospital? Babies cry,and babies whine,and they get tired and cranky.Your son is still a Baby. He doesn't know what spoiled is. You can't spoil a baby,by loving and nurturing them.A Babies cry or whine,is the only way they have to communicate to you.If they need you,they cry. To ignore them leaves them feeling abandoned.All of us mothers devote our lives to our children. Believe me, we've all been up nights pacing. We all deserve an Oscar for the hours spent entertaining them. We've fed them, changed them,bathed them,and rocked them. We've spent sleepless nights ,when they were sick,and its A rare treat for us to get a break,even when the husbands come home.I don't know who told you, that at 8 months old,your babies intellect would be that of a 5 year old. I would strongly reccomend you reading up on A babies first 12 months,their development,and what to expect. Your expectations for your 8 month old are way to high.You sound like you are simply overwelmed at this stage,and need some help.Ask your husband for help,by spending a little quality time with the baby or you could possibly get a helper for a few hours a week. Do you have a family member close enough to help?Many mothers get their breaks,when their babies go down for their naps during the day.If your son is getting no naps, that's your problem right there.I wish you and your darlin BABY BOY the best.

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J.C.

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I have been there too! I agree with the first response. Sleep is very important...but also I am a STRONG believer in what you do at a young age will always be. You are trying to do everything to make him happy. As hard as it is try distancing yourself a little bit. He needs to figure things out on his own. Thess lil ones are smarter than we think! He knows if he cries or yells you will come running. I have 2 children and well... my first is now 2 and she knows that I will not come every time she cries! I had a hard time doing this too! But you can do it and about a week into it...he will realize he is ok, and you are not going to let anything happen to him. You will feel a little relief! Also try getting around other moms with kids about the same age. That may help. You are NOT the only one that feels this way. Don't feel like you are a bad mommy! Keep smiling!!

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L.D.

answers from Las Vegas on

Why are you waking him up in the middle of the night? At 8 months old, it is very reasonable to expect him to sleep through the night. If he is not waking up on his own, you shouldn't wake him. That disruption in his sleep may be part of the reason why he's not a very happy camper during the day. You need your sleep also to be a nice mommy so let him sleep if that's what he's inclined to do. It will do you both a lot of good.

Also, you may want to rethink his bedtime. 9 p.m. is fine for some kids but really take a look at how he is holding up toward the end of the day to see how he's holding up after 7 p.m. To me, 9 p.m. sounds a bit late for a 8-month old but each child is different and you will have to be the judge of whether his current bedtime works for him and you. For me, it was always very important to have some child-free time at the end of the day to unwind and watch adult tv programs before I go to sleep. I'm wondering if you need more child-free time to unwind at the end of the day as well.

If you haven't already, you may want to consider getting involved with one of your local mom's clubs and join one of their playgroups so that your son starts developing connections with some of his peers and you start getting some mommy-to-mommy time as well. Or you can go to the park a couple of times a week with his exersaucer or walker so that he can be where all the activity is and check out what's going on in the world.

When you are not at a park or participating in a playgroup, try to take time out on a frequent interval to play with him for 15 minutes or so and then leave him to continue playing on his own for a bit before you redirect him to a new activity. Oh, also, a trick that really worked for me is rotate toys in and out so that there is always a fresh supply of toys that are introduced or reintroduced every 4 weeks or so. It's a lot of work but it will keep him interested and keep his interest in his toys fresh.

As for your comment about autism, I actually do have a son with autism and, let me tell you, difficult behavior in and of itself does not constitute autism. If your son is making eye contact with you and with others fairly easily, babbling, attempting to make gestures as a way to communicate, looking at the things you are pointing and seems to pay attention to you and others, you most likely have nothing to worry about.

Lastly, I don't know what your husband is like and the dynamics of your relationship with him but he really needs to start participating more in your son's childcare and give you a break each day to trade your mommy hat in for your A. hat. Your husband may not be aware of that fact or know how he can help so I would suggest talking to him about it in a very supportive, non-confrontational sort of way. Starting out a serious conversation with a compliment, saying something like "I know you may not realize it but," and then stating exactly what you need will probably keep him from being too defensive and get you the support you need. It's not what you say but how you say it that really matters.

Wishing you and your son well.

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S.B.

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My first thought is if he is up from 8:30 to 9:00, with no nap, than this could be the problem. If I get my son off of his sleep schedule, even if it is minimal, he gets very hyper and unruly. Children at that age still require quite a bit of sleep. My son, who is 11 months, sleeps from 7pm - 7am with two 1 1/2 to 2 hour naps per day. I have always been very diligent about his sleep schedule because I feel it is very important for children to have enough sleep. He is generally a happy smiling content little guy. I honestly think that his sleep schedule has a lot to do with it.....Hope this helps

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E.P.

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This sounds like pretty normal behavior at this age. My daughter definetely went through that pretty intensly too. I would recommend providing a physical outlet such as Gymboree classes or The Little Gym, music class where they can run around and play, go to the park daily and take him on the slide, join a Moms Club, check with your local college for fun baby classes. Go to story time at the library. I feel that at this age they need a little more stimulation than their normal routine. The Montessori Book, from birth to Three has some great tips on helping them get through this independence in a positive way for you both.
We of course want them to be healthy balanced and independent and this book has great tips that I have used with my daughter, you can check it out at your local library.
Best of luck. It sounds pretty normal, you are a great Mom and you are doing a great job with him, he probably wants more choices and space. Also, rotate his toys, leave out a few books and toys, then in a week have him put them back in the tub in the closet and pick out a few for that week.
Best of luck!!
E.

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M.B.

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Hi there,
Sounds like he might be a little bored. But, at that age, they are usually entertained with just about anything.
I just signed my little girl up for My Gym, it was a lot of fun for her. Your son might be a little young for it, but it would give him a different environment to crawl around in.
I always tell my 21 month old that "you get nothing when you whine". And then ignore her. Of course your son is a little to young to do that, but that may be something to keep in mind for the future.
How do you discipline? Or do you? It's never to early.
You could say to him, "mommy will not play with you if you are going to yell" (or whatever he is doing wrong)
If you are consistent, then he will eventually get the picture.
My daughter loves her pacifier, so I use that as a punishment. I say to her, "if you don't stop touching that, mommy will take away your binky!" (even when it is not in her mouth) It works because I ALWAYS follow through with my threat. That is the key...consistancy.
But again....he is still so young. Nip it in the bud if you can, otherwise it will continue into Toddlerhood.
I hope you get great advise from other mommies.
Good luck to you.

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F.H.

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I recommend reading the book Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves. The author recommends a pretty radical approach to parenting, but it is a real eye-opener. I think you'll find it helpful with securing the great bond you and your son share. Good Luck!

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C.H.

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wow- sounds like you need some help, some space, and to stop projecting your judgements on his needs. Take a deep breathe- its not easy living with someone who has to sleep all day and a baby. Go to parenting classes, and get him to socialize- you will benefit also-

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V.M.

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join "mommy and me" group in your area. also try to find professional homeopath. homeopathy works well through these early issues. it should not have to be MD, ND, OD or anybody else with some other "modality" under the belt. Homeopathy, pure and simple.
Good Luck
V

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S.A.

answers from Honolulu on

You have gotten some good responses so far! I agree with the whole sleep thing. My daughter is the same way - when she gets tired (or hungry, in her case) she gets really whiny, throws fits for every little thing and just doesn't want to do anything basically. I remember I used to think "no way does she need a nap, she doesn't seem sleepy - just CRANKY". But then I started "just trying" to put her down for a nap, and most of the time it worked! And when she wakes up she is 100 times happier. Sometimes if she is really worked-up she has a hard time winding down and falling asleep, so I just do something peaceful with her (cuddle with her, read to her, or even watch an episode of Dora while we cuddle sometimes!) and then after like 20 minutes of a relaxing activity she goes right down.
Best of luck to you! and don't get discouraged - we've all been there - and survived! And you will too ;) It shall pass!!

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M.P.

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Hi A.,
it almost sounds to me that he is teething. children at that age their appetites will fluctaute and one thing that is helpful to know is that children will not intentionally starve themselves. They are naturally in tune with their bodies. is your son drooling? that usually is a good sign of him teething. Also interms of his behavior it sounds pretty typical of an 8 month old. I tell my parents at the school that i teach that children are not spoiled until us as parents condition them to be spoiled. we create spoiled children. Good luck and enjoy your baby. they grow up quickly! Val

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C.B.

answers from Los Angeles on

It sounds like he is teething. I use Hyland's teething tablets for my daughter and they really help her feel better. They're homeopathic and can be found at Mother's Market as well as Walmart (Target has similar tablets that are made by Disney). Teething makes some children very fussy and many times they refuse to eat because their gums are so puffy and sore. I hope that he feels better soon!

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M.E.

answers from Las Vegas on

Your son sounds just like mine, but he is 17 months now. He has been this way pretty much since birth - extremely fussy, demanding, active, and has no limits. He is also very smiley, loving, talkative, and interactive. But so fussy! He did have horrible acid reflux for the first year of his life - but now he is over that and the temperment has stayed. Sorry, I am supposed to be giving you answers, but I am in need of help too!! I hope you get some helpful response that will help me too! But at least I know that I am not alone.

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A.P.

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Hi A.,
Your little guy is right on track! He has a WORLD to explore and now is the time to seize the moment (he feels). The days of propping baby in the corner and talking on the phone are over-he,he! You will find that his active play becomes...more active! It will take longer to get him to calm down to nap,if you breast feed, he will see how far he can turn around to look at the world...while attached! To help keep a your sanity and benefit baby here are some suggestions.
Be constant and consistent with rules. Right now he's looking at cause and effect. If I do this, what does mommy do? Does she laugh, does she yell? Both are exciting for baby and reassure a behavior. Praise what he does well! Yeah, baby turned the page!
Not everything should be 'NO'. Say you can't play with mommy's phone, but you can play with your 'toy' phone. Save 'NO' for dangerous situations. Now is the time to baby proof, so that baby can explore the world!
Pretend your a teacher. What skills are we going to learn today? Go back to basic games of patty cake, dance to the ABC's, hold your spoon,start reading.
My son and I used to go exploring. We would hop (bending over I would hold him under the arms)to where ever he wanted to go. He would touch it, push it-whatever, and then I would announce, "let's go explore" and hop to another thing! He loved the game, it was quick and he could see all those things that we take for granted to entertain them.
Circulate the toys. Every week we focus on a different topic, adjust to your son's likes. One week it's the zoo. All books related to zoo, zoo animals, go to the zoo. Another it's the colors. Books revolving around color, colored blocks, etc. The point is to change things up and approach playing differently. Also, get toys that don't have batteries like; cars, different size balls, blocks, books. It stimulates more play than just being stimulated.
Most importantly! Naps! He should be getting lots of sleep! This can cause a baby to act out!! My son's schedule at that time was;
wake at 7am, cereal, quiet play,morning nap by 9am-10:30am,snack, active play till noon, nap at 1-2or3,lunch, go for a walk quiet play, nap at 5-6, dinner, bath, bed by 8. Times adjusted slightly, but always add up to about 12-15 hours.
Your doing great, hope this helps!

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S.W.

answers from San Diego on

Please read a child development book. They are so helpful in understanding what your baby is doing intellectually, socially, emotionally, etc., and how you can facilitate him in his development. It is wonderful that he is getting bored with his old stuff, he is ready for more! Don't take it personal-- he is responding to the developmental changes going on in him-- 8 months old are so ready AND frustrated because they comprehend a lot, but can't physically do it yet. Your job is to help him, but also teach him how to soothe himself when he is so frustrated (a MOST important life skill!) It doesn't happen all at once-- but you are setting the tone and pace.
T. Berry Brazelton (Touchpoints, plus other titles) is one of my favorites, and Davis and Keyser "Becoming the Parent you want to be" is a great one for parents.
Good luck and hang in there! It is the wonderful, difficult, boring, rewarding, thankless most incredible job of mothering!

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B.S.

answers from Reno on

I agree, sleep is HUGE! Also, have you taken him to the Dr to rule out an ear infection/teething or something that is irritating him? My oldest son, almost three now, was the same way. Although...he was colicky. To this day he is just a very sensitive kid. Too much carrying, too much touching, a diaper not put on right, fabric that was too bulky or itchy would throw him into fits. Just a thought.

You can't do it all and you should relax yourself a bit. When you are frustrated and you tried everything...put him in his crib for a few minutes to calm down. (Both of you need to calm down) He may surprise you and fall asleep. (My kids get super hyper when relly tired...defies logic, but it's true)

I am SURE you are doing nothing wrong. Your baby is probably just trying to find his own personality. And, like you said, babies do in fact get frustrated about this age because they can't do what they see a parent doing. (feeding self, walking, talking, running, playing with the tv remote..etc...) It's hard to be a baby!

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N.H.

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Great responses so far. I would definitely work on bed time, check for teething, and look at possible food allergies. One other thing, has he been on antibiotics lately? Reason I ask is that hyperactivity can be a side affect of antibiotics (chech the Physician's Desk Reference at your local library). Good luck, God bless, and remember to breathe!

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S.C.

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Well, first off, 8 month olds are not willful, bratty or spoiled, no matter how they behave. I certainly don't intend to be mean, but you need some education in baby development. Have you talked to your pediatrician? If this is NEW behavior, then possibly something is wrong----an allergy to a food or formula, or some other health issue. I would schedule an appt. ASAP and discuss your concerns w/your doctor. He can make the necessary evaluations and order any tests he might feel appropriate. He might recommend some books to you, but there are so many good ones. You can go to Amazon.com and type in baby books, child development, etc. and many will come up for you to browse. They also have reviews from other parents so you can see if they found the book helpful. Do you have in-laws you can discuss these problems with, or good friends with children? It sounds to me like you need some help---both with advice on how to handle this baby and some breaks from him. Can you put him in the stroller and take long walks every day, because exercise will help your mental outlook to cope with the stressors of being a new mom (motherhood is extremely stressful!) and the fresh air will do you both good. Can you get away to the gym or do some exercise dvd's at home? Yoga is very relaxing and excellent for your body, but any exercise will help your mental outlook, make you cope w/any stress more efficiently and of course, do wonders for your body. The next step is to educate yourself in baby behavior. Sadly, babies do act like this and it's part of being a baby that has nothing to do with willful, spoiled or anything like that, so you need to stop thinking that way. It's not your son's fault he's acting like this and he's not doing it pourposely. Your job is to try and make him feel better and figure out, what if anything, might be causing this behavior. Evaluate your son's diet---what food have you recently added? Are you adding his new foods in at one new food per week to rule out any problems w/that food? If not, you need to do that. But the most important thing is to call your doctor ASAP to rule out any medical causes. Good luck and God bless.

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T.M.

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Dad works all night sleeps all day , so when does dad play with him and watch him so you can have a break, sounds like your noticing everything he does or doesn't do because your with him 24/7 time to hand him to dad and go take a rest from the baby, why are you waking him up if he is going to sleep all night let him, it won't hurt him he is ready to, no wonder he is acting up he is tired, he should be in bed at 7 pm not after 9 pm, your entertaining him all the time, put him in a play area with some toys and let him play, I did not see you mention nap time either, he might be teething it sounds like it.. whos the mom here

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N.H.

answers from Los Angeles on

Hi A.,
I have an 8 month old too and recently he was the same way. When I took him to the doctor for an unrelated issue she told me he had an ear infection. Point being, take him to the doc & get him checked.

Also, he should be sleeping through the night, I use a Pamper's diaper right before bed and he's fine through the night.

Good Luck =)

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S.S.

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A.:
Did you say 8 month old? I don't believe an 8 month old can be whiny or bratty. Is he feeling well? Maybe you can get in a mom's club or another group and talk to other moms. All babies whine and can be crabby at times. Get him out in the stroller, I put my kids at gymboree classes about that age, in the crawler group. There are often park and rec. classes for babies too. He may be fussy because he's trying to learn a new skill and you just have to be patient. You may want to have your husband help more or get grandma over. He's just being a baby and his behavior sounds normal.

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M.C.

answers from Honolulu on

Gosh, he sounds like he is not feeling well. Sometimes they can have a ear infection and show no signs of it. Take him to the pediatrician.

Also, my baby (now 4 yr old) got REALLY grumpy when she was just learning how to move into a crawl. After she figured out how to crawl, she was such a happy child!! Maybe he is trying to figure out a new skill and getting frustrated by it. Good luck

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L.S.

answers from San Diego on

Hi A.,
My 14 month old is an angel, however there have been a few times that I noticed her going through a fussy period. She will scream if she doesn't get her way, is more whiney and gets frustrated while eating. I think it is maybe a developmental thing...like maybe she is getting ready to hit a milestone. It only lasts for about a week, and then she is back to normal. I know that one of my girlfriends daughter has been acting very similar to your son...she is learning to walk right now! So possibly he is getting ready to reach a milestone. Be patient, I am sure he will be back to his normal self soon. I know it can get really frustrating when they don't act like themselves. Good luck and I hope things work out for the best.

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C.N.

answers from Los Angeles on

I agree with the answers about sleep. Maybe consider your first try at a remedy, as much sleep as possible. At 8 months the avg. for sleep is a total of 14 hours, 11 at night:

http://www.sleeplady.com/home03.htm

7 or 7:30 may be a better bedtime for an 8:30 riser with 2 naps of an hour minimum. Teething can even increase the need for sleep. You also mentioned you "wake up" your baby for changes and feedings. The "don't wake me, I'll wake you" saying is usually true for babies. If your baby is sleeping, he will wake you if he needs a change or a feeding, otherwise, let him sleep as long as he wants. Sneak in and check him if you can do it w/out waking him, but let him stay asleep.

After reorganizing sleep and finding his behavior has not changed, you should definitely consider the more serious possibilities and seek help.

Good luck!

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L.Z.

answers from Los Angeles on

Sounds like he's either fighting a virus, teething, or not getting enough sleep.

S.R.

answers from Los Angeles on

i know you already have tons of advice! but you are a first time mom, and im sure you can use all the advice you can find!!

i have two boys! and ive had two brothers and half my closest friends all throughout my life were boys.

boys tend to be very emotional as little ones, and especially since he is teething! he is going to be cranky. and the hyper activity is totally normal and could be slightly due to watching videos or playing with over stimulating toys like your hubby says, ive noticed this in not only my own son but his first grade friends as well!
its especially bad with video games!!

when he starts to act up just try to find something to soothe him, this is what i do with my little guy who is one now

i give him a nice warm bath, wrap him up and snuggle! i turn on some soothing classical music in the background and sometimes i read a simple little board book to him after i powder him(with cornstarch based powder) and dress him appropriate for the weather and time of day. and we do a little bit of playing nicely with blocks or one of his favorite simple toys like his stuffed cat or his NON-electronic toy drum, etc.
if you choose something that is also comforting for you its easier to relax, like take a shower or bath with him and get into some lounge clothes and turn on your favorite soothing music and read some books that you read when you were a child and play with those classic toys that you played with when you were a child and it will be a fun relaxing time for both of you, as well as a great way for you to remember what it was like as a child! you will be able to bond with your child in a special way.

good luck! and dont forget the ice or oragel, or however you treat his poor little gums!

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H.S.

answers from Los Angeles on

My first reaction is that maybe he is not feeling well. Could he be teething or have an ear infection. Since he apparently wasn't this way very long and you seem to indicate that he use to play with toys for a longer period of time.

My second son was willful...actually strong willed. Dr. James Dobson's book: The Strong-willed Child could help with that, but he is young for showing that much strong will. I was also wondering if he is crawling yet. Perhaps after he is able to move around more he will not be as frustrated. Also 9pm is very late for a baby to be up...mine went to bed at 7 to 7:30 after a quiet bath and quiet play such as looking at books (I know he is a little young for most books:) How long is his nap?

I hope that you figure out what is making him tempremenal...especially the refusing to eat and not interest in toys indicates something is wrong. If it doesn't get better, I would have him checked by a doctor.

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J.M.

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Hey A.--wow, it sounds like you are really having a time right now-my boys are teenagers now, but they were little once and my husband is a doctor and worked long hours--at the end of the day taking the kids off my hands was the last thing on his mind, I know how you feel (overwhelmed) Do you have anyone that can watch him while you take a break for yourself? Do you have other mother/baby friends you can get out of the house and do things with? His behavior sounds like maybe a doctor visit would be a good idea (not eating, not interested in toys etc) probably nothing, but I would have someone see him--I feel for you and sorry you are going through this--sometimes when times get bad, I always think, I should enjoy these moments (bad and good) they won't be around forever :-( Listen to the words to Trace Adkins song "Your gonna miss this" (google it, i'm sure it's on the web free) That says it all!!! Good luck and God bless you and that sweet (bratty) son of yours...J.

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Y.N.

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I found myself in the same situation. I too was my little boy's play pal. I suspect with your son as well as with mine that we are so constant with them, giving them our undivided attention that we have inadvertantly given them the inability to entertain themselves as we are always present.
Try doing some mommy and me classes with him. It will help to socialize your baby and you will learn that on those occasions when your at your witts end....you're not alone. Some moms may even teach you techniques so you are not so overwhelmed. Good luck!

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A.T.

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Hi. My first reaction is: do you think he is getting enough sleep? Have you tried sleep training to get him to sleep through the night? The book "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" suggests that babies should be in bed between 6 and 8 every night, sleep through to at least 5:30 and nap for 3 hours a day in whatever combination is appropriate for baby's age. That sounds like a whole lot more sleep than what you describe. For your son, two naps/day still make sense. They are different people (as are we) when they get enough sleep! Also, at his age, he probably doesn't need to eat in the middle of the night.

Maybe he's just cranky because he is tired. The sleep training can be difficult at first, but within 5-7 days, I swear, it will be worth it. There are plenty of other sleep books out there that may make more sense to you. The one above is just the one that I used. When he is sleeping through the night, you may find that you have more patience with the outbursts that occur during the day, too!

These are just thoughts. Maybe you have this part all worked out for yourselves.....

best of luck!

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L.G.

answers from Los Angeles on

Sounds like you have my son as your son! Haha! My son just turned 12 months old and I remember around that age feeling the same thoughts! I thought he was going through the terrible 2s at an early stage. I am in the exact position as you, I am home with him all day and felt like I was giving him every bit of attention he demanded to the point where I thought that was the problem. It just turns out that he has been from day one a very strong willed little guy with energy and desires to do more than he is capable of. He is now soooo much easier. He just started to walk- so that makes his frustration level so much less. He entertains himself and plays with all of his toys while keeping himself busy. He is happy! Just bare with it and keep to a schedule. They go through stages and periods of different behaviors- just enjoy every minute.. Nothing lasts!

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S.H.

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Please look at this link:
http://www.babycenter.com/0_how-much-sleep-does-your-chil...

To me, your baby seems way over-tired. An over-tired baby just creates a fussy/inconsolable/frustrated/cranky/hard to please baby. When a baby/child DOES get enough sleep, their disposition changes.

He probably needs MORE than just two 30-minute naps. That is not much. 30 minutes for a "nap" is just kinda nothing... he still seems really over-tired, and over-tired babies actually do NOT sleep well, because it actually makes them (1) more hyper (2) it disrupts their sleep ability (3) it just makes them crankier, even at sleep. (4) it makes them hard to settle down.

And also, REALLY key into his personality... see what HE enjoys doing....not all kids like those electronic things and "noise." For example, my daughter as a baby, was "sensory sensitive." So, for her, any irritating "noise" just set her off=cranky unhappy baby. She is still sensory sensitive, but it has lessened as she has gotten older.

Like the others said, don't just label him as being "bratty" and "willful." He is JUST a baby! Expecting a baby to act older than they are, will only lead to (1) frustration for the Parent (2) frustration for the child because they 'sense' the 'pressure' on them (3) frustration for the child's personality because they are always expected to do what is simply not in tune with who they are, and what they like.

each baby and child is different. Perhaps for your son, he is simply not into those noisy electronic toys. YOu said yourself he is fine while on a walk. But then not with other things. Some kids, just need more down time AND more "peaceful" activities... more cerebral, versus physical.

Your baby basically sounds OVER-tired, frustrated, and not into what his routines are. Perhaps, change your routine for him and make your routines FOR him & more suitable for HIM. Really see what makes him tic.
Once a Parent REALLY understands what makes their child tic, then you will see a different "mood" in the child. This is key. Each child is unique. A unique person and individual.

ALSO, you do NOT have to "entertain" a baby's every waking moment. This is just too much and too much "over-stimulation." Just let your baby be. Let him hang out without any pressure, let him play on his own... THIS is how babies learn too. On their own, not with constant 'interference' or hovering. A baby, like any human, just needs to hang out by themselves (with supervision of course) and just let him explore and "discover" things at HIS pace. EVERY child and baby needs this too. It's important for their development as well.
All the best,
Susan

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