70% Of Women Said They Wanted This in Bed.....

I'm in the 30%...

I'd rather hear it, him show it outside of the bedroom. To me that's when/where it really counts! Cause that will lead us to the bedroom!

I don't know who they're polling...but 70% of my friends just want to SLEEP.

irrelevant to the topic..but thought I'd throw that out there...lol

i agree with Theresa. if its slow and sweet I love when he stops in the moment and looks in my eyes and kisses M. and says he loves M., if I'm bent over something and clothes are being ripped off, I better be hearing orders or something dirty...lol
thanks a lot you J. started my daily 1pm craving that can never get fullfilled until after 9...boooohooo....lol

Depends.

If it's that Aaaaw our life is so beautiful together kind of sex, sure.

If it's rip my pants off and do me hard bent over the dining room table kinda thing, please don't bring love into it.

And yeah, y'all are just supposed to KNOW which it's gonna be.

;)

(***Oops, we WERE talking about SEX, right? I mean, that's what you mean by 'bed'?) Chuckle

That's not what I'd like in bed. I 'd like to hear NO snoring....

J.:

Nope. I'm not one of those women who need to hear I love you every day. I would rather him SHOW me he loves me...

My husband scratches my back every night before I go to bed. That's his way of telling me he loves me. I don't NEED to hear I love you, it's nice. But like I said - I'd rather have him SHOW me.

sure but why in bed? How about all day everyday.

It took me reading five responses to realize we're talking about sex. Ha!

I'm with the others, words are empty without action. It's pretty darn easy to say I love you. To show it? That's another story.

I guess I enjoy some good ol' fashioned vanilla now and again. If it were always the main course I think I'd choke on the cheese factor, "Oh, I love you sooo much, your eyes are like little puddles of sparkling mud", "Erm, can I be on top?"

Hi J.-

IMO, very MUCH true...but more than that, the 'holding' and 'spooning' consistently with (or without) sex.

Cooking and doing laundry rank up there too!

Best Luck!
michele/cat

In bed....Heck no! I want to get some and forget all the sweet stuff during the deed-he tells me enough anyways-that's why he gets laid:)

I guess put me in the 30%. I know how much he loves me and why. I may think he is crazy for it but I do understand his motives. :)

I would look at that survey and think 70% of women are needy. Actions speak louder than words you just need to be open to hearing it.

When I'm in bed...I either want no talk and all action...or no talk and no action and all sleep...

My spouse is VERY good about not only TELLING me how much and why he loves me, but even more importantly is that he SHOWS it. =)

My husband is good about this already, I would miss it if he weren't. But being more vocal about other things is on the top of my list of what I want in bed.

Lmfao Theresa .... You said it all, we women are just as bad as men.

I would probably think my husband's brain was abducted by aliens (or a romance novelist) if that ever happened.

maybe during other parts of the day, but not necessarily in bed....

I am in the 30%. I don't want to hear it before, after or during...I want to hear it just for no reason and at random times!

Like, in the act. No way. I think it's very "movie romantic." Blech. If my husband didn't love me, he wouldn't be in bed with me.

hell yeah! it personalizes the sex and makes me feel so much more connected with him. It's often those loving passionate phrases that send me into "O"rbit! I love when the sex is more about love than friction!

I mean its nice, but he doesnt have to say it all the time. Actions speak louder than words.

I know he loves me

ETA- Oh wow!! I just noticed this said "in bed" Ummm, lol sure whatever he wants! ;)

Maybe AFTER when/if we're spooning. I'm with Runnermom on this one... I'm not a romantic. Do the dishes if you want to turn me on.

I don't care at what point during the day/night my husband says it. Just say it daily.

I'm spoiled. I am told and shown just how priceless I am to my husband everyday. Each night we have our routine which includes loving words and so much more than that.

I believe most women want to hear it and feel it simultaneously.

Nope. I agree with Bethyskids, help me manage our family life. That turns me on and makes me feel loved. Words are cheap.

yes it's nice, but that's it. I don't like him to keep talking, lol!

If you mean while having sex, no, that is too cheesy. I do love to hear it though.

My husband texts me i love you, about weekly. He says it every morning before he leaves. Every once in a while, i will tease and get him to tell me why.

Omg Theresa!!! Hahhahaha!!

If my DH gives me that "I love you so much babe, blah blah blah" I usually tell him I'm tired and he can stop trying to get some... Sometimes it works though ;)

I'm not sure if you mean while having sex or if your being intimate and cuddling etc. If its hanging out and cuddling etc. I definitely would love to hear that more---but during sex, I expect to hear I love you but not a whole list of why.

Well, sure, why not? It doesn't sound like such a great survey, thoug, they "discovered" something very well known already! the difference is that it doesn't have to happen necessarily in bed, no? True, yes, but pretty silly poll, if you ask me.

I'd much rather hear it at random not after/during sex. We're not a very romantic couple, it works for us.
He shows me every day by working hard, coming home to his family every night, doing the dishes, stops by at my office to see me on his way to work, plays with the boys and tucks them in at night ~ nothing melts my heart more!!

In a marriage overall or specifically in bed?
I'm thinking they may have mistakenly done the survey at "Insecurities R Us" or something.
Seems odd to me, as I'm with the other moms who might think (unless the circumstances are PERFECT, that it would be odd or uncalled for. I mean, we're with our spouse and IN bed...duh!

Just in bed???

How about the kitchen first.

No, that is not a turn on at all. My husband tells me all the time how much he loves and appreciates me. If I want to be turned on, I want to hear really nasty stuff in bed.

Well I didn't know about the survey and before my husband starting doing this I would have said I couldn't care less about it. But after our third was born he started telling me a lot more how much he loves me etc during intimacy. It's awesome and made me feel so close to him so I vote with 70% of women~

I think 100% of women would love it if there was a load or two of clean, folded laundry that had been lovingly taken care of by their husband on the bed. After that, we're up for anything.

I have to admit, when mine says it (rarely) in bed, it really melts my heart. I don't necessarily "want" it or "need" it, but it is nice to hear when it's spontaneous and unprovoked.

Ha! What I want most in bed is sleep ....

But I'm a chronic insomniac.

Hmm. Are you talking about in bed, like laying down just chillin, cuddling, pillow talk? (I love it then). Or are you talking about sex? (Not really necessary to talk much). Because it's different.
I do love to hear him tell me that he loves me, and why---heck yes! But while making love....he doesn't need to give me a list, lol. If it's from the heart and just a sudden thing that someone felt the need to say, awesome.
But that reminds me of an incident thousands of years and a lifetime ago: a friend blurted it out, followed by a gasp and stuttering. (We were just friends). I was like "For crying out loud, shut up". I don't know what was worse: blurting out love for someone who's just a friend, or stuttering and trying to take it back---during the act. (I tried hard not to laugh, it was so lame and ridiculous). I think that was the last time we were together, though we stayed friends a few years. But if my husband blurted it out, that would rock my world, of course!

Only when its the slow kind of bed time..

I think it's true sometimes. It depends on my mood, I guess. I'm sure that doesn't help.

While "in bed?" No way! I definitely want my husband to say/show me more often but not while we are in bed! ...unless you mean right before I turn out the lights and shut my eyes. :)

I would think it to be true.... not "in the act" after reading everyone's else's responses, I wasn't even thinking of that! Just nice bedtime conversation.

In bed, no thats not important. In fact the less talking the better. The husband tells me everyday he loves me or he whistles at me even at my utmost frumpy times.

Theresa, if you ever invite me to eat, please lets have a picnick instead, or any where but your table, your post have just leave me mark!, lol.
I must be one of the 30%.
No, I don't want him to tell me that, at least not during or even after.
Not even in the sweet kind of....what ever that is? ;*)

I dont think so. My husband tell me all the time, that he loves me. Yes, sometimes and the majority of the time he catchs me off guard. Hes very sweet, and I love it. I just feel like I dont say it enough sometimes or tell him why I do. But I lovez him, and I dont need him to say he it in bed. ;-)

no desire for this. I get all squeamish and uncomfortable at verbal professions of love.

"The sexiest thing a man can do, is the dishes."

:D

But yes, we love to be told why we are loved, we love to be told that we are appreciated, and we like to hear details regarding that. At least I do, but my husband jokes that I need my ego stroked regularly due to my red hair and Leo status in the world. He does reap the fiery benefits of doing so ;)

My hubs tells me all the time that he loves me. Show me, don't tell me :) LOL!

No, seriously, my love language is acts. His is touch and words. Both I am terrible at.

No thank you. Tender, prolonged expressions of love in exchange for sex not necessary. I'm not in a new relationship, I'm not feeling insecure, unappreciated or like sex is a favor I do for the husband. I'm 44, married 21 years and hate talk during/after sex.

I already know he does. If he didn't outright say it for the rest of our lives I still wouldn't doubt it. as for why he loves me? I already know that, too- it is for the same reasons i love him.

I will admit, though... seeing how my friends are and hearing what they say about their husbands, I'm a LOT more confidant in my husband than any of them. ...there's always a mental/physical separation thing, a gripe or doubt with them and their husbands.... Not with us.

THAT BEING SAID... We both say it to each other ALL the time, and why ALL the time. Not as re-assurance, but vocal expression of our inner feelings:)