party idea: bugs
get some fairy/butterfly wings at Goodwill (they have cheap new ones for Halloween probably right now, plus all the used ones)
bees and ladybugs can be made by cutting a big oval out of appropriate colored craftfoam or tagboard, cutting two armholes so kids can wear the costume like a backpack, and using a black marker (mom) or black crayons (kids) to draw the spots or stripes ...
... probably you could do color-it-yourself butterfly wings that way, too ...
flower cupcakes would be fun with that, and there are lots of party games based on string that might relate to cocoons or spider webs ...
fruit-flavored candy canes held in the mouth like a bug's probiscus could hook up 'bug food' (candies with loops made of pipecleaners?) or some other "collect the items" thought (yellow wiffle golf balls, with all those holes in them, could be "grains of pollen," whichever buggy team collects the most pollen gets a prize?)
another probiscus idea, straw-painting: once in gradeschool we did a thing where you got to squirt (out of a restaurant-type ketchup or mustard squirter) some splotches of paint onto a paper, and then had to use a straw to blow them all around and make art ...
there's probably a good game idea in the concept of 'sticky fingers' (like bugs stick to walls ... kids could have double-sided-tape on the ends of their fingers and ... what? )
noisemaking could be a cricket band, if you have instruments around the house anyhow ...
anyhow, that's one part thought that can be pretty and glittery (butterflies) or dirty (concept of bugs in general) ;).
As an aside, your daughter might like that Drew Barrymore retelling of the Cinderella tale ... I think it was called Ever After. It's always coming up at Goodwill on VHS tapes. It's a good movie, with a competent but realistically fragile heroine and a prince who actually gets his head together and *appreciates* her, by the end :). There are a couple of moments that might be PG 13 depending on your tastes and mores, so you'd need to watch it first of course.