M.T.
S., You already have a ton of responses and addmitedly I have not read through all of them but you clearly have a lot of great suggestions and comments, but I just wanted to add one thing...I have two little girls 2.5 and 6 and we sometimes struggle with this issue. And while I sometimes help my older daughter when she is needing that type of attention, what I typically do is say something kind of joking like "wait...I thought I had a 6 year old and I know that a 6 year old could brush her teeth [fill in the task] by herself..." and ususally that will lighten the mood a little and she will see that she is not really NEEDing the help but instead just wants te attention and then we talk about the beneifts of being older and of all the things she wouldn't be able to do if she really was a baby -- she wouldn't have her big girl bed, she wouldn't go to her big girl school, she would ahve to wear a diaper, etc. When she thinks about it like that she usually realizes that while its sometimes hard to be older, its often a lot more "fun" too! Good luck!