3 Years Old Boy (Hiting Another Kids at School)

I think you could try to explain to him that he is hurting the kids that he is hitting and it hurts your feelings as well. Explain that the Mommy & Daddy do not like when he hits and that he sould not do it.

I know because I have a 3yrs 6month old daughter and a 2 yr old son. My son copies everything my daughter does and resently started hitting other children. I sat both of them down and explained that what they were doing is wrong and that they will be punished (no toys or tv) if it didn't stop...Thank God it worked because no toys or tv would drive me insane!!!!

Good luck, let me know how it goes.
~ J.

well i can't really tell you anything that all these other responses haven't already said. i agree with them all. i do agree also with what your husband has done. maybe even with finding something he absolutely loves to do and take it away. that sometimes works with my son.

You aren't alone. my 28 month old was out with his dad at the playground and completely went over, shoved, hit, then kicked a little boy (who was much bigger than him) for absolutely no reason other than maybe what he thought was his territory.

I was stunned. I couldn't believe what I was being told. My son is so sweeet and innocent.. so i thought.

After much research, because I was highly upset, turns out it's normal. Your son is much older, however, perhaps it is a phase.

Also, I spoke with my son about pushing his sister the other night. I was telling him no, not with abby.. no push.. and he looked at me and to my big surprise said, "I like push" - as in he likes it when I rough house with him and push him, and that is when I learned he associated all things he likes with all things someone else will like.

He might not be doing things becuase he is angry but simply because he wants to play.

I didn't realize how much my hussband and I rough house either until we tried to figure all the rough housing he was doing.

It's a battle either way, and maybe you could go and sit in the classroom unnoticed to see for yourself what the teacher is talking about.

I wish you the best, you aren't alone.

J.

p.s. Your son may not understand his new routine being so young. He may not associate his punishment with something he did so much earlier in the day. I would check into devlepment on that. Also, fisher-price.com and pampers.com both have development articles you can research. Check out those sites too. :O)

sounds like your husband is great :-)

I would make a meeting w/ the teachers (even the director too?) and say you'd like to make a plan. this way you look like you're in charge (which you are!). Ask them what kind of reward system they have at school so that you can follow up at home- explain you ALREADY have a system (basically what your husband is doing)but you'd like to work WITH them so that everyone is on the same page...

HTH (hope this helps)
~L.

Hi, I am a pre school teacher. It is part of the teacher's job to document when a student hits but it's also part of the teacher's job to redirect his behavior. For example when my students hit I usually bend down at eye level to the child and say hands are for hugging and helping. If he is being a real danger to the children I would remove him from endangering the other children and keep him close to me. At home you can also tell him that hands are for helping and not hitting. The teacher should be able to give you some techniques to do at home to make it clear that hitting is unacceptable. Another example is talking about feelings. You can explain what feelings are and show facial expressions and explain that when we are feeling angry or sad we use our words and say I'm angry!!!, or I feel sad. These are little suggestions you can try at home. Ask the teacher what behavior modification techniques does she use in the classroom, If she raises an eyebrow, just say you would like to use the same techniques at home.

I would try to sit down and explain to him that this Behavior is not acceptable! Then, if he continues to act this way, punish him by taking certain toys away, time out, etc. Hopefully that will make him understand that actions have consequences. Good luck. I’m sure it’s just a phase and it will pass.