3 Year Old, Just Started preschool..not Happy with It at All

Hi, M.
My son went through the same thing he cried everyday for 2 weeks The provider just told me to leave and he would be okay. I was hard to leave a hear him crying outside the door but i worked. I has show him that i wasn't upset and reasure him eveyday and every night and remind him about what time I would be to pick him up and be there when i said i was. It's going to be hard but she will get use to it. Transition when to new baby comes is different because i only have one child. My small piece of advice is to contimue to take even after the baby is born because if you syop you might have the same problem all over again.
K. H

It takes time. I wouldn't be concerned because she is fine when you pick her up. First day is always ok because its something new, and she is excited to be there. Things change to crying because she sees that you aren't staying. You just have to keep reminding her that you will be back. Since there in problems starting at home, try to talk about things she will do and learn. You can also reward her with things when you get home, this will excite her to go to school so that the day can be over. The is so many things that you can do. Just remember that it will stop, can take 2 weeks. For the baby arrival, just make sure that she is involved and aware of the arrival. Let her pick things out for the baby. Start setting things up for the baby. Read books.

Is this is Lily's first time socializing with the same group of children on a consistent basis?

My son and I just started a transition 2.5PK this fall. And, he has demonstrated mixed feelings at different times. For example, some mornings he does not want to leave the house simply because he is involved with an activity and has no real understanding of time, despite the fact he owns a watch. LOL

My son, also an only, used to consistently share all the time at playdates and at the park. After attending PK2.5, he often seems to view sharing as a loss and often resists or flat out refuses, which is fine and age appropriate. He also demonstrates a lot of empathy, so I'm sure he will come around soon enough. :)

Most importantly though, I have noticed that he immediately replicates behavior that he observes in class to see my reaction and to test if he will experience the same result as his peers. It was alarming at first, as he was never the child to grab things from someone else, etc. However, he was trying to survive this type of limited control environment.

I my response was relevant and helps in some way.:)

Hello M.,

As a mother and a teacher, this is normal. Your daughter is use to only being around family. And being somewhere with new people is scary for children. Just like adults may get nervous on a new job. Question: Does your daughter know that you'll eventually give in if she keeps bothering you? You have to set ground rules and stick to them. Let her know that work is your job and school is hers. You may ever try taking her out to lunch or ice-cream on payday. Give her a dollar or two and tell her that, thats her paycheck for going to school. Because if you don't go a handle on things now, its only going to grow into a bigger problem.

I had the same problem with my son when he was 4. He kicked and screamed every day about going. He did this every school day for a few weeks. I eventually just told him that M. would wait in the car in case he needed me. It worked, every day he thought I was waiting in the parking lot, sometimes would even be confused when the car was in a different spot. But this method really worked with him. Good luck!