3 Year Old Daughter Is Terrified to Sleep in Her Room

Ok, I have never seen a ghost myself, but that is the first thing I thought of when I started reading your post.

My cousin moved to Portugal. The second place she moved into, she knew there was a ghost living in her bedroom. She saw it once at the side of her bed (I'm getting goosebumps writing this) and once she felt it lying in bed next to her. She said she was never afraid, but knew for sure it was there with her. My cousin would be the person that would call BS to this type of thing but I knew by the way she told the story that she was definitely a little freaked out. She never heard noises or had any objects, of hers, move. She has since moved out of there.

I think it might be time to look into the possibility that she might be seeing a ghost. I seriously cannot even believe I am writing this, because two years ago I would be the LAST person believing such a thing. Let her sleep with you (also something I would never suggest) or if there is another bedroom, move her into that room. Research the house. I know it's creepy but find out if anyone has died in the house. Then contact someone that can help u get rid of your spirit. Once again I CANNOT believe I am Writing this! I have no idea where you would find such a person, but here might be a start.

Good Luck!

I am usually pretty strong and don't really get bothered by the notions of 'ghosts or spirits' but if I got the impression from one of my kids that they *felt* they were getting visited by the same 'person' in their room night after night you had better believe I would be allowing that child to sleep with me until they grew out of it!

I get that A LOT of people are not into co-sleeping and all my kids have always started out in their own beds but when and if each of them ever got scared during the night they were always welcomed into our bed to go back to sleep.

They are only small for such a short amount of time, its not like they are going to be sleeping with you forever! We have had no problems with any of my 3 kids...and I truly believe it's because we:
1) *Always* put them to bed in their own rooms to start, EVERY night!
AND
2) *Always* reassured them that IF they got scared they could come into our room.

I don't know about the real ghosts or not, but I know a book. It's an old one called BEDTIME FOR FRANCES, by Russell and Lillian Hoban. You may be able to find it at your library.

The way I deal with shadow monsters at our house is with THE FLASHLIGHT. If there are shadows moving around a room, you zap them with the handy little bedside flashlight! If necessary, you tell those zapped shadows to settle down and let you sleep! Works with grandchildren! At first they lose a little sleep because they're having so much fun playing with the flashlight, but that doesn't last very long.

The other thing to do is to remind her that she *will* be sleeping in her own room, because that's what big kids do. If there is a problem the flashlight can't cope with, she may bring her pillow and blanket into your room and settle down, very quietly (without waking anyone up!), on the floor. But no screaming. Three is pretty young, but she should be able to handle that.

You can get a sage bundle from a New Age or Metaphysical shop. Burn the sage in her room making sure the smoke gets in all the corners. Tell whatever spirit is there to leave. If you do not have any shops like this in your area you can purchase it on line. Or use sage incense, if you can't fine that use the sage in the spice aisle of the grocery store.

You probably should sage the entire house. Make sure you get all the corners and closets. Start at the lowest floor (basement) open the windows and tell it to leave.

How about, you sleep in there one night or more, with her or without her.

I wouldn't force her to sleep in there.
Something is jarring her.
Poor thing.
She seems genuine in her screaming and fear.

My friend, used to say that about the house she grew up in as a child.
Some dark shadow in a corner of their home.
It was creepy, no matter what your beliefs are or not.
And my friend was telling me that, as an adult. She remembers that, still.
She didn't make it up.

Children that are very bright and sensitive do sometimes scare themselves, I also do believe that there are times when what they see is real.

Are you all religious?

My mother also always placed a blessed Cross over our bedroom doors. You can purchase a cross and ask that a Priest Bless it.

I know growing up Catholic, when ever we moved into a new home, we asked that the Priest come and bless the house. He would begin outside reciting prayers while sprinkling Holy water and as he entered each room, he again would recite prayers and sprinkle the water. .
See if this is something that could be done for your home..

There are also "spirit sticks" which the native Americans used to make. They would bundle different plants into these fat rolls and they were used to bring in good spirits and send bad ones away.. You could google them on line..

My last suggestion Is to introduce "Dream coins".. To you and me they look like quarters , but when placed under the childs pillow, these coins keep the bad dreams and bad things away at night. At about this age, we introduced our daughter to these. Months later while changing her sheets, I found a pile of coins under her pillow. When I asked her about it, she told me one night she had a really, scary dream, so she put extra dream coins under her pillow! I asked it is helped, she said "Yes, I have not had another bad dream"!

I also told her that my mom used to tell us, "when you have a bad dream. Roll over to your other side and the bad dreams will not come back.". Still works for me.

Maybe you can think of another name for them to to keep the ghosts away.

And then the moms on here taught me about "Monster Spray". place water in a squirt bottle and let her spray it wherever the scary things are in her room. You could call it Ghost spray. This will empower her to have some control.