3 Year Old All of a Sudden Does Not like 1 Sitter

I think you should end it!!!! it is very possible that the time you are away and he is alone with her she is being mean/rude/abusive with him. kids act like that usually when something is wrong, she may have scared him into not telling. I had a babysitter when I was that age who was very mean and distant. she watched one other child along with me. she would make me clean up her house while she sat and watched tv. she made me go down to the front entrance, she lived in an old weird style apartment building, and unlock the door so the mailman could get in. if i didnt do it right or if for any other reason she decided, she would make me sit on the couch facing the wall the whole day, not even let me have lunch. i didnt tell my mom at first because she always told me my mom would be so mad at me for "being bad". I say fire this K and keep your son safe and happy.

I would nicely end it. It looks like neither your son nor you are enjoying this situation.

I would let her go. If your son doesn't like her, then why keep her?

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If your child feels uncomfortable around a babysitter that is enough reason for me to end it. You are around for most of the time, but it doesn't take very long for her to be mean or abusive to him or not play with him or for them to just stop "clicking". Added in that she disrespects you in how she talks, I would nicely end it. I would see if the other 2 sitters could extend their hours 1/2 hours each to make up for the 3 hours.

My brother started hating his sitter when he was 2 yrs old and wouldn't go in her house. They stopped taking him there. Few years later they ran into her and she told them when her husband came home she'd put him in the closet b/c her husband didn't like kids.

Anything can happen, it's always best to listen to kids. My 2 yr old stopped liking her last in home babysitter last year and I stopped taking her. Apparently from what my mom said (and for some reason didn't tell me) she came in and they were holding my daughter down like a prisoner to change her diaper (really?!). I always listen to her and accommodate sitters according to her reaction to them.

I've had kids in my care for years and years on end that went through ups and downs about coming to my house. I don't know if there is any difference in the dynamic of the sitters going to you vs my kids coming to me. But I can tell you that sometimes kids that are old enough to really talk about their feelings don't know how. These moms have stayed with me and we talk it through. They almost always tell me the same thing. They ask them right out if they are afraid or if someone is being mean. They can never or will never say. Usually it passes just as quickly as it starts. Sometimes it never happens again. But some of my kids that have been with me 4-5 and almost 6 years have had 2-3 times of this.

I think that you should do what you feel best with as his parent. But I also think at the age of 3 you need to encourage him to really talk to you.

I think it's probably a personality thing. I'm not the type of provider that plays a lot one on one with the kids. Other than hugging, tickling, dancing etc. Pretending though, not so much. They hand me a phone and I'll talk on it a little bit and give it back. I feel funny pretending. I love to provide them with fun things to do, sit down and do some preschool work with them and I love to laugh at their antics. I enjoy that my kids all play together with me supervising. If someone wanted to pay me to sit with one child and play and be silly with them for a whole afternoon I'd not even know where to begin. She probably isn't fun enough for him since that's the arrangement that you have set up for him to expect.

No reason to force your child to be with someone he doesn't like or enjoy. Maybe her manerisms or energy changed. Little kids pick up on everything. I would nicely let her go and employ the other two more frequently to take her place. GL

M

If its not working then let her go.