3-Year-old: Potty Training Redux

My sister has this same exact problem with her son he is 4 and in preschool. I think that at a certinage a child should not be in "pull ups" (diapers)I tell my sister to bring him to the pottie every 20-30 min have them sit for a lil bit or untill they pee pretty soon they will get sick of this and so will you but you must be persistent, I worked at a day care for years and that is how we had to pottie train kids. Just remember you cant just do it once or twice you have to do it every day untill she relearns how to use it. One last thing i get why people say they will let you kno when there ready, but she already did i hate to say it but its just her being lazy..hope i helped and wasent to blunt have fun lol cuz its hard...(i have a 19mnth old and im dredding it cuz i already know

Hi K.,
I would suggest getting rid of the pull up and go with underware exclusively. I know she may have accidents all the time, but you are just prolonging the process, so, just deal with it for a little while, while she gets it together.
Hopefully, the preschool will be ok with it. It's the only way to fix the problem. Just hope she will get sick and tired of peeing on herself and revert back to going to the bathroom.
Good luck to you!

K. - Just a quick thought. You might want to take her to the Ped to make sure she does not have a UTI or anything... Good luck!

I took my daughter around that time to Mexico for two weeks, she stepped back as well, I've noticed that every time we take her out of her routine. She came back to normal after we got back home. I think you're doing all the right things, and that's all you can do. I'm sure she'll be back to where she was faster, once she's in her more familiar surroundings. Good luck.

Hi K.,
I also adopted a little girl (from China at 18 months old) and had trouble potty training. I developed a program with lots of visuals and made it fun so that children can be independent. It is called Potty Tots. (www.pottytots.com)
More importantly, I am wondering if your daughter could be showing signs of RAD (Reactive Attachment Disorder) My daughter was diagnosed with this because she was being defiant at a very young age. We sought professional help and got counseling to help her learn to trust us. (often times in the adoption process, children feel abandoned or do not bond or trust because they have been taken from what is familiar) In my daughter's case she was at an orphanage, a foster home and then we came to get her and only had 30 minutes to get to know her before the foster parents left. It was very traumatic for her, even at a very young age. She doesn't remember this but the effects of such a trauma remained with her. She didn't trust or want to bond with us at first. There was some anger and we didn't know why. After learning more about RAD it all made sense. She was going to be tough and independent and not bond to protect herself (all subconscious). I don't know if you are seeing any of this with your daughter, but I did want to pass this along to you if it helps.
I'd be happy to send you a potty training kit compliments of my company Potty Tots to see if it helps your daughter. You can email me at ____@____.com
Good luck!
J.

okay now i can respond..first she needs to be home on her regular potty for many months...not moving around..same surroundings...put underware on today and dont take it off...tell her to let you know when she has to go...let her pee in her pants over and over and over again..let her have accidents... just take her patiently to the potty and show her where to go and explain it after each accident..she will get it I PROMISE....its okay to do this...bring lots of clothing wherever you go and show her the potty at every location and remind her at home where she needs to go if she has to go....do not go back to pull ups or diapers ever again..this really works..it worked with my cousin's kid and it worked with mine..some people dont have the patience..I did ..and he has not had an accident since...he is 4 now...and was trained at 2 years 4 months...trust me....