I have a 2yr old little girl and she goes to daycare just 2 times a week. I picked her up one day last week and noticed only one diaper was gone, I called the daycare when I got home cause she had been there 8hrs and they told me that she goes to the potty there. They then told me that she was doing great and they only had to change her after her nap and that they had thought I had been working with her at home,which I should have been but have not yet. Anyway my problem is since this conversation with the daycare I have been working with her at home, but she will not go for me. I don't care how long I make her sit there as soon as I tell her she can get up she pees on my floor. I have taken her every hour on the hour like the daycare does but she fights me like crazy. Does anyone have any other suggestions?
Potty training is a control issue...it sounds like she is not ready to me. Have you tried buying her big girl pants? Or a reward system? I found with my son that once I put big boy pants on him if I tried switching back and forth from diapers to pants that he was stubborn and refused to go. Your issue sounds like physically she is ready, but psychologically she isn't. She is still hanging on to the last little bit of control over her life!
The key to potty training is to ALWAYS make it a good thing.
It's all about control for the child so let them take the lead and don't expect much at all now. If it's an issue for you to get her to go then it's now a bad thing for her with you. I would back off and let her do her own thing while at home and at childcare. Try again in a few weeks or so and remember to only make suggestions about going to the potty. If she says no, respect her decision and back off again. It's not uncommon for children to do things easier with someone else than with you. Plus the other children around her doing it makes her feel that she is apart of the group. My son does this with eating his food. So don't feel like it's you. I do want to stress that you keep it a positive thing other wise you can delay having her potty trained. Please also never scold her if she has an accident even if it is intentional on her part.
Best wishes,
C.
Wow! What are they doing to make her go so easily? Maybe they have suggestions or tactics that you can use at home. I know, with our son, the more we pushed him to use the toilet, the more he resisted. When we finally realized that we were stressing him about it, we backed off, and he used it on his own very well. The weird thing is that, when we were out at a restaurant or other public place, he actually WANTED to use it! lol It was like a treat for him, and he was excited about it. Kids! lol
Maybe if you just remind her how much you love her and tell her that it's okay if she doesn't use it, that will help ease any stress she may have. Also, have you tried using stickers, charts, or other incentives (bribes...lol)? What about a "Potty Party"? That was his final "push" to use it, because he LOVES parties. lol When he finally used it on his own, we threw him a "Potty Party", with a cake and two of his friends (that are potty-trained). ;) We got balloons, too, and he LOVED it! He got to pick out new underwear at the store for his present. It was GREAT!!!
My 2 yr old son goes to an in-home daycare and she gives them the opportunity to go like Brenda mentioned. He never would go until she gave all the kids a demonstration with a baby doll one day. She filled a plastic or rubber baby doll with water and gathered all the kids around to show how the baby tee tee's on the potty. Ever since then he's been going on the potty. She then implemented a "potty report" with the kids for stickers. It totally clicked for him. Good luck!
INCENTIVE!!! Put a jar of m&m's or a health alternative next to the potty. When she teetee's in the potty she gets one. Not when she goes on the floor, make sure to point out " I'm sorry you don't get a treat because you teeteed on the floor" I know you can do it next time! Good luck!
I dont have an answer but I am having the same problem and would love suggestions
I agree that it's become too much of an issue at this time and that you'll probably have to back off. Just don't talk to her about it.
At a daycare setting we have certain times that everyone goes to the bathroom....before meals, after meals, before nap and after nap, before going out to play, after coming in from play. The children are not required to succeed, but the opportunity is given to them. We don't ask if they need to go. We tell them it's time to go. It's a matter of getting them in the habit of going at first. Then when they do succeed or when they are actually ready to train and they understand the concept, you give them loads of praise...sometimes a sticker on a *potty report* to take home with each success (or to show dad when he gets home or grandma when she visits, etc). It's really very simple.
Going potty and eating are two areas where a child can gain control. The more you talk about it...harp on it....nag them...the more they will resist, as others have mentioned. The best thing is to just let it happen by habit. Don't sweat the small stuff. Your stress and anxiety over this will create problems.
Good luck...
I tried everything with my last two kiddos...they were double teaming me with anything I tried! They don't go to daycare so I was all on my own with it. I tried the whole pullup thing but soon figured out they were just using it like a diaper and nothing I was trying would keep them from doing so...
I finally just said no more pullups! I literally quit buying them. Took me about a week of a lot of accidents and washing sheets etc, but they finally got tired of it and started going. They literally cried for their pullups and that was when I realized I had just let it go too far....
Of course, I guess I should say mine were a bit older, but I sure wished I had stood my ground much sooner.
~H.
