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My daughter has been sensitive since early infancy
And I'm noticing some behavior now that's got me worried.
My daughter repeats things excessively, I know this can be
Normal for her age but for example, when I'm getting her lunch
Ready she gets into the booster seat and waits and today she
Was looking at me getting it ready saying "nap time" repeatedly
And I'm talking like 10-12 times, then I say " it's lunch time " and she says
Lunch, but I don't know why she's saying nap time. She says hi and bye over
And over and over and repeated things I ask her to do so that ill say it again
And only then will she follow the directions. She's on an independency 'craze'
She will jolt away and grunt if I try to help with anything, if I do something on
My own like flush the toilet because she didn't do it she'll point after
And say 'what happened?' Repeatedly for 5 or so minutes or unless I let her flush the toilet,
When I put a disc in the dvd player or change discs her hands are on mine 'guiding' the actions
And she won't have it any other way or it's a complete meltdown that won't end.
She's incredibly adorable and sociable and very sweet, she's also very defiant and to me
It seems like in a strange way. At the grocery store she threw
Her shoes on the floor at the checkout as a way to try and get out of
The buggy to get them because when I leaned down to get then she lost her
Mind pointing and yelling 'what happened' at the shoes because
She didn't want me picking them up, she had a 25 minute meltdown
In the car repeating 'what happened' my daughter knows no boundaries
With people and will interact with anyone with no shyness or descretion and also
Forcefully. It's hard trying to explain this....many someone might have some advice
Because I don't know what to do to help her.
Thanks so much for your replies! She is my first child and I havnt had much experienc with small kids so I guess some of this behavior just seems so strange and I often think 'this doesn't make sense!'
Lol but I think I'm expecting too much from a 2 yr old and you guys helped me realize that. I think she does test my limits big time and she's just very 'spirited' I'm going to talk to her pediatrician about the 'what happened' thing and see what I can do , it's a daily battle with that, yesterday she was throwing a ball back and forth with the neighbors son who's about 6 and she tossed it sideways so he went and got it and she just flipped out yelling ' what happened' while pointing at the ball because she wanted to get it and he was so confused and she wo u ldn't stop then he passed
Her the ball and she gasped and throw it into the street and wouldn't let anyone get it. I'll ask her doctor for any tips on how to stop this behavior.
(writing this on my phone is kinda hard theres text at the bottom I lost while writing and now I can't get at it in edit to deleate lol sorry)
throwing the ball back and forth with the neighbors kid he's about 6 , and when she threw it , it didn'
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Talk to your ped about it. Take a copy of this to him or her and ask the doc to read it. Ask about an evaluation to see if there is a real problem or if this is just a phase.
At the very least, you'd feel better. You would also get advise about how to deal with the meltdowns. At the very worst, you'll get some help and early intervention.
Good luck,
Dawn
For the most part, all this sounds pretty normal to me. Is this your first child? Only you know your daughter so it is hard for us here to tell you if something is wrong, if you have other kids and she is a lot different from them and you feel that something is 'off' with her than by all means talk to her doctor next time you go....but like I said, to me, this sounds like normal 2y/o behavior!
She is only 2.5y/o...kids this age are wanting to be VERY independent and to prove to themselves and to you, that they can do everything!
*Taking your hand and helping you guide in the DVD is SO not something to worry about, at all! Why are you concerned about that? She is trying to do it.
*Throwing her shoes on the floor in the grocery store is also SO not something to be worried about either. This shows she is using her brain and was trying to find a way to get out of the cart. Very smart! Why are you concerned about that? Just tell her 'NO, I will get your shoes, I said you were staying in the buggy'.
They also repeat themselves....often and A LOT!
*Saying Hi and Bye over and over again is also SO normal. ALL kids do this!
*Repeating what you have asked her to do before she does it is also SO not something to be worried about! You say: 'Pick up your doll'? and she says: 'Pick up my doll? Pick up my doll? Pick up my doll'? Over and over again...then you say 'Yes sweetie, pick up your doll...the one by the TV, yes, pick up your doll' and then when she does it you say 'Thank You for picking up your doll'!! She is just communicating with you! Why are you concerned about this??
Just answer her when she asks you questions and don't ever just ignore her, I do not think that is helpful, at all!
~She probably just said 'nap time' because she got confused, no biggie. My 4y/o still confuses lunch time and dinner time some times. My 6y/o still does the repetative noises (like gun noises or singing or whatever) , over and over again and we have to remind him all the time to knock it off...I swear it's like sometimes the kids have to talk or just make noise just for the simple fact that they CAN!
Lots of kids are social and not afraid to talk or interact with strangers, this is also normal...even if she is being more forceful about it than what you think is polite. Your daughter sounds smart and very social and talkative. Good for her! The meltdowns are also par for the course or age appropriate, when she has them is she tired or needing a snack? Kids this young are still learning how to process not getting everything they want, right when they want it. Don't worry about it.
A lot of this sounds normal, but I would talk to your daughter's doctor for advice and general information. The doctor might also have ideas about a playgroup or support group that you could go to where you would have contact with other moms who have kids the same age.
this is called, in technical teacher speak "testing limits" You can allow it, or you can not allow it. Those are really the two choices. I vote for not allowing it. Yes, she will tantrum. But when she says no for the 3rd time or repeats a question for the 3rd time, tell her you already answered that and if she says that same thing again you will give her a time out. Then follow through. If she repeats actions call her on it and tell her not to do or, time out. Every thing she is obsessive about, stop letting her do. Or you can let her keep doing that and she will eventually want to do that with everything and become overpowered by those routines she created.
Congratulations! You have a 2 year old!
A lot of this sounds like normal 2 y/o behavior but, if you or your pediatrician is concerned, you can always have her evaluated for any sensory issues. Good luck and don't stress :)
I second Kate! Congrats! She is officially a 2 year old!
