B.S.
I don't know if this will help you, but I do know that children like routine. I'm a mother of 3 (all grown now) and grandmother to a 3 1/2 yr. old. I had the same experience with my children and found that if I just made sure that I put them down at the same time every day they would eventually rest if not sleep-and that's exactly what I told them too. I would put them down and tell them that they didn't need to sleep but that I wanted them to "rest". I too agree with the reading to her. I read to my girls both before their naps and at bedtime. I would let them choose the book. 9 times out of 10, they were asleep within 10 minutes. I hope this helps you. My heart goes out to you because I know exactly what you're going through.