2 Year Old Emotional When Dad Drops Him Off

Hey J.,

I'm not divorced but I was wondering if maybe you could try letting him call is Dad on the phone the next time he gets upset?

Maybe (if you don't already) maybe you could give him lots of pictures of you by yourself, and his dad by himself, and then your son with each of you, and so when he begins missing one of you while with the other one, he can have something to look at while he talks to you or his dad on the phone, or draws one of you a pictures and "writes a note"....

Letting him get those feelings out is important, that way he can have a good relationship with both of you AND learn to love your new husband and not feel like you're trying to make him his new dad.

Good luck! Good for you for asking!

Congrats on the upcoming wedding...

I wouldn't bother trying to explain living arrangements to a crying 2 yr old. This is a normal stage. Each kid goes back and forth between wanting mom all the time, then dad, then back to mom. Its probably just dad's turn right now.

M.

if you are going to remarry even if he is not his real-biological dad its perfectly fine if he call him dad too because he's going to be the male role that he'll fallow in his house. Teach him to say "Daddy-Jason" so you makes sure that he's not having trouble knowing he now has 2 different dads. His real dad have to understand too that he's too young to put levels like step-dad on your new husband.....Maybe he's just confused....let Jason play the dad role in your house so he get to understand that now mommy and daddy-jason are the one living with him....

good luck

I've been through this. There is a lot going on in your home right now. You are emotional I'm sure with your wedding just a few days away. Your son can sense this, so maybe right now, Daddy is more fun, less stress. But that's ok.......He will go through these spells for along time so be prepared. And maybe not liking the step dad, no matter how great he is.
My question is this, could Dad have said something about Jason taking over for him or anything like that? That could make a difference as well.
How Dylon is with Jason will depend a lot on his father. Would your son's Daddy have an issue with Dylon calling Jason Daddy? Sometimes they slip up, and you don't want to make a huge issue out of it. If the X doesn't mind, then let Dylon call him whatever he wants......Jason, Daddy, or whatever........we didn't push for our kids to call us Mommy or Daddy.....we told them who was who. My X has been remarried many times, but, I never got mad if they called one of his wives Mom, I figured they would slip up sometimes anyway, and if they didn't know who Mom really was, that was my fault. Plus when I grew up, I called many of my good friends Moms...........Mom and they called my Mom - Mom too.
If your X does mind, then you need to come up with something easy for the son, like Jas or whatever is easy for him to say.
Congratulations on getting remarried, and I'm sure everything will be fine. Just don't confuse Dylon, be straight with him and everything will be great. Good Luck and take care.