D.S.
Hey S.,
I am not by any means a believer in hitting a child as a form of discipline. And like you without the hitting I was raised by a very strict father. I am a firm believer in consistency and consequences. Even though she may be frustrated at times with language, tired, or hungry etc. that is still not an excuse to hit anyone especially mommy. So I suggest this is not a situation for understanding and listening you must get a handle on this behavior before it gets worse. I would simply when she does hit say to her a very firm "NO" and put her into a two minute time out. When the two minutes are up you explain to her that she can not hit, give her a hug and move on. If she refuses to stay in time out just keep putting her back until she stays. I think sometimes as parents especially when we are raised by very strict parents we tend to go soft on our kids because we remember how bad we felt when disciplined as a child. However, we have to be somewhere in the middle we can't be their friends we have to guide them, and discipline them. If not they will turn into out of control teens and that is something I am sure no one wants to happen. If we can't control our children at two we will never be able to control them at 12. I would just continue to be the loving and understanding mom you are. However when it comes to misbehaving stay firm and be consistent and you will see a tremendous difference in her behavior. The only way she will learn right from wrong is from you and her daddy. Good luck!!!