C.M.
My son has never been the best sleeper. Some nights he's okay and some nights he isn't. Ever since we got rid of the pacifier, he's just not sure how to go to sleep. I've learned that the more tired he is when we lay him down (not sleeping but zoned out), the less he cares about us leaving. So we've started the 'relaxing' period. We've also moved up his bedtime because he was getting harder to get to sleep when his bedtime was later. At about 7:30, we get jammies on (after bath) and sit in the chair and rock and relax until he really wants to lay down because he just can't get comfortable on our laps. Usually this works (he still cries briefly sometimes). We lay him down in the crib and read a story or 2 and then usually he's ready to sleep. (we also have music going). It's a lot of work but it's worth it.